https://whatsyourgrief.com/grieving-someone-you-didnt-like/
This is a rarely mentioned topic.
We may be feeling distressed because we hoped that our relationship would get better but if they’re die before that happens that can be very sad.
This sort of relationship seems more common in siblings and other family connections it can be extremely painful
Perhaps you dud once h
ave have a good relationship
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/07/well/mind/mindfulness-practice-doomscrolling.amp.html
If you try to avoid your feelings, they will get more intense, said Melanie Harned, a psychologist with the VA Puget Sound Health Care System and the author of “Treating Trauma in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.” When you’re emotionally affected by a news story, take a moment to notice what you’re thinking, doing and feeling in your body. Choose what would be most helpful in the moment — whether that’s creating a window to feel your emotions for a few minutes, without trying to change them, or, if you’re in the middle of a pressing task, plan to revisit painful news at a time you can grieve.
One way to improve your ability to sit with emotions is to remember that they can quickly fluctuate. An exercise that helps my clients to stop worrying about getting stuck in their feelings is to watch several br
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/31/well/mind/anticipation-happiness.html
Anticipating a smattering of small, delightful experiences can be as enjoyable as looking forward to one big event, said Carrie L. Wyland, a social psychologist at Tulane University in New Orleans.
If your waters on a meter
It won’t make tea that tastes much sweeter
Reading your electric bill
Before you do,do please write your will
The only good thing at this time
We are all worried just the same.
United by the the woes and angst
For each other let’s give thanks,
New York Times article: Shyness: Evolutionary Tactic?
believe, along with many emotion theorists, that shyness is a basic human emotion, a blend of fear and interest, that we all experience. I also think that because human vulnerability is finally becoming a topic that is more openly discussed in the U.S., and because we are beginning to accept the idea that we all are shy sometimes, particularly when things are important to us, and that we cannot be intimate if we are not vulnerable, that we all may begin to be able to disarm and truly value and appreciate each other.
Have a good day!
She has decided to enter an uncaring home because it reminds her of the convent school she went to.
At least the old people are not
Expected to whip themselves daily.
But they are allowed to scream.
After 3 months they are encouraged to clean their teeth
Because of the lack of rain the shower weekly rather than daily
They may have dementia but they won’t admit it because they don’t know.
She said she forgot to take her reading glasses but she reads the writing on the wall.
Some people see writing on the ceiling because they’re lying down all day
In a place like that you might be better off if you are illiterate
https://www.nytimes.com/guides/well/how-to-deal-with-stress
It’s all good
With stress, the mind and the body are intrinsically linked. You can view stress as something that is wreaking havoc on your body (and it can) or as something that is giving you the strength and energy to overcome adversity. Here’s a quick way to think about these two very different views of stress. Read the statement, and then think about your own reaction
My friend did not like algebra
She did not like the letters
When she wrote in capitals teacher said that’s wrong.
And when she felt like humming she hummed a little song
The teacher said it’s very rude
To sing before your betters
I don’t mind if they sing first my friend said with a smile
I think you did not interpret me the way that I intended.
Yet mother often used to say least said is soonest mended.
Oh do say more the child cried out, go an extra mile.
The teacher soon got very shy her face was red as beet.
She asked herself what have I done this child has won the match.
Be quiet she called I heard the news and I know there’s a catch.
Rishi Sunak won the draw and I think he’s quite neat
The headmaster was passing by walking on his feet.
He turned his head and looked right in the children all turned pale
it’s very hot today he cried
How would you like some ale?
When he looked into the room he saw a flock of sheep.
Oh mother Mary Jesus Christ am I going mad?
The picture on the wall glared down, a ram came to the door
but when he trying to look again he counted 44
He fell upon his knees and prayed, the sheep called,
Kiss off,Dad
One thing that’s been hard with the pandemic is that we’ve lost the future, in a sense,” Erin Westgate, an assistant professor of psychology
How to harass yourself and others without really trying.
How to lower your IQ in one week.
How to look as if you are meditating and other useful deceits.
How to study mathematics and become very trying.
How to commit venial sins more easily on Friday night.
Other useful tips to prepare yourself for Saturday night confession.
How to seem sincere and apply venomous tricks
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/30/well/mind/mental-health-advice-2022.html
In the hierarchy of human suffering during the pandemic, a canceled prom or vacation or lost time with grandchildren may not sound like much, but mental health experts say that all loss needs to be acknowledged and grieved. We need to give ourselves permission to mourn, Tara Parker-Pope wrote in an article about disenfranchised grief. “Once you accept that your grief is real, there are steps you can take to help you cope,” she said. “Consider planting a tree, for example, or finding an item that represents your loss, like canceled airline tickets or a wedding invitation, and burying it.”
Read the full story:
It’s OK to Grieve for the Small Losses of a Lost Year
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/16/well/mind/how-to-harness-your-anxiety.html
But the less we fear anxiety and can embrace it, the more useful and helpful it can be.
