https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/25/well/mind/stress-money-relationships.html

The eye is not a camera taking shots
Our mind affects the aspect we perceive
And what it feels important it allots
Gives grace or hatred ,causes us to grieve.

When we are afraid ,we see the worst
We see disgrace or ruin as our fate
As if our self for horror has a thirst
So all the little details we collate

Yet when we love we see before us joy
The flowers sing, the birds dance in the air
We see no evil nor with hatred toy
All aspects of our world appear more fair.

We see not what is there,we see our self
To learn ,we must employ our own mind’s wealth

Hello hello she moans and then she screams

She wants the nurse to come she’s had bad dreams

She overdoes the calling ,makes them mad.

She wants to see her mother or her dad.

But now she’s 94 nobody’s left

She still looks from South to East to West.

Let’s go home she whispers to herself.

Oh,where is home when she has little wealth?

The husband’s dead her daughter sadly too.

T1he Carers have no time, what can she do ?

She thinks another lady fancies men

she envies her then envies her again

What about the man who barks and quacks?

What pointed grief what torture rushes back?

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These modern lepers lack Lord Jesus touch

The old the blind the deaf no longer rich.

Dementia is an illness cruelly taxed.

They have to sell their houses that’s a fact.

If you’re ill where is the NHS?

Old and weak be frightened, know the rest

Pain is a flooded river running through my house

Pain is a storm that blows off my roof

Pain is a bite from an invisible lion

Pain makes a wound which never heals

but you don’t have to pick it and rip your own flesh

Pailn brings forth children

If it’s a bullet it’s death

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I was thinking about pain I have met several people who have chronic pain and it causes them to change their way of life

lThen I read the language that we use to talk about pain has a big affect on our experience of the pain. If we say if its unfair that we have chronic pain

that tends to make it seem worse.What meaning can we give to fairness ?

Why do we think that the world is fair?

Someone I know lost his belief in God because his best friend and his wife both had cancer and his best friend has died

Millions of people died in the Holocaust and Jewish people certainly stop believing in God.

Do we at some level expect there to help those we love alive?

It’s very painful to learn that it’s not only people far away from us who are suffering but people near us people ,we love

So when one or two people close to you become ill you become very distressed and you want to focus your anger onto something and I suppose that God if smeone that you could choose to be angry with.

I myself have been into churches to tell God I hated him after a suicide I hated him affected

When you get older you realise that a lot of people commit suicide and more men than women and that the kind of society we live in or the kind of world we live in is not always one that will benefit the people living in it especially the poor and that’s not the fault of God? I’m using God in a very simple way. We feel that someone is in charge but God may have created the world but I don’t think he’s involved in all the everyday decisions that we make all that the government makes. I’m absolutely certain that God is not involved in all those decisions except through a few people there are who are trying 2 to perceive things well l&d to curb the hatred of their enemies.

we don’t like to feel that the world and also ourselves are subject to meaningless random accidents. That’s why even the suffering that many Christians endured did not make them lose their face because they believe in God and and knowing that they will go to heaven if they were executed gave are meaning to their lifehowever painful it might be lack of meaning is worse than physical suffering for many people.

so pain happens Mayve arthritis runs in your family so you’re not so surprised when you get it and it does seem wrong when you reach the point when you can’t walk or or do a lot of activities.

you may have to take up new activities.

mathematics is a very good painkiller for both mental pain and physical pain.

You could do it Open University course in mathemati is that does not appeal to you you what about a creative writing course?

You could make cakes

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I am reading an article in the times about heating costs and it seems that people with a large family could be spending a quarter of the monthly income on heating.

For smaller families it will be 20% or 1/5 of their income.

Of course when I was growing up we do not have central heating and most rooms didn’t have any heating at all.

Fire in the living room and and later my mother had a coal fire and fireplace built in the kitchen.

In the bedrooms there were fireplacesbut the only time I’m I saw a fire in the tiny fireplace was when my father was in his last year of life

Simply could not afford to use the coal

And if we wanted to use the toilet we had to go outside.

Old people keep a chamber pot under the bed if I doubt very much whether anybody nowadays would be willing to do that but it’s too expensive to have your house extended to build more bathrooms or downstairs toilet rooms.

People have borrowed money for extension and have got larger home and we are are used to keeping them warm in the winter

Using a vessel how to empty your bladder into was certainly a lot cheaper but it was hell going outside to the lavatory when it was snowing and my mother used to keep a little lamp out thereto stop it freezing up

When I was very small we did not have a toilet that flushed we had I suppose you might call a privy.

