If you let me love you

Come live with me and be my helpmeet now
I’ll share my bed with you and how!
If you let me love you
I’ll darn your old gloves 4 you..
If you come and meet me brow to brow.

Come live with me and teach me all you know
About poetic licence and Soho
I’ll mend your vacuum cleaner
And learn expressions meaner.
How cheerfully the hours to come will go,

Come live with me and be my lover true
Without one,how will ever I do?
I’ll set up model railways
And learn the Jewish weekdays
Come live with me and I will sweep your flue.

Come live with me in Norway on a fjord
I’ll mend my Canon Powershot if I’m bored.
I’ll watch the ice flowers growing
And then we must be sowing.
How happy Wittgenstein’ve been if he’d have knowed.

I wish I were Whitby by your side

I wish I were at Whitby by your side
From the Abbey Steps we saw the.whole
The sound of gulls aswirling round our minds

The atmosphere of Yorkshire blunt and kind
Salty air,the North Sea,winds that groan
I wish I were at Whitby by your side

See the children taking donkey rides
The fishermen look anxious , happy, worn,
The sound of gulls is swirling round my mind

From Saltburn,Staithes to Bempton bold cliffs rise
Then Bridlingon where Hockney was a boy
I wish I were at any by your side

The two weeks break seemed long when we arrived
Now all my past seems like an old map torn
The sound of gulls is calling you to mind

To be in Whitby is to be alone
The pie shop’s open yet I feel forlorn
I wish we were at Whitby side by side
The sun and air, I dream into your mind

Guilt

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Have you been feeling guilty lately?

For many people, this powerful emotion has become especially prevalent during the pandemic. There is guilt over surviving Covid-19 when family members or friends did not; guilt over potentially exposing other people to the virus; guilt about the distance we have had to maintain from those we care about most.

Have you been feeling guilty lately?

For many people, this powerful emotion has become especially prevalent during the pandemic. There is guilt over surviving Covid-19 when family members or friends did not; guilt over potentially exposing other people to the virus; guilt about the distance we have had to maintain from those we care about most.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/23/well/mind/guilt-covid-pandemic.html

Not guilty

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/20/well/live/dont-take-osteoarthritis-lying-down.html

One of the biggest mistakes people make with arthritis is to limit movement of the affected joint, which leads to stiffness and weakness that only makes matters worse. The resulting decline in neuromuscular function, especially balance and walking speed, is a major risk factor for falls and fall injuries that too often lead to costly hip replacements and lasting disability.

national survey in 2012 by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that among people with arthritis, the prevalence of two or more falls during the previous year was 137 percent higher and of fall injuries 149 percent higher than among their age mates without arthritis.

In 2011, osteoarthritis accounted for 95 percent of the 757,000 total knee replacements and 80 percent of the 512,000 total hip replacements in this country, the United States Bone and Joint Initiative has reported.

Imagine meeting

When I imagine meeting you I feel it in my breath

My breathing alters

It must be excitement

I feel it in my inner arms and the tender place of the inner wrist

I feel it in my hands and fingers

I want to touch you

I want to see you.

My arm’s reach out as if to hold you

Where are you?

It hurts me not to see you

It hurts me not to feel you

It hurts me that I cannot touch your body

It hurts me that I cannot touch your face

Your ears were always warm

Where are you now when I’m alone?

Don’t ask these questions it is too painful.

But more painful still is that I cannot see you

Except in photographs

The visual cannot substitute for the sensual

It’s my hands that want you

My eye is not sensual the wat5 hands are

I want my cells t I’m ino touch your cells.

Were we not one ?

Oh love, can you be gone?

How to write a memoir when you are an older person

https://www.writermag.com/improve-your-writing/nonfiction/tips-older-writers-memoir/

Regardless of the reasons that lead you to the starting line, there are several myths about writing a memoir that can deter older writers from sharing their stories. In my six years of teaching community college memoir classes geared toward older adults, I have seen many concerns brought up by my students each semester. Many believe that their lives aren’t “book worthy” or that younger generations won’t be interested in reading about their experiences. Others find it hard to select a starting point or can’t decide a theme to settle on. Plenty worry about what family or friends will think when they hear about secret pasts.

Often, the apprehensions or worries about writing come up before the students even connect pen to paper. The sheer magnitude of these worries has kept some from enjoying the process of sharing their stories. While writing memoir can certainly challenge writers emotionally and creatively, the process does not need to be grueling or intimidating. Here are the most common issues I hear from my students, along with encouraging tips to keep you moving forward.

I suggest keeping a notebook and jotting memories and story ideas down as they come up. However, I encourage memoirists NOT to consult with family about how certain incidents played out while they have work in progress. While asking family about factual things like addresses, birthdays or anniversaries, or the name of a wacky distant relative can be helpful during the writing process, memories or interpretation of events can vary wildly from person to person. Chances are, no two people will have the same memory of an incident, and this can often confuse or sway the memory of the writer.Advertisementhttps://63d8384efa956621ceab1887762ead20.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html?n=0

Is Emile a dog?

