https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-made-me-feel-ugly/

I can’t deny that God resists

Why would God care if I worshipped the moon?

Why did God stop feeding the 5000?

Who was Galilee?

Was Galilee a friend of Jesus?

And who gave her the sea?

If God gave exactly ten commandments was it because He knew that we will want to go decimal eventually?

If not do the Israelites have a fondness for the number 10 Inot why not? Answer in short paragraph please

If I break a commandment can it be mended?

If I break them all do I get a prize?

Is it adultery if I have an affair with someone who is civilly united with their partner

If not, is that unfair? If adultery is a sin should itch not be open to everybody?

Where in Israel was the valley of the dolls?

Is choosing wallpaper on the syllabus at Oxford? If not should Boris Johnson be given a fellowship or the professorship of poetry?

Why does Oxford have two rivers when Cambridge ¹ only has one?

What kind of feelings are im bedded in mathematics?

Is poetry logical?

How do you keep the shoe polish?

Do not mourn the dead for they are gone.

Mourn for all the work you have not done.

We could have seen the trees with summer Leaves

Picked the daisies gentle as our breath.

Mourn in winter for the summer sun.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/07/opinion/grief.html

https://toggl.com/timesheets-magazine-london/sanah-ahsan/

Timesheets Magazine: London Edition

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Sanah Ahsan’s Journey of Self-love Through Therapy and Spoken Word

Sanah Ahsan

“There’s lots of stuff I’m doing actually. I’m trying to think about things that might be more interesting,” says Sanah Ahsan in a coffee shop in London’s Edgware district. She’s talking about using poetry and therapy to help develop a community space for queer women of color and the work is already interesting. In a conversation that acts as a process for untangling the intertwined threads of Ahsan’s life and career, the psychologist, spoken word poet and activist examines the path that led her to become the inspiration she is today.Sanah Ahsan
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Ahsan’s personal experiences with the UK mental health system made her realize at a young age that she wanted to be a psychologist. As she was going through therapy in her teenage years, she found it hard to communicate the complexities of her culture to the predominantly white, middle class therapists assigned to help her.

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• A pain awoke me from my sleep,
  Inside my soul there was a gap.
  I tried to make it disappear;
  To write it off my map.
• 
  But still the ache persisted,
  I tried hard to forget.
  Then I sat down in my garden chair,
  And stayed with my upset
• .The sun may shine,
  the birds may sing
  But that to me
  no pleasure brings
  Because of my regret..
• As I sat still upon my chair
  To me three Angels did appear,
  And they are with me yet,
  They took my heart into their care,
  With golden threads they are sewing there,
  Until the work’s complete.My task is, here, to sit quite still,
  And let God’s angels do His Will,
  As I sit at His Feet.aaThe first personaa
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https://www.griefandsympathy.com/coping-grief-anxiety.html

Think of some activities which make YOU feel relaxed. Not everyone will find the same things relaxing. Then try and make sure you do one or two of them at least a few times a week. Here are 10 ideas for things which we have found are relaxing and which might help. And there are 10 more below too!

Paint something to honour your loved one.
Sing
Laugh
Love your pet
Phone a friend
Dance
Listen to the birds
Look at the stars
Watch the sunrise
Just breathe


In the book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’, Susan Jeffers describes how, if we really face our fears and feel them they become less frightening and much easier to…….

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/29/learning/is-it-ok-to-laugh-during-dark-times.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/06/health/06mind.html

Sang-froid has its place, especially during a crisis; but so does Sigmund Freud, who described the potential downside of suppressed passions. Those exhortations being directed at the president could be just as easily be turned on countless co-workers, spouses, friends (or oneself):

Lose it. Just once. See what happens.

“One reason we’re so attuned to others’ emotions is that, when it’s a real emotion, it tells us something important about what matters to that person,” said James J. Gross, a psychologist at Stanford University. When it’s suppressed or toned down, he added, “people think, damn it, you’re not like us, you don’t care about the same things we do.”

Rigorous study of what psychologists call emotion regulation is fairly new, and for obvious reasons has focused far more on untamed passions than on the domesticated variety. Runaway emotion defines many mental disorders, after all; restraint is typically associated with good mental health, from childhood through later life.

Yet social functioning is a different matter. Research in the past few years has found that people develop a variety of psychological tools to manage what they express in social situations, and those techniques often become subconscious, affecting interactions in unintended ways. The better that people understand their own patterns, the more likely they are to see why some emotionally charged interactions go awry — whether from too little control or, in the president’s case, perhaps too much.

Continue reading the main story

https://www.readbrightly.com/10-points-power-poetry/#:~:text=Poetry%20lets%20us%20positively%20share,and%20also%20better%20understand%20them.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-happened-to-sin_b_5815160

Gradually, mainline Protestantism has concentrated on the positive aspects of the Christian Faith. It has been the evangelical churches that have continued to stress the sinfulness of the human race and the need for repentance.

