If you’re trying to give advice and coming up empty, that’s actually OK. “When someone we love is going through pain and sorrow, we feel pressure to have to say something, to come up with a way to make them feel better,” Habash says. But often it’s best to just listen and let them express themselves.
“They need to know that you can tolerate being with them in their pain, and that someone understands what they’re going through,” Habash says.
My sister’s eyes are sea green and deep Like pools in the Irish sea off the coast off Anglesey. Moelfre where she swam ,despite the cold, Like a small seal. Night times I told her stories, She lay and dreamed them till schooltime But we grew beyond my storytelling When adolescence broke us apart. Years later As I sat with her child At my knee, Weaving stories for her Around the Russian horse From the antique shop in Aldeburgh, I saw my sister leaning towards us, Her green eyes full of long-lost yearning. I realised she was still my loving little sister, From long, so long ago, her green eyes, In the deep caves of her inner sea ,filled with longing. I felt she wanted to get backInto the magic circleO f the arms of the mother we No longer had to hold us. So, I took her inside my open heart instead
Ulf a plant were wilting we will not drive nurse it worse “wilting-plant-syndrome” – we would change its conditions. Yet when humans are suffering under unliveable conditions, we’re told something is wrong with us, and expected to keep pushing through. To keep working and producing, without acknowledging our hurt.
In efforts to destigmatise mental distress, “mental illness” is framed as an “illness like any other” – rooted in supposedly flawed brain chemistry. In reality, recent research concluded that depression is not caused by a chemical imbalance of the brain. Ironically, suggesting we have a broken brain for life increases stigma and disempowerment
InThe UK could learn a lot from liberation psychology. Founded in the 1980s by the Salvadorian activist and psychologist Ignacio Martín Baró, it argues that we cannot isolate “mental health problems” from our broader societal structures. Suffering
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I have always believed in folding tablets for ease of taking up the mountain if you have any new comments to give to me.on my blog.
And Microsoft latest laptop come drawing tablet will help me to outdo my enemies and send them all to Coventry.
Touch me touch me with your hands oh lord because all this modern technology is turning me into a robot. I need some skin to skin contact all the more so since I’ve been off the sized I most of my friends. Am I missing something is there a message I’m not there?
Dear Lord it’s time for me to drink my tea and finish my expressions of gratitude. And please tell the Pope not to excommunicate me yet because I am Jewish and I go to the local synagogue just like Jesus so I don’t think that the Pope can touch me though I would like some human search preferably women or men with great feelings and generosity anybody at all understand perspective and different points of view lead to different views of the place in front of you. Give me the grace to follow now my own advice 4 otherwise it may be totally wasted which will be very sad in my room anyway and I think I’m right today but I will check up in the morning he
Lightning strikes near the town of Searchlight, Nevada as the first storm of the season passes through the western deserts of the United States in the early hours of June 8, 2006. (REUTERS/Gene Blevins)
Sanah Ahsan’s Journey of Self-love Through Therapy and Spoken Word
Sanah Ahsan
“There’s lots of stuff I’m doing actually. I’m trying to think about things that might be more interesting,” says Sanah Ahsan in a coffee shop in London’s Edgware district. She’s talking about using poetry and therapy to help develop a community space for queer women of color and the work is already interesting. In a conversation that acts as a process for untangling the intertwined threads of Ahsan’s life and career, the psychologist, spoken word poet and activist examines the path that led her to become the inspiration she is today.Sanah Ahsan Spoken word poet and psychologistSocial Media: instagram
Ahsan’s personal experiences with the UK mental health system made her realize at a young age that she wanted to be a psychologist. As she was going through therapy in her teenage years, she found it hard to communicate the complexities of her culture to the predominantly white, middle class therapists assigned to help her.
A pain awoke me from my sleep, Inside my soul there was a gap. I tried to make it disappear; To write it off my map.
But still the ache persisted, I tried hard to forget. Then I sat down in my garden chair, And stayed with my upset
.The sun may shine, the birds may sing But that to me no pleasure brings Because of my regret..
As I sat still upon my chair To me three Angels did appear, And they are with me yet, They took my heart into their care, With golden threads they are sewing there, Until the work’s complete.My task is, here, to sit quite still, And let God’s angels do His Will, As I sit at His Feet.aaThe first personaa
Think of some activities which make YOU feel relaxed. Not everyone will find the same things relaxing. Then try and make sure you do one or two of them at least a few times a week. Here are 10 ideas for things which we have found are relaxing and which might help. And there are 10 more below too!
Paint something to honour your loved one. Sing Laugh Love your pet Phone a friend Dance Listen to the birds Look at the stars Watch the sunrise Just breathe
In the book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’, Susan Jeffers describes how, if we really face our fears and feel them they become less frightening and much easier to…….
Sang-froid has its place, especially during a crisis; but so does Sigmund Freud, who described the potential downside of suppressed passions. Those exhortations being directed at the president could be just as easily be turned on countless co-workers, spouses, friends (or oneself):
Lose it. Just once. See what happens.
“One reason we’re so attuned to others’ emotions is that, when it’s a real emotion, it tells us something important about what matters to that person,” said James J. Gross, a psychologist at Stanford University. When it’s suppressed or toned down, he added, “people think, damn it, you’re not like us, you don’t care about the same things we do.”
Rigorous study of what psychologists call emotion regulation is fairly new, and for obvious reasons has focused far more on untamed passions than on the domesticated variety. Runaway emotion defines many mental disorders, after all; restraint is typically associated with good mental health, from childhood through later life.
Yet social functioning is a different matter. Research in the past few years has found that people develop a variety of psychological tools to manage what they express in social situations, and those techniques often become subconscious, affecting interactions in unintended ways. The better that people understand their own patterns, the more likely they are to see why some emotionally charged interactions go awry whether from too little control or, in the president’s case, perhaps too much.
Gradually, mainline Protestantism has concentrated on the positive aspects of the Christian Faith. It has been the evangelical churches that have continued to stress the sinfulness of the human race and the need for repentance.
An old man kissed my hand outside a shop My hair was gleaming in the yellow sun Surprising action but a pleasant shock
What grace there was in customs , mainly stopped My face was bright, my stockings had no runs A man just kissed my hand outside a shop
I should have done a selfie, what a cop! I bet he fell in love ,ah Beatrice won His surprising action gave me quite a shock
He was not drunk, his hands had just been mopped I have not been so touched by anyone Till this man kissed my hand outside a shop
In a silent morning, love erupts We know what’s passed but not what is to come A man just kissed my hand outside a shop 1
Give us our applause, oh come on,clap! I think we’ve fallen off the usual map An old man kissed my hand outside a shop A pleasant greeting but it was a shock
Psychologists have suggested imagining yourself as an impenetrable grey rock when confronted with overbearing and manipulative people. The trick is to appear as uninterested, and uninteresting, as humanly possible
Come live with me and be my helpmeet now I’ll share my bed with you and how! If you let me love you I’ll darn your old gloves 4 you.. If you come and meet me brow to brow.
Come live with me and teach me all you know About poetic licence and Soho I’ll mend your vacuum cleaner And learn expressions meaner. How cheerfully the hours to come will go,
Come live with me and be my lover true Without one,how will ever I do? I’ll set up model railways And learn the Jewish weekdays Come live with me and I will sweep your flue.
Come live with me in Norway on a fjord I’ll mend my Canon Powershot if I’m bored. I’ll watch the ice flowers growing And then we must be sowing. How happy Wittgenstein’ve been if he’d have knowed.
How my heart sings 