If you look down you can see the sewer

One might imagine that it would frighten children but my mother tells me that I was toilet trained and could speak before I was 1 year old.

Unfortunately I could not walk down the backyard when I was 10 months old so I was allowed to use a potty.

My older brothers were very nice. The kindly used to empty the potty over my head and I can remember that.

To help me to dry out set my hair on fire with a box of matches and know that I’m old my hair has got thinner and the part that they’re burnt looks like I’m going bald there.

No hairdresser used to mention it to it except one man who pointed to it and said pity about this isn’t it. But my hair is so thick and beautiful it didn’t really worry about

What did make me anxious was that they continued for some years to try to harm me

Even trying to make me fall out of a boat into a millpond

Oh normal behaviour for children I think

To go back to the heating question this is not the answer generally but if you wear more clothes such as wool vests and thermal leggings with wool socks it can certainly make you more comfortable but if your health does not permit you to walkc about very much because of arthritis or heart trouble or breathing difficulties it really isn’t much of a substitution for heating in a room.

death rates will rise next Winter because of that problem old people or sick people breathing in cold air is not good for us.

Sometimes people try to live in one room if they have some kind of bed or sofa bed and then just keep that one room is hot.

If you can’t afford to fill your tank with hot water because you can’t afford to put your boiler on we used to boil water in a kettle and get washed in the kitchen sink but obviously you can’t wash very much of your body in the kitchen when other people might be coming in and out so we had to have a tin bath in front of the fire and my brothers are not there are.

I knew nothing else and it was cosy by the fire

We were not as clean as people are expected to be today.

And also nowadays people expect to have a smartphone and a tablet or a laptop at least.

You need this because this is how the government the hospital the doctor etc if in touch with us during this pandemic and I think this will continue into the future.All you can do if find a cheap provider for your phone.

See Martin Lewis money expert.

Suzette Haden Elgin

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suzette_Haden_Elgin

Recognizing language that escalates

Acknowledging that there are times when escalating a conflict is the appropriate thing to do, if your ultimate goal is discussion and some kind of mutual agreement, how you bring that conflict into the open and force others to deal with it–the language you choose, the process you follow–will make or break your chances of productive engagement.

• Blaming others.
• Being over-apologetic or accommodating. “That’s okay, you just go ahead and have a good time without me.”
• Asserting one’s rights, stating one’s perspective with absolute certainty, globalizing (what’s true for me is true for everyone else).
  Everyone knows that he steals. No one has a right to talk to me like that.
• Attacking someone’s personality or morality, someone’s motivations. You knew we had a different plan yet you went ahead unilaterally just to spite everyone. That manager is out to get us. I know you meant well, dear, but you lack judgment.

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Governments want to shut down for Christmas.

To a Hindu it’s none of my business.

But Truss follows Jesus.

If only to tease us.

She will take everyone left to the cleaners

For the poor there are bills that will bankrupt

They can’t even find an NHS dentist

Advice would you give

You think you know how to live.

You’ve never held the eye of the tempest

Mathematics is often a nemesis

Whatever does it mean for pretences?

Life is so complex

Don’t mention the Tampax

We bleed without going to the dentist

Some people prefer short haired horses.

Why study Chinese for its coarseness?

We don’t know ourselves

No Santa Claus elves

You don’t even see women in corsets.

I once had a doctor called Joseph

Who was a distant relation of Moses

He was the wisest we had

But often looked sad

You remember his family was Jesus.

An Icy hands took hold of my poor heart

As if from something good I would soon part.

My neighbour sees the writing on the wall

Fears she has dementia is appalled

She sees words on the ceiling telling her

She will die and such bad thoughts will scare

She thinks I will not see her any more

Her fear comes out deluded and mishaped

She is is racked by love and then by hate

If you know that you are near the end.

Confide this anguish to your nearest friends

I want to see you one more time

I would endure that pain of loss again

Yes, I still am with you in my dreams

I’d like to know your thoughts before you died

You concentrated,focussed, that was playi

I have longed to see you one more time

I felt it was a Play we were inside

Then we’d come back home, where we have lain

We are still companions in my dreams

What of love is captured in a rhyme?

So much so called “poetry” seems inane

I still wish to see you one more time

Love is not a concept of the mind

qI need your comfort but I need in vain

We are still companions in my dreams

Now I walk alone on new terrain

I do not suffer torture, am not blamed.

