In the year 1989 I learnt that one of my students a young woman called Heather who was married to another student was diagnosed with cancer of the bone.. she had told me in the summer term that she had a pain in her thigh.
I think I may have told them if I had surgery on my foot in 19 78 for a tumour between the bones
When we started the autumn term Heather told me that she has cancer and she was going to the Royal Marsden hospital for treatment that was the end of September l
ByChristmas time Heather has died leaving a young husband devastated
Before she got so much worse I went to see her in her flat on about the 20th floor of a tower block.
She was sitting at the table Open in front of her a text book and she show me that she waskeeping up even though she could not come to the classes.
When I was coming back from seeing heather the last time I went into Marks and Spencer’s and bought a blue coat.
I had the urge to take something in because I was going to lose someone.
It would have been more rational to give the money to Jeather who was very poor or to donate to an appropriate charity.
I remember after leaving Heather’s tower block I had to walk along the street in a very rough area and young men were swearing at me even though tears were running down my face like rain.
But Heather had never complained about that. But I realise why she had bought a dog
If I had not bought the blue coat I suppose I would have forgotten about it but we don’t know do we ?
Why not buy yourself a brand new winter coat in your favourite colour even if you already have 10 winter coats
And since the autumn is coming on why don’t we subscribw to our favourite magazines as the weather gets bad and we can’t get out to the newsagents to buy them.
Doesn’t every woman deserve some new new leather boots for the winter even if it never snows where she lives.
Why bother to go shopping stock up your food cupboard or fridge when you can order a takeaway delivered to your door every evening?
Oh maybe one of your friends would like to eat in restaurant with you. You can pay with your credit card.
Why not start the academic year with a new watch so that you get to the lecture room on time and don’t take the students waiting.
If you work in an office that’s a reason to buy a new watch
Your sister will need one too.Buy online and have it delivered. You need to show how much you love her and you can’t see how to do it without spending a lot of money
Because everybody else including your sister will buy one and you can get some with red straps and red faces that will keep winter depression at bay. Though it might bring on panic disorder when you get new credit card bill and then you have to pay a therapist to help you with your depression
Then you might think why am I wasting money on the cheap therapist when I can spend 10 years in 4 times a week Freudian psycho analysis. That will help me to get to the bottom of why do I waste money on things I don’t need and it will also make me bankrupt at the same time
Why should we want to wear a certain kind of clothing just because some famous person wears it?
Perhaps you don’t have any ideas of your own about what you’d like to wear. But these people may not have chosen the clothes themselves. They may be being paid to wear them by some firm or designer. They may not even like them
So stop looking at other people Do you not know what you like?
You may like to think about a few relevant possibilities.
For myself I like to wear colours that appeal to me I like blue. I used to like very bright colours and I still do up to a point. Does colour matter to you you?
Then wear muted colours such as grey especially if you are going out. Initial muted colour
Do you like to be inconspicuous in the street?
If it does not you could dress ini black or another neutral colour. Some people do this anyway because it makes life simpler. Other people wear just two or three colours like beige black and light cream.
Restricting the colours to two or three means that you will never have a problem matching clothes together
Similarly do you like prints and patterns or plain colours? It’s much easier if you leave out prints. You can get a scarf which has several colours in if you feel that would be fun to wear.
You need some shoes. You will probably already have got these but they should not clash with your clothing colours
Di you u fancy wearing bright red shoes and you know that’s what you want regardless of what other people wear ? Choose what you want
If you are are living on a small income you may not be able to wear exactly what you want but you can get near it.
If you have got clothes and you hate them, sell them on eBay or give them for charity
Save the money I’m sure you’ll find something you like later.
You don’t have to dress in avway that is dictated to you.
It’s better to enjoy your own choices f you have no interest in clothes just buy things in one colour and forget about it
Or go to charity shops and see if you can find something more interesting add to your very simple and plain outfits
We should try to enjoy as much of life as we can whether it is having good friends finding a job that we like or simply having fun bwith our clothing.