Kamala Harris turned 56 last October, shortly before she was elected vice president of the United States; the Polish writer Olga Tokarczuk won the 2018 Nobel Prize in Literature at age 57, while she was working on two new books. So 55 is hardly a border beyond which all is shadow. True, in the middle of adulthood it’s easy to envy those merely on the brink of it, with their imagined freedom to wander and aspire and their seemingly endless (and endlessly squandered) free time — forgetting how much of those rootless years were eaten up by uncertainty and fear. I, too, would love to be 20 once more, however miserable I actually was back then.
As all too soon each little day is done February 17, 2017 I sat on your old wall to see the sun The wall is cold and makes my rear end chill And all too soon each little day is done
The day is ending and I ‘ve not yet begun To do my writing , let my mind be still I sat on your old wall in winter sun
If we were younger we might have more fun We must allow now what we cannot will As all too soon each little day is done
Must we finish what we have begun? We gazed at rampant water by the mill. I sat on this old wall in winter sun
As a woman, I can love a man Then to their rest with singing I may lull As all too soon each little day is done
Today my heart with love is very full And happy tears my features like to swill I sat on your stone wall to eye the sun As all too soon each little day is done
Heil , O Johnson liar and right wing crook I wonder what they’ll write about you next As you dictate to us,will we be hooked?
The Germans knew their leader wrote a book You may send out vitriol by text. Heil , O Johnson, liar and right wing crook
You do not care, you lie as we onlook You play Big Brother, wearing Hitler’s vest When you dictate to us,will we be hooked?
Have you come to power just by a fluke? We hope the coming weeks will prove a test Heil , O Johnson ,liar and right wing crook
Whatever words you say, they will be cooked You rich men plunder, in the sinking West When you dictate to us, will we be hooked?
You play upon the panic and unrest The best of our goodwill ‘s already wrecked Heil , O Caesar Johnson liar and crook As you smiled and cheated. we just looked
If we phone someone but when they answer the phone they’re sound as anxious or distressed what should we do do?
We might think that when we phone omeone we can start telling them whatever is in our minds.
but there are two aspects to such a meeting. There is a conversation that you expect you to have and then there is a context that on your phone we can’t see the person or sends had a feeling so so you need to pay attention to tnh should usually say is this a good time to talk. But when you can hear distress you should say somethin
unless it’s a business call.
You could say
Would you like to tell me about it or would you prefer me to ring you in a few days?
Sometimes they are in extreme distress you may need to go around and visit if your relationship is close If that’d that is impossible you might ask them have you got any friends nearby that you can ask to come round? Or would you like me to call someone to ask them to visit you?
We can’t just stop talking to someone without being aware it might not be a good time or or they may be going through a bad patch. If they’re saying I don’t want to talk about it you must respect that.
You can try again in a few days
As many others have been cut off from contract with their family or friends during the pandemic it may be harder for people to start to talk;they may be feeling overwhelmed
If you are feeling very distressed it might be better to ring a kind family member or friends but do not make other phone calls while you are feeling like that unless it’s absolutely essential.
Who has never felt grief When a small gesture would have helped but it has ,unknowingly, been with held? How many people have the imagination to guess what's in your mind, And to embrace you rather than push you away? No-one,No-one.No-one knows. No-one knows these numbers. No-one knows these names. No-one knows how many feel diffident, Nor how many feel shame.
Being alive is joyful! Being alive is pain! Being alive is all we have, We'll never be alive again.
I look into your eyes today I sense your shame and woe. I look into your eyes just now And tell you that I know,
Being alive is lonely. Being alive is good. Being alive is pain indeed For flesh is not like wood.
While friendship research offers some benchmarks, it may be more useful for most of us to simply do a bit of soul-searching. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and author of the forthcoming book “Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends,” recommends starting with a fairly obvious but powerful question: Do I feel lonely?
“Loneliness is a sort of signal or alarm system,” Dr. Franco said. Everyone feels lonely from time to time, but this is a deeper question about whether you regularly feel left out or isolated. One recent survey suggested that roughly one in three Americans have experienced “serious loneliness” during the pandemic.