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An old man kissed my hand outside a shop
My hair was gleaming in the yellow sun
Surprising action but a pleasant shock

What grace there was in customs , mainly stopped
My face was bright, my stockings had no runs
A man just kissed my hand outside a shop

I should have done a selfie, what a cop!
I bet he fell in love ,ah Beatrice won
His surprising action gave me quite a shock

He was not drunk, his hands had just been mopped
I have not been so touched by anyone
Till this man kissed my hand outside a shop

In a silent morning, love erupts
We know what’s passed but not what is to come
A man just kissed my hand outside a shop 1

Give us our applause, oh come on,clap!
I think we’ve fallen off the usual map
An old man kissed my hand outside a shop
A pleasant greeting but it was a shock

The Pandemic Brought Depression and Anxiety. Reaching Out Helped. https://nyti.ms/3rBW6OY

I sold my Zimmer frame and bought a cat.

He’s very big so I lean on his back.

He takes me up to bed and keeps me warm.

In the night I dream,he keeps me calm

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/30/opinion/psychotherapy-remote-covid.html

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/consumer-advice/money/a39627801/cost-of-living/

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2022/aug/31/grey-rocking-how-to-bore-a-toxic-narcissist-out-of-your-life?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

Psychologists have suggested imagining yourself as an impenetrable grey rock when confronted with overbearing and manipulative people. The trick is to appear as uninterested, and uninteresting, as humanly possible

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Name: Grey rocking.

Age: Relatively new.

Appearance: As unbelievably dull and unresponsive as a rock.

OK. OK? That’s it? You don’t want me to tell you what grey rocking actually is?

Sure. That’s better. It’s a new and apparently very effective way to force toxic narcissists out of your life for good.

Come live with me and be my helpmeet now
I’ll share my bed with you and how!
If you let me love you
I’ll darn your old gloves 4 you..
If you come and meet me brow to brow.

Come live with me and teach me all you know
About poetic licence and Soho
I’ll mend your vacuum cleaner
And learn expressions meaner.
How cheerfully the hours to come will go,

Come live with me and be my lover true
Without one,how will ever I do?
I’ll set up model railways
And learn the Jewish weekdays
Come live with me and I will sweep your flue.

Come live with me in Norway on a fjord
I’ll mend my Canon Powershot if I’m bored.
I’ll watch the ice flowers growing
And then we must be sowing.
How happy Wittgenstein’ve been if he’d have knowed.

I wish I were at Whitby by your side
From the Abbey Steps we saw the.whole
The sound of gulls aswirling round our minds

The atmosphere of Yorkshire blunt and kind
Salty air,the North Sea,winds that groan
I wish I were at Whitby by your side

See the children taking donkey rides
The fishermen look anxious , happy, worn,
The sound of gulls is swirling round my mind

From Saltburn,Staithes to Bempton bold cliffs rise
Then Bridlingon where Hockney was a boy
I wish I were at any by your side

The two weeks break seemed long when we arrived
Now all my past seems like an old map torn
The sound of gulls is calling you to mind

To be in Whitby is to be alone
The pie shop’s open yet I feel forlorn
I wish we were at Whitby side by side
The sun and air, I dream into your mind

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Have you been feeling guilty lately?

For many people, this powerful emotion has become especially prevalent during the pandemic. There is guilt over surviving Covid-19 when family members or friends did not; guilt over potentially exposing other people to the virus; guilt about the distance we have had to maintain from those we care about most.

Have you been feeling guilty lately?

For many people, this powerful emotion has become especially prevalent during the pandemic. There is guilt over surviving Covid-19 when family members or friends did not; guilt over potentially exposing other people to the virus; guilt about the distance we have had to maintain from those we care about most.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/23/well/mind/guilt-covid-pandemic.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/20/well/live/dont-take-osteoarthritis-lying-down.html

One of the biggest mistakes people make with arthritis is to limit movement of the affected joint, which leads to stiffness and weakness that only makes matters worse. The resulting decline in neuromuscular function, especially balance and walking speed, is a major risk factor for falls and fall injuries that too often lead to costly hip replacements and lasting disability.

A national survey in 2012 by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that among people with arthritis, the prevalence of two or more falls during the previous year was 137 percent higher and of fall injuries 149 percent higher than among their age mates without arthritis.

In 2011, osteoarthritis accounted for 95 percent of the 757,000 total knee replacements and 80 percent of the 512,000 total hip replacements in this country, the United States Bone and Joint Initiative has reported.

