Ladies why not buy a Bogner phone bag for just £169?

Or one could restate this as: why buy a phone bagv that cost £169. that is more than I paid for my phone which is perfectly adequate and could be cold in in a small cross body bag costing £14.88?

Irregular motions of the flesh

Bring them here to have them blessed

Impure thoughts do you have too few?

Boris will look after you.

Are you man or are you woman?

Pick your own then zoom your cousin

You can’t have sex when you’re at school.

But go ahead and break the rules

Teachers are not very good

They sin daily as we should

If you want to go to Oxford

Don’t swear air and scream when you see breakfas

Has the penny dropped today?

Financial Times will soon decay

Roasted glass buttons on a bed

of pure new wool

Artificial eyes in spices with super rice

Daffodil bulbs in kitty litter

Potatoes painted with mascara on a bed of noodles

Invent your own dinner choose any three of the following offers .

Duffle coat buttons

Shetland lace shawls

Gentlemen’s hats

Recycled plastic balls

Macaroni and old tomato soup

Old leather boots with brown owl +dead

Send us lust dear Lord we pray.

Save the grace for yesterday

They wreck your life with their possessive art.

And crumpled is your face and then your heart.

They do not know that they don’t know it all

The writing’s on the ceilings not the wall

9

Joy sings now in golden light,

Then after day comes deep,black night.

New moon is rising by grey trees,

The earth is where I want to be.
I want the day,I want the night.
I want the dark.I want the light.
I want to see and to be seen,~
And not to lose my precious  dreams

The sun has set, grey clouds turn black,

The day just gone  will not come back.

I’ll rest in quiet reverie

Until the reaper’s scythe takes me.
And then I drop and mix with dust,
Till worms and beetles sate their lust.
And fall into ten thousand motes,
And dance, in sunlight,  music’s notes.

No more striving ,no more ambition

No more fighting,no competition.

Every particle’s the same

Without even  a unique name.
And, side by side, we all are one,
The lusts of life have been and gone.
We dwell with dirt and grain and sand
At last we’ve reached the promised land

Why do people say you’ll be fine?

When you say, “Don’t worry, you’ll be fine,” you’re not acknowledging what your child is experiencing (distress, concern, fear, etc.) and are giving in to the reassurance his or her anxiety – or “worry bully” – wants.25 July 2018

https://joannahardis.com › 2018/07/25

Ask Joanna: A Therapists Advice

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/12/smarter-living/covid-social-anxiety.html

to touch especially a younger person in a friendly way under the chin: “Cheer up,” she said and chucked the little girl under the chin. Showing affection. affectionate. affectionately.5 days ago

https://dictionary.cambridge.org › c…

Meaning of chuck someone under the chin in English – Cambridge Dictionary

My heart feels like a boiling sea confined.

Bring the teapot, I’ve grown tired of rhymes.

I went to the writing shop today

I bought ten pens my laptop has gone grey

My heart is not a warship on sick pay

Put me on some medicine I pray

Her eyes are like two pools of of water dull .

The words she utters are well-known in Hull

My heart is aching get the Algipan

Rub it on my boson if you canv

Can a spasm of rage kill an old man?

Her eyes closed and she seems to sleep again.

I’ve stilll not made my mind up it’s my brain

There’s nothing worse than a le creuset pan.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/placate

https://sourcesofinsight.com/satir-categories/

When things are steep, remember to stay level-headed.” – Horace

Dr. Tavris does not believe anger should never be expressed. Rather, she limits the circumstances to those that satisfy three conditions: when anger represents a legitimate plea for justice, when it is directed at someone who is the cause of the anger and when it would result in a correction of the offense or, at the very least, would not cause retaliation. Otherwise, she suggests counting to 10.

While seeking revenge, dig two graves – one for yourself.