I have longed to see you one

No ro.om for mourning: he’s gone out
Into the noisy glen, or stands between the stones
Of the gaunt ridge, or you’ll hear his shout
Rolling among the screes, he being a boy again.
He’ll never fail nor die
And if they laid his bones
In the wet vaults or iron sarcophagi
Of fame, he’d rise at the first summer rain
And stride across the hills to seek
His rest among the broken lands and clouds.
He was a stormy day, a granite peak
Spearing the sky; and look, about its base
Words flowing like crocuses in the hanging woods,
Blank though the dalehead and the bony face.

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Greek mythology, Hades is both the land of the dead and the god who rules there. Hades the god (who the Greeks also called Pluto) is the brother of Zeus and Poseidon, who rule the skies and the seas. The realm called Hades, where he rules with his wife Persephone, is the region under the earth, full of mineral wealth and fertility and home to dead souls. Hades today is sometimes used as a polite term for Hell (“It’s hotter than Hades in here!”).

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/Hades#:~:text=In%20Greek%20mythology%2C%20Hades%20is,the%20skies%20and%20the%20seas.

So what will you go with?

It’s a pity that we have so many organs if you want if we only had one or two organs it would be easier to look after ourselves.

Will it be your heart or your lungs your liver your kidneys youbrain

If we had a so few organs we would not presume to be human.

So that’s no good is it?

The more complex the being the more ways that are for it to go wrong

That’s why I chose the washing machine with the least number of programmes on it.

You might want a wool wash.

But you don’t need an acrylic wash.

I remember the tedium of washing jumpers in the winter and drying them flat.

When I was a child we wore them right through the winter and we only washed them when the war of the weather arrived

You can saying it this typing with the voice leaves a lot of arrows and what we riot

My heart was not in mathematics

Looks like you spent 7 years of study to find that out.

At least it was a possibility.

Anyone moderately intelligent would not look for heart in something so cold and austere

That is hostile. It’s positively insulting

Thank you very much.I I’m making real progress now.

What kind of job would require you to be insulting?

Prime minister member of parliament judge..

Do you have to spend the money taking a course when most people can be insulting without any effort at all,?

Do you really believe that that is true?

Don’t be so literal minded.

You want to say 1that most people would ask for Johnson to give moral guidance for their children?
Well in the sense that you can say whatever you see him doing it will be wise to do the opposite.

So instead of loving a woman I would have to love a man? Is a woman the opposite of a man?

Not nowadays

Instead of telling lies tell the truth that is the opposite.p

Like when someone asks me how many children I have I should say 49?

If you really do have 49 children.

Uncountably many?

How could you have uncountably many children?

If you had never learned to count or only up to two.

That won’t do, in mathematics uncountable means can never be counted by anybody.

How can we be sure that someone who was not yet born would be able to count what we now think uncountable?

Because it has nothing to do with the person who’s counting it is inherent in the set of objects such as the r11111eal numbers.

It’s been proved that the set of all real numbers can never be counted.

And what is that useful for ?

We don’t worry about that in mathematics.

Well good luck and goodbye

But it shows there are more things in this world than we dream of.Even our dreams are startling and complex.

Why?

We don’t know yet.

So just enjoy them

Yes.

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Transubstantiation is
a] A town in Romania
b]Part of the Wholly Roman Empire
c] Part of Rome
d] Advanced calculated substitution algebra

e] A Latin newspaper
f] All of the above
g] None of the above
h] A new cookery book.
i] The missing link
j] An idea

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What to me may seem a worthless weed
Bears its little flowers to create seeds
Thus it spreads itself as Love requires
Humble speedwell,hear of our desires.

In the pavements cracks were home to grass
The sidestep slabs were broken like thick glass
When heavy frost came, rain formed frozen pools
I trod in them as I tore up to school

The crackling ice, the mist dropped on the park
Our ginger cat, the trees, the dog that barked
Our mother in the kitchen making tea
The oven by the fire, the big door key

Little signs spark tender memories
The future fiction, gone the past abyss

The crackling ice, the mist dropped on the park
Our ginger cat, the trees, the dog that barked
Our mother in the kitchen making tea
The oven by the fire, the big door key

What to me may seem a worthless weed
Bears its little flowers to create seeds
Thus it spreads itself as Love requires
Humble speedwell,hear of our desires.

In the pavements cracks were home to grass
The sidestep slabs were broken like thick glass
When heavy frost came, rain formed frozen pools
I trod in them as I tore up to school

The crackling ice, the mist dropped on the park
Our ginger cat, the trees, the dog that barked
Our mother in the kitchen making tea
The oven by the fire, the big door key

Little signs spark tender memories
The future fiction, gone the past abyss

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Hostile Language

 Hostile language   Language that escalates  Strategies

Recognizing Hostile Speech

One of the most important skills of a mediator or a negotiator, is to recognize hostile, escalating language and know how to quickly deflect or cool it down. Linguist and novelist Suzette Haden Elgin discusses the connections between language and conflict in her many books–well worth reading for anyone who finds themselves handling hot conversations.

