In the NYT women are asking how to respond when men at work call them “sweetheart”
One person suggests calling them “darling” but be careful.I did that once and the man was really happy and thought I loved him.
Another time I was having lunch with some colleagues.Several left to g9 to q meeting.The man remaining then said
I want to have an affair with you.My wife said she doesn’t mind
I nearly fell off my chair.He was a very nice person and I just pointed out that I was married.
It seemed strange though to come out so bluntly.Did I somehow give the impression I was wanting lovers? There’s no point even thinking as there could be a million reasons.But that approach is a bit strange even if I were looking for someone.It can happen more easily on blogs but only once to me where I got a message saying,I know you love me!
Well, it was news to me.Then the blogsite closed down.I didn’t do it.The owners got fed up.
How my heart speaks 
“I want to have an affair with you.My wife said she doesn’t mind”
I rather admire that direct approach, although I would want to question the second sentence.
Well, he was a really,really kind man and never would have hurt a fly.So maybe his wife wanted t reward him.But I didn’t feel in the mood.I was going to wash my briefcase.