Douglas Horton

https://www.nytimes.com/1983/03/08/science/venting-anger-may-do-more-harm-than-good.html

Madow added: ”Freud was one of the first to recognize that catharsis doesn’t work. Anger is really a symptom. To deal with it, you have to get back into the unconscious and find out why anger is there.”

Dr. Willard Gaylin, a New York psychiatrist who is president of the Hastings Center in Hastings-on-Hudson, N.Y., calls the ventilation of anger ”a form of public littering.” He explained in an interview: ”Even if ventilation did relieve everything, which it does not, it would still not be justified.”

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Dr. Gaylin said not enough attention had been paid to the societal aspects of anger. ”The real problem is not so much the articulation of anger but the generation of it,” he said. ”Many people are angry all the time, they have an inordinate capacity to generate anger.” The source of all this anger, he believes, is our technological society in which people are alienated from the rewards of their activities at the same time that happiness is held up as the main goal in life.

Anger is a normal emotional response that occurs in all people from birth to death, regardless of their culture. But what provokes anger and how it is expressed, Dr. Tavris says, varies widely throughout the world. Some people express anger through the use of ritual curses (as in the Yiddish, ”May all your teeth fall out but one, and that one have a cavity”); the Kapauku Papuans of West New Guinea hold a culturally circumscribed ”mad dance,” and the Mbuti huntergatherers of Zaire use humor and ridicule when reason fails to end an argument.

Physiologically, angry feelings are associated with the release of the same hormones, epinephrine and norepinephrine, that are produced under stress. These hormones stimulate the heart, raise the blood pressure, pour sugar into the blood, constrict the blood vessels to the digestive tract and generally create feelings of excitement and arousal. This has fed the theory that unexpressed anger can produce a host of psychosomatic reactions, ranging from hives and headaches to cancer and heart disease.

”Anger is a form of energy and you can’t destroy it,” Dr. Madow said. ”When it’s not dealt with it can lead to such problems as headaches and depression.” The analyst, who wrote a book called ”Anger: How to Recognize and Cope with It” (Scribners), said that while the relationship between anger and illness was difficult to demonstrate in a test-tube, ”the consequences of repressed anger are seen clinically every day.”

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Dr. Madow distinguishes between ”suppressed” and ”repressed” anger. Suppressing anger, he said, is ”perfectly fine if you do it consciously and for good reason. But repression leads to trouble because the person has no awareness of the anger.” For example, he said, a man may knowingly suppress his anger at his boss for the sake of his job without untoward consequences, but repressed anger at being abandoned by parents early in life can lead to chronic depression.

According to Dr. Theodore I. Rubin, a New York psychoanalyst and author of ”The Angry Book” (Collier Books), repressed anger is the primary cause of anxiety. ”Ninety percent of anxiety attacks represent a surfacing of vehemently repressed anger,” he said in an interview. ”I’m not against suppression of anger; it’s repression – not knowing that a person is angry -when the damage is done.”

Dr. Harvey Rich, a psychoanalyst in Washington, said: ”A woman who’s been taught that she must bear the burdens of abuse may become a quiet alcoholic, or have an extramarital affair.” She’s always rationalizing that she is suffering. Her suffering stems from the lack of an avenue for expressing anger.”

Still, Dr. Rich agrees with Dr. Tavris that ”the gross ventilation of anger – mouthing off – is of no value. Anger is an inappropriate response in many cases.”

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Dr. Tavris says studies have failed to show a direct link between suppressed anger and illness. ”The popular belief that suppressed anger can wreak havoc on the body and bloodstream has been inflated out of realistic proportions,” she wrote. ”It does not, in any predictable or consistent way, make us depressed, produce ulcers or hypertension, set us off on food binges, or give us heart attacks.”

In fact, the newest studies of the relationship between anger and heart disease indicate that an excessively hostile attitude, regardless of whether that anger is expressed, increases the risk of disease. Dr. Redford Williams, an internist and psychiatrist at the Duke University Medical Center, studied 255 physicians who had taken a standard personality test 25 years earlier. Those who had scored in the top half of the hostility scale had suffered five to six times more heart attacks and a death rate from heart attack five times as high as those in the lower half.