It also helps to ask yourself if there are parts of your identity that feel restricted, Dr. Franco said.
Prevention people try to avoid loss: They’re cautious; they don’t want to make errors. Promotion people strive for accomplishments and see potential threats, including rejection, as challenges. Reich has become something of an evangelist for ambivalence in part because she thinks it can motivate people to be less fearful and more proactive. “We’re hoping to help prevention people use ambivalence to become promotion people,” she says.
Deal with it. After you’ve done your best to simply brush the hate aside, the painful truth is that you’ll probably still find yourself bothered by the comments. When you find yourself at this “Level 4” pain, don’t be surprised that it still hurts. If you aren’t surprised, then you won’t be shocked. And if you’re not shocked, there’s a good chance you won’t be stopped from doing your really important work. It’s not going to make the hate less painful, but it will help you move forward.
finish!” “That’s not what I said!” After “I love you,” these are among the most common refrains in close relationships. During my two years researching a book on listening, I learned something incredibly ironic about interpersonal communication: The closer we feel toward someone, the less likely we are to listen carefully to them. It’s called the closeness-communication bias and, over time, it can strain, and even end, relationships.
Once you know people well enough to feel close, there’s an unconscious tendency to tune them out because you think you already know what they are going to say. It’s kind of like when you’ve traveled a certain route several times and no longer notice signposts and scenery.
But people are always changing. The sum of daily interactions and activities continually shapes us, so none of us are the same as we were last month, last week or even yesterday.
The closeness-communication bias is at work when romantic partners feel they don’t know each other anymore or when parents discover their children are up to things they never imagined.
It can occur even when two people spend all their time together and have many of the same experiences.
I’mKaleena Goldsworthy, 33, told me it was a shock when her identical twin, Kayleigh, decided to move to Ne
During a conflict, people just want to be heard, said Robinson-Brown. “And being heard means that the other person values your feelings and thoughts, even if there is disagreement,” she said. “So simply listening to someone and then blowing past their statement, or not even acknowledging what they’ve said, can create feelings of invalidation, anger and sadness.”
Good listening means much more than keeping your mouth zipped. It’s a skill that is especially valuable during quarantine, which has strained even the hardiest of relationships. Data collected by Legal Templates, a company that provides legal documents, found that sales of their divorce agreement were 34 percent higher from March to June, compared to the same period in 2019.
To get to the hospital about 4 miles away in hospital transport and to return home again go in there transport I was driven about 19 miles or more in order to pick up another person who had ordered transport.
And then we how to proceed to the hospital. In total I spent 1-hour and 47 minutes in an ambulance car.
Perhaps I should mention that in the middle of the journey towards the hospital which/ about 50 minutes my phone rang and a woman said that my appointment at the hospital has been cancelled.
The driver could not turn back because he had to pick up a man so I had a company then to the hospital so I think it was about 1 hour and 20 minutes from when I was picked out when I arrived at the hospital which was about 4 miles away if going by a direct route.
What I asked the driver have you had any water he said no but he offered me an almost empty can of something that was labelled red bull beer although I do not think this is beer but I don’t know so I drank some of it fortunately it was nearly empty.
My friend had arrange
Edto meet me at the hospital but when I didn’t arrive for my appointment she asked the receptionist what has happened to me because she had heard me getting into the ambulance because she was on the phone to me when it’s arrived
They told her that my appointment has been cancelled they asked her where I was and she said well she must be in the ambulance unless they’ve crashed and she’s in a hospital in A and E oh she has been kidnapped etc
That was when they phoned me. It was a hot day and it was very uncomfortable.
I won’t tell you anymore in case it distresses you. I will just say that the man who brought me back could not be praised more highly. I was sharing the others with 2 elderly women each with an ill or disabled son and it was very moving to see such people people.
