Oh it’s hard to go on from this line

By heck it was cold on the Humber ferry

The water was deep and Hull smelled like leather

May I mention the bridge it’s all there’s left

The boat man’s gone, it must be the Styx

Right it was cold on the Humber ferry

!ow I’m a widow from him who I married

His mother was Hilda his father was Harry

His father went fast but his mother did tarry

We could well have drown her

If she had come on the ferry.

Goodbye to them both no they’re getting buried.

The effects of perfectionism on mental and physical health

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323323

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How perfectionism affects your (mental) health

By Ana Sandoiu on October 12, 2018 — Fact checked by Jasmin Collier

Sure, saying you’re a perfectionist may sound good in a job interview, but does striving for perfection make you feel good about yourself? Studies show that constantly chasing the specter of perfection may seriously harm your mental health and well-being. In this (imperfect) article, we explore the dangers of aiming to be perfect.

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Share on PinterestThe constant drive to do everything perfectly can often feel frustrating.

Before starting to write this article, I stared at my computer screen for around half an hour feeling overwhelmed by the countless open tabs in my browser, each of them showcasing a crucial piece of research that I absolutely had to include in this comprehensive feature.

Luckily, I’ve undergone enough therapy in my life to be able to recognize this paralyzing feeling for what it is: toxic perfectionism.

I know myself and how this process goes: I start by fabricating the expectation that this article has to be perfectly thorough and encompass everything that’s ever been written on perfectionism.

How perfectionism affects your (mental) health

By Ana Sandoiu on October 12, 2018 — Fact checked by Jasmin Collier

Sure, saying you’re a perfectionist may sound good in a job interview, but does striving for perfection make you feel good about yourself? Studies show that constantly chasing the specter of perfection may seriously harm your mental health and well-being. In this (imperfect) article, we explore the dangers of aiming to be perfect.

pencils neatly stacked

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Before starting to write this article, I stared at my computer screen for around half an hour feeling overwhelmed by the countless open tabs in my browser, each of them showcasing a crucial piece of research that I absolutely had to include in this comprehensive feature.

Luckily, I’ve undergone enough therapy in my life to be able to recognize this paralyzing feeling for what it is: toxic perfectionism.

I know myself and how this process goes: I start by fabricating the expectation that this article has to be perfectly thorough and encompass everything that’s ever been written on perfectionism.

Floodlit Cathedral

From the miles of flatness and the fens

Comes the hill where this Cathedral stands

Everyone can see this floodlit site

When the moon is out and there is night.

I saw it through the window as I turned 

It’ struck me down with beauty never learnt.

As I lay surprised upon the stair

I absorbed the beauty I saw there 

Should we worship beauty such as this?

It strikes us with a hammer not a kiss

Cats delight me,hiding in my bed

Friends


Cats delight me,hiding in my bed
Running down the stairs, with backturned head
Jumping up to catch a butterfly
Tickling me as on my couch I lie.
In my dream I saw them, fifty five
One was in the bath ,I nearly cried
Everywhere I went cats followed me
Pied Piper of the felines I shall be
Remember Blythburgh church floodlit and fine
The owners of the cottage drew few lines
.They had seven cats, all Siamese
How could even God compete with these?
The Church, a small Cathedral of the Marsh
Kept cats in their own place which I thought harsh
For cannot cats join in to sing the hymns
Christmas Carols, Requiems, a sin?
The cats were leaping on me in my dream
Wanting a large ball and lots of cream
Full of life and humour they live well
Scratching my new sofa, ringing bells
If I dream of happy cats I wake
The sky is blue and I make no mistakes

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Art by Katherine

Anticipatory Grief Guide: What Is It? – Forbes Health

https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-is-anticipatory-grief/

Patients with a terminal illness, as well as their family members, friends and caregivers, often experience anticipatory grief. However, any kind of looming change can bring on anticipatory grief. This is true “even if the change is exciting and anticipated and chosen,” says Werner-Lin. For example, a person who puts in notice at her job may grieve the loss of friendship she expects will happen when she no longer sees her current co-workers every day.

Scenarios that may provoke anticipatory grief include, but are not limited to:

  • Diagnosis or progression of a degenerative disease, such as Alzheimer’s disease, other forms of 

14 Tips To Cheer Yourself Up When You’re In A Bad Mood

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/g19890697/how-to-cheer-yourself-up/

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Smile more (on your own terms)

Okay, yes, it’s super-annoying when a random stranger sees you mean-mugging on the street and tells you to smile.

But smiling at a stranger every once in a while (not the annoying person above—think: a cute grandma) is basically scientifically guaranteed to make you feel happier, says Christine Carter, Ph.D., author of The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work and a senior

Teaching and learning about poetry

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/03/learning/lesson-plans/22-ways-to-teach-and-learn-about-poetry-with-the-new-york-times.html

Parody. A parody is when an already existing story or other piece of material is made more humorous by changing the language but keeping with the way it is written. This is a great technique to practice and will definitely help expand your poetry writing skills. For example, you could make a parody of one of Shakespeare’s poems if you were to use the same rhyme scheme but use comical, modern-day words to tell the story.
Hyperbole. Hyberbole and exaggeration are great tools for making a