Dr. Williams said the next step will be to examine the consequences of expression and suppression of conscious angry feelings. There is the strong suspicion, he said, that those who let their anger out may be more prone to heart disease and those who keep anger in face an greater risk of high blood pressure and possibly cancer.

Dr. Williams believes excessive hostility is rooted in feelings of being unloved. ”These people grow up feeling that they can’t trust people to treat them right,” he said. ”People with this attitude are more likely to experience the emotion of anger more often and to experience it more intensely.”

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Dr. Rich, the Washington psychoanalyst, believes that people who are quick to anger have a ”basic sense of badness that stems from the time they felt responsible for everything that happened. Whatever went wrong, it must be their fault. This defensive character organization creates an intense primitive anger just below the surface. When something goes wrong, like the car doesn’t start, they experience an infantile rage. It comes from the fantasy that you should be good, and if you were good, this wouldn’t have happened.”

Thus, she says, aggression, aggressive feelings and other heightened emotional states can inflame anger as well as the other way around. Encouraging youngsters to play aggressive games as a ”healthful” means of venting angry feelings is likely to backfire, she suggests.

Dr. Tavris does not believe anger should never be expressed. Rather, she limits the circumstances to those that satisfy three conditions: when anger represents a legitimate plea for justice, when it is directed at someone who is the cause of the anger and when it would result in a correction of the offense or, at the very least, would not cause retaliation. Otherwise, she suggests counting to 10.

Tomorrow, the Personal Health column in The Living Section will discuss how to deal with anger.

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Madow added: ”Freud was one of the first to recognize that catharsis doesn’t work. Anger is really a symptom. To deal with it, you have to get back into the unconscious and find out why anger is there.”

Dr. Willard Gaylin, a New York psychiatrist who is president of the Hastings Center in Hastings-on-Hudson, N.Y., calls the ventilation of anger ”a form of public littering.” He explained in an interview: ”Even if ventilation did relieve everything, which it does not, it would still not be justified.”

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Dr. Gaylin said not enough attention had been paid to the societal aspects of anger. ”The real problem is not so much the articulation of anger but the generation of it,” he said. ”Many people are angry all the time, they have an inordinate capacity to generate anger.” The source of all this anger, he believes, is our technological society in which people are alienated from the rewards of their activities at the same time that happiness is held up as the main goal in life.

Anger is a normal emotional response that occurs in all people from birth to death, regardless of their culture. But what provokes anger and how it is expressed, Dr. Tavris says, varies widely throughout the world. Some people express anger through the use of ritual curses (as in the Yiddish, ”May all your teeth fall out but one, and that one have a cavity”); the Kapauku Papuans of West New Guinea hold a culturally circumscribed ”mad dance,” and the Mbuti huntergatherers of Zaire use humor and ridicule when reason fails to end an argument.

Physiologically, angry feelings are associated with the release of the same hormones, epinephrine and norepinephrine, that are produced under stress. These hormones stimulate the heart, raise the blood pressure, pour sugar into the blood, constrict the blood vessels to the digestive tract and generally create feelings of excitement and arousal. This has fed the theory that unexpressed anger can produce a host of psychosomatic reactions, ranging from hives and headaches to cancer and heart disease.

”Anger is a form of energy and you can’t destroy it,” Dr. Madow said. ”When it’s not dealt with it can lead to such problems as headaches and depression.” The analyst, who wrote a book called ”Anger: How to Recognize and Cope with It” (Scribners), said that while the relationship between anger and illness was difficult to demonstrate in a test-tube, ”the consequences of repressed anger are seen clinically every day.”