When I imagine meeting you I feel it in my breath

My breathing alters

It must be excitement

I feel it in my inner arms and the tender place of the inner wrist

I feel it in my hands and fingers

I want to touch you

I want to see you.

My arm’s reach out as if to hold you

Where are you?

It hurts me not to see you

It hurts me not to feel you

It hurts me that I cannot touch your body

It hurts me that I cannot touch your face

Your ears were always warm

Where are you now when I’m alone?

Don’t ask these questions it is too painful.

But more painful still is that I cannot see you

Except in photographs

The visual cannot substitute for the sensual

It’s my hands that want you

My eye is not sensual the wat5 hands are

I want my cells t I’m ino touch your cells.

Were we not one ?

Oh love, can you be gone?

https://www.writermag.com/improve-your-writing/nonfiction/tips-older-writers-memoir/

Regardless of the reasons that lead you to the starting line, there are several myths about writing a memoir that can deter older writers from sharing their stories. In my six years of teaching community college memoir classes geared toward older adults, I have seen many concerns brought up by my students each semester. Many believe that their lives aren’t “book worthy” or that younger generations won’t be interested in reading about their experiences. Others find it hard to select a starting point or can’t decide a theme to settle on. Plenty worry about what family or friends will think when they hear about secret pasts.

Often, the apprehensions or worries about writing come up before the students even connect pen to paper. The sheer magnitude of these worries has kept some from enjoying the process of sharing their stories. While writing memoir can certainly challenge writers emotionally and creatively, the process does not need to be grueling or intimidating. Here are the most common issues I hear from my students, along with encouraging tips to keep you moving forward.

I suggest keeping a notebook and jotting memories and story ideas down as they come up. However, I encourage memoirists NOT to consult with family about how certain incidents played out while they have work in progress. While asking family about factual things like addresses, birthdays or anniversaries, or the name of a wacky distant relative can be helpful during the writing process, memories or interpretation of events can vary wildly from person to person. Chances are, no two people will have the same memory of an incident, and this can often confuse or sway the memory of the writer.Advertisementhttps://63d8384efa956621ceab1887762ead20.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html?n=0

I think that shy cautious people may be more like this is survive in many environments but older people are more likely nto have children because they will find it easier to look for mates But you only need one mate to have a child and in our society sex is mainly a form of reparation since contraception is easily available. So the bold may not have any more children than the shy.

and the most sexual partners you have the more likely you are to have sexually transmitted diseases. That might be the reason why extroverts might die young.

https://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/04/education/edlife/reticence.html

It seems from reading this article that most of us would rather have a brain scan then go to a party and talk to strangers. Does shyness have survival value?

Just based on my own experiences I think shyness does have survival value.

Most animals only mix with their own family groupings.

They don’t drive about in cars nor go on holidays nor go to parties.

And if you’re not part of their clan they might attack you or eat you.

and when you go to a big party when you don’t know the guests there maybe some people there who are not trustworthy.

But we shouldn’t let shyness stop us altogether from mixing with people. We no longer live in clans or tribes so we have to construct one for ourselves but especially big cities we need to do it through connections at work or connections of our friends and neighbours or classes that we go to for art or music. In a class you can get to know people enough to judge them. They can also be very amusing as in my art class the best students have a low opinion of their work and the worst students sometimes ask the teacher how much they should get for their paintings when they sell them.

Being confident is not always based on realistic achievement so talents.

Ok just have value because confident people are more willing to try new things and are less afraid of being criticised So perhaps we can pretend to be confident especially in the context of going to classes. It’s not the end of the world if your drawing looks horrible. In fact some people might buy it because it’s so horrible whereas little sweet pretty pictures are all too common and we don’t want them anymore. Except ob birthday cards

https://thedoctorweighsin.com/should-we-worry-about-getting-cancer/

George Klein (1925-2016) was Professor Emeritus at the Microbiology and Tumor Biology Center at the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, Sweden when he published a fascinating article in The Scientist. The article makes the point that approximately one in three people will be struck by cancer in their lifetime.[3] But, the other side of that coin is that two out of three people remain unaffected. Even the majority of heavy smokers who bombard their lungs with carcinogens and tumor promoters over many years remain cancer-free.

A systematic review revealed that prostate cancer’s incidental findings at autopsy ranged from <5% in men under age 30 to almost 60% by age 70.[4] A not-insignificant percentage of these cancers, when localized and low risk, do not progress to overt cancer during the person’s lifetime. This has led to a recommendation option of active surveillance as opposed to treatment.[5]

It is also known that circulating tumor cells (CTCs) are present in many cancer patients. However, only a portion of these cells will enter and persist in distant parts of the body.[6] These are known as disseminated tumor cells or DTCs. An only a fraction of them develop into secondary tumors (metastases).

• What keeps these micro-cancers in check?

They are kept in check by a mix of the