In the heart of the man, there’s a gap

In the heart of a violin, there’s a flame
It was lit by the  ache of desire.
Electric  those gold stricken wires
Who plays loud the sound of your name?

In the heart of the  love, there’s a space
Where music’s  condemned by the moon
Where dancers will dance to their doom
In our   timelesss and freezing embrace.

In the heart of the man there’s a gap
Where the love cannot reach ,though  he try,
Near untouchable  bliss he might die
As photographers beam in their snaps

What we don’t know


Froimagesm reading the previous post and reflecting,it seems that we see people as separate and uniquely responsible for their state of being.Hence getting to be more aware of our unconscious mind is good for us
But what about all the facts we don’t know about the external world?How people can be destroyed by  war,riot,earthquake,flood and wild  animals.How we are injured by economic  theories and practices we do not understand or even know of.Politics,wars,loss of confidence in the economy
I accept that in some ways we can be our own worst enemy but even the most aware loving good person can be injured by fact ors quite beyond their control
I once asked two friends who are psychoanalysts whether they took people’s economic situation into account and was told it was not relevant.I realise now that unless you are quite well to do you can’t afford psychoanalysis.I read lately of a woman writer who was badly blocked.After 4 sessions a week for 8-9 years she was much better.I can’t understand how most people could afford that.And  it’s a long time to spend  before getting very far.Admittedly she did publish a book after 2 years but unless it was a best seller would that giver her a viable lifestyle
Or is it just that only rich people attend in such a full manner?The time factor too, if you had children or another job would be tough.Unless you live next door to the  analyst!

Could it be that many people have  emotional problems but the wealthy or highly educated have more access to this kind of support.Poorer people may have good support  from family and friends emotionally  but sometimes it’s the family which is the problem.
Are there no methods of improvement which are available to the average person?
I suppose learning relaxation techniques,eating well,exercise,music ,poetry can help
I was very moved by an article which said that having even just one trustworthy friend is enough to keep us sane.

Sometimes  keeping quiet about your problem  except to a very close friend is best if it is potentially very  distressing to others..lady admitted to hospital in the USA said she kept telling folk about the dead bodies she saw in the street.Her treatment was to stop telling people.It worked, she was able to live independently again.I suppose it is unfashionable now but maintaining your own privacy might be a very good thing.The same psychiatrist used to ask new patients,Whom have you annoyed to get sent in  here?
In other words, you might be seriously disturbed but have lots of support and loads of money  and then recover.But with no support, a mild disturbance might lead to being sent  into a  hospital.And it is not very good in England where little money is spent on such things.You might lose your job and in the current economic climate  that would be a major blow.So one might get the revolving door scenario.You might end up living rough as well.And if you live in certain parts of the world your horrible life might be totally out of your own control.Many children in Gaza  have lost the will to live.That mustbe so in many other places too.


What we don’t know can hurt us



What we don’t know can hurt us. The “unconscious,” as Sigmund Freud professed, is the “unknown” or “not known.” That portion of subjective experience which is obscured, invisible to consciousness, at least “at the moment.” It consists largely of the parts of ourselves we deny, dissociate, despise, denigrate, dread and generally repress. What we repress comes back to haunt us with a vengeance. Philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche spoke of this phenomenon as “the return of the repressed.” Denial or dissociation are repressive defense mechanisms, and serve some necessary function in terms of preserving mental health. But when some significant aspect of ourselves is chronically denied or dissociated (i.e., repressed and made unconscious), the proverbial chickens eventually come home to roost. If, for instance, someone always denies their anger, these feelings will some day resurface tenfold, especially under stress, though the reason for and intensity of their rage may be unclear  and inappropriate to the current circumstances. This dark and treacherous territory to which these repressed “chickens”–or, more descriptively, “demons” are banished–is what Jung referred to as the “shadow.” It is related also to what Rollo May called the “daimonic.” The daimonic, according to May, “is any natural function which has the power to take over the whole person. Sex and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples.” Thedaimonic, can, by definition, be both destructive and creative. When the daimonic is habitually denied, it becomes more negative and dangerous. But when we acknowledge its presence and reality, it can be the life-giving source of energy, strength, power, spirituality and creativity. This can be said of the unconscious in general. So it is vitally important to learn to listen to one’s unconscious carefully, and to what it has to say about what’s happening in the psyche now and what needs to happen if the future, both inwardly and outwardly. Meditation,mindfulness and dream work are all methods of listening to and discerning the unconscious.The secret is to take the unconscious (and its complexes) seriously, treating it with the respect and sense of mystery, awe and wonder it deserves. And to recognize the ultimate futility of repression, rather allowing one’s self to consciously experience emotions as they arise, while at the same time learning to pause between stimulus and response rather than reflexively acting on them. We have both the freedom and responsibility to choose how we respond to our feelings. But that, like any other skill, takes practice.

Would you like to write humor?




Humor Writing Basics (& a List of Funny Words)


The double entendre is a comedy staple, one that’s all about word choice. Country music song titles often use this device. Consider the songs “If I Said You Had a Beautiful Body, Would You Hold It Against Me?” and “Crystal, I Can See Through You.”

In the first example, “hold it against me” can refer to either “beautiful body” or the statement “you have a beautiful body.” The second example is more of a pun