Mary was looking at the carpet in the hall.

Look at this carpet,she said to Emile

I can see your poor marks all over it

Yes I trod in some red paint that someone has spilled on the pavement.

I think I will have to get you some shoes said Mary but you can take them off when you go in the back garden.

Do you mean we’ll have to go to the shops to buy me some shoes said Emile hopefully

I don’t know. If I went to a toy shop they might have some dolls wearing plastic shoes.

I don’t want plastic shoes the cat responded angrily.

My feet need to be able to breathe

So you would like leather shoes will you Emile?

The only alternative seem to be Wellington boots.

But do they make Wellington boots small enough for cats?

I don’t know the cat said wisely

Well if you would only learn to read you could look on the computer yourself.

It goes against my wilder nature to learn to read.

Well Mary said do you believe that I have no wilder nature ?

I believe you did at one time but I haven’t seen much evidence of it recently

That’s because Stan is dead, she shouted.

That would not bother a cat,

Well you may not have noticed but I am not a cat. And if you’re so pretty and wild, love me love me do

Don’t be so ridiculous. I am too small to make love to you.

You could run up and down my spine with Algipan on your feet

I’d rather wear perfume on my feet and run up your bosom.

Naughty cat, bestiality is not allowed in Britain.

Well don’t tell anybody about it. It’s not real bestiality just running up your body with perfume on my feet.

Well it’s something that no human being could do without seriously injuring me.

So you see there could be an advantage to marrying the cat

Yes my love I do love you very much Emile but I would really like a man as well as you and maybe you could find a lady cat that you could marry then we can all live in this house together then you and your wife could have some kittens

I’ll have to see who the man us before I agree to that. He might not like cats.

Is that case I should tell him you are a dog.

And so say all of us.

Round the bend

The Wash, Lincolnshire, England | Images of england, Lincolnshire, England




Oh,Mary is in horrid pain
It’s her sciatica again.
No pills can cure but nettles might
She will roll in them tonight
Emile is aware of this
He gives her a loving kiss


Emile, I’ve told you it’s not done
To kiss your mother though in fun
What would Stan think,were he here
Drinking from a can of beer?
What would Annie think of this?
Go, give her a big wet kiss

Oh,mother I might bite her lip
As my teeth are made to nip
Take my emery board and smooth
Your pointed teeth and any grooves
Can I use Stan’s old toothbrush
No, I threw it in the Wash

Maybe seals will use it there
Send them combs and do not swear
I did not mean to curse again
My back is aching,I’ve no pluck
Mother, dearest, don’t say fuck

Well, that’s Irish, it’s ok
The Catholics wlil offer prayers
I pray too for all my friends
Those bereaved or round the bend
Do you mean those who see ghosts ?
Maybe it’s the heavenly Host

As long as you look clean and neat
Noone will see your hooves or feet
Noone will know you see and hear
Emissaries from other spheres.
Don’t meet eyes nor stare at men
And always write with a good pen

You may be in another realm
Dave can see you’r overwhelmed
He will pat your head this day
For this he gets his kicks and pay
When you feel yourself again
See it you can spot old Stan


Where is Annie,Mary’s friend?
Where the Spirit which descends
Where are our neighbours whom we love?
Singing with the turtle dove
All the Saints will chant along
As Jesus sings his ancient songs

Spirits rise and Love is here
Drinking in the atmospher
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My theory about shyness

I think that shy cautious people may be more like this is survive in many environments but older people are more likely nto have children because they will find it easier to look for mates But you only need one mate to have a child and in our society sex is mainly a form of reparation since contraception is easily available. So the bold may not have any more children than the shy.

and the most sexual partners you have the more likely you are to have sexually transmitted diseases. That might be the reason why extroverts might die young.

OkPhoto by Anni Roenkae

Don’t Be Shy – The New York Times

https://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/04/education/edlife/reticence.html

It seems from reading this article that most of us would rather have a brain scan then go to a party and talk to strangers. Does shyness have survival value?

Just based on my own experiences I think shyness does have survival value.

Most animals only mix with their own family groupings.

They don’t drive about in cars nor go on holidays nor go to parties.

And if you’re not part of their clan they might attack you or eat you.

and when you go to a big party when you don’t know the guests there maybe some people there who are not trustworthy.

But we shouldn’t let shyness stop us altogether from mixing with people. We no longer live in clans or tribes so we have to construct one for ourselves but especially big cities we need to do it through connections at work or connections of our friends and neighbours or classes that we go to for art or music. In a class you can get to know people enough to judge them. They can also be very amusing as in my art class the best students have a low opinion of their work and the worst students sometimes ask the teacher how much they should get for their paintings when they sell them.

Being confident is not always based on realistic achievement so talents.

Ok just have value because confident people are more willing to try new things and are less afraid of being criticised So perhaps we can pretend to be confident especially in the context of going to classes. It’s not the end of the world if your drawing looks horrible. In fact some people might buy it because it’s so horrible whereas little sweet pretty pictures are all too common and we don’t want them anymore. Except ob birthday cards