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Larks declensions.
Storks intentions.
Parks redemption
Works out pensions
York’s instructions
Talk inventions
Stark state pensions
Dark Emotions
Sweet redemption
With the latest predictions of how much gas and electricity will be costing us
It may be a good time to emigrate to a hotter country.
That’s hard to believe at the moment because we don’t need any heating because it’s 28 degrees outside and rising.
It’s too hot but we can’t save that heat.
Everyone here here is getting very anxious about it. I am already in debt because of some errors in my electricity readings.
Can I take a sleeping bag to the public library?
It might remind you you that during world war II a lot of people in London had t0o sleep in the underground.
At least we are not being bombed at the moment ;who can tell what will happen with Russia?
Since I lost weight my fingers have gone thin
Now my toes and feet are joining in
My red shoes are too big and fall right off
If I even try to have a cough
My wedding ring is now a size too wide
Must I marry now, I am no bride.
Maybe I could marry my own self
Although I will not bring gigantic wealthy
It will rationalise my longing for a ring.
Am I egocentric what do you think?
Mothers are familiar with bums
With bitten nipples colic in the tum
Was it for this they wore a wedding gown
Bore a heavy child without a frown
Fingers stained with nicotine and shit.
Now stir the dinner wash the baby kit
They did not know the nearness of their Doom
In the haystacks sunny afternoon .
Father in the coal mine black with dust
The tin bath waiting mother filled with lust.
There has to be a cat before the fire
A blackened kettle bows,it’s Lancashire.
Tea that makes your hair curl help them on.
They stumble up the stairs to bed again
What’s satire to the rich with their plum tones
Is near the truth, the rickets in the bone
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/10/well/mind/coping-with-anxiety.html
My view is that life is always uncertain as another young person in my extended family Ihas been diagnosed with cancer. But you can shut these things out and carry on with our work and life but now there is so many things happening that we get overwhelmed but we are still better off than most of the people in the world and than our ancestors. In this country we still have the NHS but it’s taking longer to getsmv things done because of covid-19 Katherine
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This week, the American Psychological Association reported the results of its annual Stress in America Survey. Worries about Russia’s invasion of Ukraine and global uncertainty were high on the list. Psychologists say that nobody should be shamed or feel guilty for feeling anxious. People with anxiety who have been triggered by world events should seek support and counseling. Medications may also be prescribed to help people manage anxiety.
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It pleases me to see an ancient wall.
Inside the garden hear the blackbirds call.
How we we used to sit there in the sun.
I sit here waiting but you cannot come
For your time on earth has now been done
Not a prison sentence not locked up.
I said goodbye with kisses on your lips.
I still feel your presence in the night.
I can feel your warm just by my side
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I didn’t know where
where
he had gone
where had he gone?
The call came.:
call came….
Man,white,good health
Has died.
Has died alone
Died alone in an hotel room.
So a stranger would find him.
Man alone;
man alone in hotel room.
there was a man
alone
in his hotel room.
Not wanting to be any trouble.
trouble,no trouble alone
in his hotel room
not his room,you see.
not a shared room…
An hotel room.
Tall man with light brown hair
alone in a small hotel room
with no TV.
We had no smartphones
Smart
Phones
No,don’t tell , not me ,not yet.
Not me.
He was all alone.
He was behind glass
glass walls
windows
a window of glass.
I could never touch him.
I could not touch him.
not touch,no,never,
Man alone.
Solitary man.
Tall man with brown hair.
Beds for love
Beds for leaving.
Don’t you die alone
in that hotel room.
Don’t die
Don’t go
You wanted to be alone,
I thought…
you were
afraid to feel.
Thin skinned and pale like a torn petal from a wild plant.
You were alone again
And you left me all alone;
alone without you.
Now I’m alone
in my hotel room.
my room.
Someone knocks.
I’m dreaming of you
wishing you were near me.
dreaming,wishing,
lonely for you.
He was all alone,they said.
In an hotel room.
His doom
In a lonely bedroom.
Don’t leave me yet.
Yet you were never here
behind your window
I see you
but can’t touch you.
Can’t touch you.
Can’t touch.
Touch me.
Touch me again.
Love me…
You were all alone
alone.
Why did I not break the glass?
Break the glass;
The glass.
Touch me again
Don’t leave me.
Irregular motions of the flesh
Bring them here to have them blessed
Impure thoughts do you have too few?
Boris will look after you.
Are you man or are you woman?
Pick your own then zoom your cousin
You can’t have sex when you’re at school.
But go ahead and break the rules
Teachers are not very good
They sin daily as we should
If you want to go to Oxford
Don’t swear air and scream when you see breakfas
Has the penny dropped today?
Financial Times will soon decay
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Daffodil bulbs in kitty litter
Potatoes painted with mascara on a bed of noodles
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