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Continue reading the main story

Dr. Madow distinguishes between ”suppressed” and ”repressed” anger. Suppressing anger, he said, is ”perfectly fine if you do it consciously and for good reason. But repression leads to trouble because the person has no awareness of the anger.” For example, he said, a man may knowingly suppress his anger at his boss for the sake of his job without untoward consequences, but repressed anger at being abandoned by parents early in life can lead to chronic depression.

According to Dr. Theodore I. Rubin, a New York psychoanalyst and author of ”The Angry Book” (Collier Books), repressed anger is the primary cause of anxiety. ”Ninety percent of anxiety attacks represent a surfacing of vehemently repressed anger,” he said in an interview. ”I’m not against suppression of anger; it’s repression – not knowing that a person is angry -when the damage is done.”

Dr. Harvey Rich, a psychoanalyst in Washington, said: ”A woman who’s been taught that she must bear the burdens of abuse may become a quiet alcoholic, or have an extramarital affair.” She’s always rationalizing that she is suffering. Her suffering stems from the lack of an avenue for expressing anger.”

Still, Dr. Rich agrees with Dr. Tavris that ”the gross ventilation of anger – mouthing off – is of no value. Anger is an inappropriate response in many cases.”

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Continue reading the main story

Dr. Tavris says studies have failed to show a direct link between suppressed anger and illness. ”The popular belief that suppressed anger can wreak havoc on the body and bloodstream has been inflated out of realistic proportions,” she wrote. ”It does not, in any predictable or consistent way, make us depressed, produce ulcers or hypertension, set us off on food binges, or give us heart attacks.”

In fact, the newest studies of the relationship between anger and heart disease indicate that an excessively hostile attitude, regardless of whether that anger is expressed, increases the risk of disease. Dr. Redford Williams, an internist and psychiatrist at the Duke University Medical Center, studied 255 physicians who had taken a standard personality test 25 years earlier. Those who had scored in the top half of the hostility scale had suffered five to six times more heart attacks and a death rate from heart attack five times as high as those in the lower half.

Dr. Williams said the next step will be to examine the consequences of expression and suppression of conscious angry feelings. There is the strong suspicion, he said, that those who let their anger out may be more prone to heart disease and those who keep anger in face an greater risk of high blood pressure and possibly cancer.

Dr. Williams believes excessive hostility is rooted in feelings of being unloved. ”These people grow up feeling that they can’t trust people to treat them right,” he said. ”People with this attitude are more likely to experience the emotion of anger more often and to experience it more intensely.”

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Continue reading the main story

Dr. Rich, the Washington psychoanalyst, believes that people who are quick to anger have a ”basic sense of badness that stems from the time they felt responsible for everything that happened. Whatever went wrong, it must be their fault. This defensive character organization creates an intense primitive anger just below the surface. When something goes wrong, like the car doesn’t start, they experience an infantile rage. It comes from the fantasy that you should be good, and if you were good, this wouldn’t have happened.”

Under normal circumstances, Dr. Tavris says, the likelihood of an angry response is often determined by the pre-existing level of physiological arousal. She notes, for example, that noise, crowds, frustration or aggressive sports events do not by themselves generate anger, but they increase the general level of arousal and make it more likely that a minor provocation will trigger an angry response.

Thus, she says, aggression, aggressive feelings and other heightened emotional states can inflame anger as well as the other way around. Encouraging youngsters to play aggressive games as a ”healthful” means of venting angry feelings is likely to backfire, she suggests.

Dr. Tavris does not believe anger should never be expressed. Rather, she limits the circumstances to those that satisfy three conditions: when anger represents a legitimate plea for justice, when it is directed at someone who is the cause of the anger and when it would result in a correction of the offense or, at the very least, would not cause retaliation. Otherwise, she suggests counting to 10.

Tomorrow, the Personal Health column in The Living Section will discuss how to deal with anger.

