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Shall we no longer sing
No longest smile
Because one day we’ll die
For we’re fragile?
Shall we no longer run
Beside the sea?
Shall we no longer kiss
Beneath the trees?
While still we live
Let’s loving be
Let’s not protect a heart
With metal walls
For we must feel
And learn it all
The wedding feast is here
Oh look and see
The Union of allies
Come let’s agree
The pain is always there
But there is more
Children playing out
on the sea shore
Little faces
Little Hands
Little waves
Joyous sounds
The sun will rise again
The day will flee
Joy and woe are
Always free
A cup of roses
Cup of grace
Wait in the void
For love to tasre
Here are several steps that can help you become more emotionally intelligent when dealing with defensive people:
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/insight-is-2020/202109/why-some-people-can-get-so-defensive
Getting defensive can take many different forms, including verbal attacks, denial (denying what has been said), fabrication (outright lying), avoidance (not allowing any discussion on the matter), gaslighting (e.g., calling the other person “crazy” or suggesting something is wrong with the other person) and others.
At their root, all defensive behaviors have this in common: sending a message to the other person that what the person is saying is wrong or a problem. What’s more, the message is that the person is “out of line” (authoritarian punishment language) for addressing them or attempting to hold them accountable for something in the first place. The takeaway message is that such confrontation — as fair or appropriate as it may be — is unacceptable and will not be allowed.
Defensive individuals often have control and power issues, and perceive anyone confronting them or holding them accountable
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If you’re trying to give advice and coming up empty, that’s actually OK. “When someone we love is going through pain and sorrow, we feel pressure to have to say something, to come up with a way to make them feel better,” Habash says. But often it’s best to just listen and let them express themselves.
“They need to know that you can tolerate being with them in their pain, and that someone understands what they’re going through,” Habash says.
My sister’s eyes are sea green and deep
Like pools in the Irish sea off the coast off Anglesey.
Moelfre where she swam ,despite the cold,
Like a small seal.
Night times I told her stories,
She lay and dreamed them till schooltime
But we grew beyond my storytelling
When adolescence broke us apart.
Years later
As I sat with her child
At my knee,
Weaving stories for her
Around the Russian horse
From the antique shop in Aldeburgh,
I saw my sister leaning towards us,
Her green eyes full of long-lost yearning.
I realised she was still my loving little sister,
From long, so long ago, her green eyes,
In the deep caves of her inner sea ,filled with longing.
I felt she wanted to get backInto the magic circleO
f the arms of the mother we
No longer had to hold us.
So, I took her inside my open heart instead
Ulf a plant were wilting we will not drive nurse it worse “wilting-plant-syndrome” – we would change its conditions. Yet when humans are suffering under unliveable conditions, we’re told something is wrong with us, and expected to keep pushing through. To keep working and producing, without acknowledging our hurt.
In efforts to destigmatise mental distress, “mental illness” is framed as an “illness like any other” – rooted in supposedly flawed brain chemistry. In reality, recent research concluded that depression is not caused by a chemical imbalance of the brain. Ironically, suggesting we have a broken brain for life increases stigma and disempowerment
It is here that we fail marginalised people the most: Black people’s understandable expressions of hurt at living in a structurally racist society are too often medicalised, labelled dangerous and met with violence under the guise of “care”. Black people are more likely to be Tasered, sectioned, restrained and over-medicated than anyone else in our mental health services today.
InThe UK could learn a lot from liberation psychology. Founded in the 1980s by the Salvadorian activist and psychologist Ignacio Martín Baró, it argues that we cannot isolate “mental health problems” from our broader societal structures. Suffering
I haven’t got the energy for grief.
The bag of tears cracked, now it’s overdry
Is a conversation a relief?
Or is it better just to sit as a sigh?
If only all my bones would turn to dust
And I could join the compost on the heap.
Or would the cruel jackals feel disgust?
I might as well expect the slow worm leap.
Take away my heart for it is pained
I can live without it if I choose
But do not live on me with your disdain
One day you might walk in these my shoes
For what is self reflects the other’s soul.
Grief and sadness, love, may make us whole
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17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.