1 I was very tired when I got back. The government trying to turn us against the NHS? Have you had appointments cancelled the same day or the day before an appointment for which you’ve been waiting? Can you afford private medicine now that you’re old and no longer working. I suppose there are some jobs might be able to do but at the moment I can’t think of any that will bring enough money to pay for private medicine. I’m already paying for the dentist but because of lockdown I’ve only just been able to go to the dentist since the pandemic started and I’ve got a feeling that some of my teeth might need removing.
Still it will be a morning out and the dentist is very good.
Our capacity to see one another as fellow humans, to connect across differences, is the foundation of a liberal pluralist society. Yet skeptics say that what seems like empathy often may be another form of presumption, condescension or domination. In his 2016 book “Against Empathy,” the psychologist Paul Bloom argued that empathy can cloud rational judgment and skews toward people “who are close to us, those who are similar to us and those we see as more attractive or vulnerable and less scary.” The scholar and activist bell hooks
When you’re too old to sin God will still have his eye on you.
And you probably do have a guardian angel but it’s a human being.
The Mass is just a bigger and more interesting way I’m having a neighbours around for a meal. It’s a form of play,
Lonely People can always go to confession on Saturday night. The priest won’t ask you for a certificate of baptism. Norbwill they ask if you believe in God. What’s more important is that God believes in you
There are worse ways of passing the time than singing around the piano.
There is no devil ;5who needs Satan when they have relatives
Heaven is not a reward it’s an achievement.
You might as well trust in godcqbecause you can’t trust in man anymore.
Why can’t the Catholic church give people interest-free loans to buy food? Awafer bewon’t get you very far. Could there goes qq you toast and marmalade?@
I was a born Catholic but can I why the reborn?
Death is not so frightening when the worst thing that could happen is extinction
Yes there is a meaning to life. You have to find the path yourself but you need your friends to help.
No one can be totally independent.
Why not starts to have evening prayers with your cat? there may not believe in God but they understand your state of mind when you are meditating
34How many close friends and relatives do you have with whom you feel at ease and can discuss private matters? How many of them do you see at least once a month? Do you participate in any groups? These are among the questions on a survey called the Berkman-Syme Social Network Index, which physicians use to determine whether someone is “socially isolated.” People are considered isolated if they have fewer than six confidants, no spouse and no group affiliations. Those conditions make them less likely to report that they have someone they can count on to listen if they need to talk, give advice about a problem or show them love and affection.
How many close friends and relatives do you have with whom you feel at ease and can discuss private matters? How many of them do you see at least once a month? Do you participate in any groups? These are among the questions on a survey called the Berkman-Syme Social Network Index, which physicians use to determine whether someone is “socially isolated.” People are considered isolated if they have fewer than six confidants, no spouse and no group affiliations. Those conditions make them less likely to report that they have someone they can count on to listen if they need to talk, give advice about a problem or show them love and affection.
In my dreams I travel deep and low
Into the loving world of long ago
The jacket on the chair ,it smelled of smoke……
The funny tales, he sang, he laughed, he spoke
So faint the memory, strong are its remains
Security and love in our domain
The brushes and the stipplers all stood by
For no-one told his tools that he would die.
On his shoulders, like a queen I rode
So safe and happy on the path he trod.
His voice was clear and he could whistle too
In those days men were used to do
And love shone from him on my mother dear
She smiled and made us cakes for Sunday tea
What tragedy to leave his children five
But in that distant space ,he is alive
The fire as red as any glowing rose
We were dressed so well in home made clothes
Too happy, needing no words to relate
Our sense of being in this generous space
I can’t get back to them, I cannot swim
The passages too wet , the light so dim
Yet I feel it in my body faint and clear
Death is not the end of those so dear.
Deep inside our minds, ancestors live
And to out hearts a depth and breadth they give
Yet missing him,I hover near the place
Where I might dive into his dear embrace
The table where we banged our little heads
The chairs so close together like a bed
The teapot always full, the sugar bowl
The fire, the kettle , pussy cat and coal
The fireplace had its oven nice and warm
Looking at hot coals made me feel calm
The children seem to play in that far space
And all around is love and on and on I gaze