• Strongly stressing particular words:
  How DARE you. That’s what YOU say.
  
• Using words that strongly identify people and objects
  YOU have no business… I would never do that. MY money, THAT woman, this BOYFRIEND of YOURS.
  
• Labeling someone’s intent or character.
  You are a slob. That company is just plain greedy!

Recognizing language that escalates

Acknowledging that there are times when escalating a conflict is the appropriate thing to do, if your ultimate goal is discussion and some kind of mutual agreement, how you bring that conflict into the open and force others to deal w

Hostile Language

One of the most important skills of a mediator or a negotiator, is to recognize hostile, escalating language and know how to quickly deflect or cool it down. Linguist and novelist Suzette Haden Elgin discusses the connections between language and conflict in her many books–well worth reading for anyone who finds themselves handling hot conversations.

• Strongly stressing particular words:
  How DARE you. That’s what YOU say.
  
• Using words that strongly identify people and objects
  YOU have no business… I would never do that. MY money, THAT woman, this BOYFRIEND of YOURS.
  
• Labeling someone’s intent or character.
  You are a slob. That company is just plain greedy!

Recognizing language that escalates

Acknowledging that there are times when escalating a conflict is the appropriate thing to do, if your ultimate goal is discussion and some kind of mutual agreement, how you bring that conflict into the open and force others to deal with it–the langua

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https://www.nytimes.com/guides/well/how-to-deal-with-stress

The study found that having a lot of stress in your life was not linked with premature death. But having a lot of stress in your life and believing it was taking a toll on your health increased risk of premature death

They got a primer about the physical stress response and were told how a higher heart rate, faster breathing and internal jitters were all tools for making you strong

You can practice for everyday stress in similar ways, by putting yourself in challenging situations. The good news is that practicing stress can actually be enjoyable, even thrilling. The key is to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Here are some suggestions:

• Run a marathon
• Play in a Scrabble competition
• Read an original poem at a poetry slam
• Climb a mountain
• Sing karaoke
• Tell a story in front of a crowd
• Take on a tough project at work
• Kayak the Colorado rapids
• Train to scuba dive
• Attend a boot camp

Not only will challenging experiences give you more confidence, but the repeated exposure to stressful situations can also change your body’s biological response to stress. Your stress hormones become less responsive, allowing you to better handle stress when it comes.

Dr. Dennis Charney, a psychiatrist and the dean of the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City, notes that programs like Outward Bound and basic military training are all designed to make people uncomfortable and build their skills so that they will be better able to handle stress later on. When his children were young, he took them on adventure trips that included “a degree of anxiety” like exposure to wildlife or kayaking in remote areas as a way to build confidence and prepare them to deal with stressful events. Putting yourself or your children in difficult social situations or speaking in public can help adults and children accumulate social and intellectual skills that help in times of stress.

“Live your life in a way that you get the skills that enable you to handle stress,” says Dr. Charney. “Put yourself out of your comfort zone.”

An Rx for Resilience

Another factor in how you handle a stressful situation is resilience. The American Psychological Association defines resilience this way:

Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.

You can boost your resilience in a number of ways. In the book “Resilience: The Science of Mastering Life’s Greatest Challenges,” the authors, Dr. Steven M. Southwick

a stressful event. They were told how the body’s stress response evolved to help us succeed, and that the increased arousal symptoms of stress can aid your performance during times of stress. The bottom line of the lesson was this: In a tough situation, stress makes you stronger.

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It’s getting late but no one brought my dinner

I’m not hungry I shan’t bother to eat

Some people like anything but I don’t

I want butter beans flour cakes or teacakes

I want chips fried in beef dripping

Yeah I don’t like just anything

To make your own dinner requires work

But you can choose what you want

You don’t care

Then that’s alright

if I didn’t eat I would die eventually

but it would be painful

My reptile brain is still switched on.

The crocodile wants to eat maybe a human being

The mammal has my orders to go to a restaurant and get some French food

The human is wondering how much money I’ve got left and trying to to make sense of this life

But that ruins my appetite. Lose weight

The animal in me is anxious but I can see a lion but no one else could see

I will escape this because my adrenaline is pumping

but those relaxed people will die.

It’s a simple as that