Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.
C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain
Suffering and pain
We used to think we were doing God a favour by going to church on Sunday.
As if God were an elderly relative that we felt we had to see but we didn’t enjoy it much
Do you think God gets depressed because we don’t go to church?
That is so funny
Do you think God wants us to build all those cathedrals but never stop having wars?
Did God not mind when the poor were hurt more and more?
99% of the time we are thinking about it ourselves or our family and we don’t really think about other people. Even therapists after spending years trying to break out of complete egocentricity found it was all a mistake.
But in the the right circumstances and in the right attitudes of the heart a crack might openb the shell that protects us from others and their demands and the light might shine In give us a glimpse of eternity which is always here: it is outside time.
The rituals on Sunday morning might give someone a chance to find his crack. But is that was so it will be that person who benefited not God
Even if there is no god, that little crack sharing the way eternity is still there.
Because the real god is far away hiding from the monstrous wars and cruelty of the modern world
Those I thought were friends now slide away
Hiding in the shadows with no light
No mirror can reflect the sun today
Maybe it’s my eyes that cannot see
Blinded by the shock of what I read.
I thought that we were lovers you and me
The looks and glances, what you nearly said.
As for all the others let them lie.
I shall not hear their words my ears are shut
My heart has shrunk, and slow the time goes by
I feel the knife blade but I cannot cut.
Do not cast your friends off with no word.
We do not like to feel the world’s absurd
https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/denial-in-psychology.htm
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Denial in Psychology- Are You Using This Defence Mechanism?Last reviewed by Sheri JacobsonJuly 12, 2018Anxiety & stress, Counselling By: Alastair Gilfillan Denial in psychology originates from psychoanalytic theory and its ideas about ‘defence mechanisms‘. What are defence mechanisms? Defence mechanisms are unconscious forms of self-deception we use to avoid anxiety and emotional pain, or to ensure we are ‘acceptable’ to others. Denial is a very popular defence mechanism. It is when we act as if an event, a thought, or an emotion never happened. We do this even if there is obvious evidence that it did, and often protest the opposite. An example is when we cry all the time but then tell everyone we aren’t sad. Or when we are sick every morning from drinking the night before but say we are not an alcoholic. Denial is connected to other defence mechanisms. These include repression (banning stressful things from our memories) and projection (refusing responsibility for thoughts, feelings and actions by attributing then to someone else). [Is your habit of denial making your life a mess? Really wish someone could help? Visit our sister site harleytherapy.com to book phone and Skype counselling easily and quickly, worldwide.] So if someone I know won’t see the truth, they are in denial? It would be easy here to say denial is about denying ‘the truth’. But ‘truth’ is actually a perspective. If two people, for example, at the same meal, one might say it was amazing, the other that it was terrible. So denial is more about avoiding facts and outcomes. It would be denying that the meal was caloric and might lead to weight gain, or claiming, even against strict doctors orders against its ingredients, that ‘it can’t hurt’. But aren’t we all in denial? By: Duncan Hull 🐝 As a Western society we practise mass denial. We live our lives as if all is fine when we are taking actions that damage the environment and when other countries are at war. This article, however, focuses on personal denial over societal denial. The different forms of denial in psychology In its purest form of ‘simple denial’ , the process of denial is unconscious. The person using denial really has convinced themselves of the opposite to what the facts say and what everyone else tells them. They have ‘turned a blind eye’, as the saying goes. An example of simple denial would be the partner of an alcoholic who truly
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Oh God Have mercy on this island now.
We don’t know when to curtsey when to bow.
Eternal all the stars will shine at night
I’d rather have my husband and some light.
The requiem mass is beautiful I feel
Apart from these old symbols
What is real?
I don’t like the cemetery or church.
If I drink this whisky I will lurch.
What’s the point of flowers for the dead.
Send us letters they will all be read.
We must look strong are we will offence
It may be true but it don’t make no sense.
If we cry we get no comfort now
We will get no milk from any cow.
This is an interesting article about how acceptance is so important for us in order to live the best way we can. when we have problems,neuroses,illnesses etc.This website,The Negative Psychologist is one I came upon when reading a blog on WordPress.
http://www.thenegativepsychologist.com/2013/02/acceptance/
Aa I want someone to hold me me hold me tight
I want someone to hold me in the long hours of the night
The shelter of your presence the shelter of your arms
Hold me hold me darling give me peace and calm
I feel like I’m a baby thrown cruely from my nest
Or I’m a little suckling torn cruelly from the breast
Don’t leave me here without you for I don’t want to stay.
My legs have turned to jelly my heart beats in dismay.
The first loss is the mother and her sheltering gaze
We must turn and walk alone though our hearts are flayed
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/14/well/family/empty-nest-pandemic.html
All joking aside, Ms. Woodard said that working-class parents may feel a child’s absence even more acutely. “Their house or apartment is smaller, so the kid’s presence is missed more,” she said. “Also, working-class parents probably raised that kid on their own.”
Regardless of the factors when a household is decanted of its young people, it’s clear that kids who leave their home need a lot of room to grow in, and that parents need to hone their listening skills.
Once, when Ms. Coburn asked a Washington
How my heart sings 