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• She who would feminine be,
• when winds are blowing,
  Must set her hair with glue,
  Especially if it’s snowing,.
  There’s no weather can beat
  A bag of rollers with electric heat.
  She will make good her style
  At least for a little while,
  She’ll look both jolly and neat,
  Unlike a pilgrim.
• She who would fashionable be, Nik and complete
• Quite unlike a pilgrim
• 
  She’ll do whatever she wants
  Despite Satan’s taunting
  She’ll make us all feel gay
  Just like a fashion pilgrin

5

If you have no interests except  to lie in bed..

why not join an evening class?

Don’t die before you’re dead.

If you’re living all alone how desolate is that?

Go down to the pet shop and find a wicked cat.

If you wanted children but never found their dad.

Why not offer foster care

And love the lost instead?

 Remember we have just one

life and quickly that goes by.

Don’t keep waiting for your fate.

We are all going to die.T

There’s no one love there’s no one job

‘Luck’s what the brave can find.

Don’t sit down and wait for luck

It’s such a waste of time

Learn to be untidy when you’re middle-aged.

Ideas breed right on the page as they are engaged

Take the dog’s tail off the dog. Because you want to wag

Throw your clothes and hats and scarves into a Black bag

Change the sheets just once a year

because we have a drought.

You don’t need a tea pot

You only need a spout.

Take the Guardian everyday

I never read the rest

The Telegraph is too far right and we are going left

Mix the knifes and forks and spoons in a random manner

And toss in your paper knife and a rusty spanner

Can you spend the next 3 years sorting out the house?

We are made of rubber now

We’ll just have to bounce a@

A muddled mind is one step on the way

Clarity takes time with thinking rare.

If we run from muddles we’re delayed.

Start with preparation not dismay.

Everybody clings to their own prayers

Before it’s done the laggards want their pay.

The means are like the end in many ways

To understand we must just persevere

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/09/style/medication-depression-anxiety-adhd.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/19/well/mind/anxiety-benefits.html

Sitting in an ambulance with your knees raised up too high.

Lurching through the traffic ofmade me want to cry

I asked him for some water all they had was red bull “beer”.

I was too dehydrated to produce a single tear,

We saw the Northern suburbs were we going to Golders Green?

I thought we might see Jesus looking rather mean.

In my bright red handbag my phone began to ring.

I was feeling nervous so I nearly bit my tongue.

Hello my dear a woman said

We can’t see you today.

My appointment had beenbeen cancelled

I didn’t know what to say.

NHS unfunded do they want the Old to die?

Am I feeling anxious? Does a baby cry?

How can love lead into lonely grief?

Why is human life intense but brief ?

Is grieving and the loss that brought it on

The way which human beings come undone ?

Will this teach us that we are of dust?

That we go down to earth as creatures must?

Icarus flew too high when filled with pride.

We must not take such images as slguides.

The worms that we encounter in the grave

Remind us all of Dover’s lonely waves

We are defined by dissolution death

We need no last reminders of our breath

You are smiling on the pier above the sands
The rippling waves stretch out like children’s hands
You look so strong I cannot comprehend
Your fatal illness and its grievous end
You were not a patient on dry land
You were living well and ” feeling grand”
We crossed the road ; I held your cold thin hand
I suffered so much torment,would I mend?
I saw a fluid shape as dark it pranced
Through the open door it swiftly danced
Slipped in with the wiles of Tudor kings
Hoping they can make it on the wing
I learned with grief , it came to take you back
Across the river wide ,my love, my lack

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/10/well/eat/sleep-foods-diet.html

A dead chicken lays no eggs

A bull will never produce milk

You can turn the clock back but you can’t stop time.

Your face will still have wrinkles even if you don’t look in the mirror.

Preistoric people didn’t have contraceptives.

A duck will never send you a bill.

A minnow can’t mate with a trout.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/your-money/inflation-consumer-behavior.html

With the current shortage of water try to use your washing machine only when it’s full unless you have a half load option. So for example if you live alone you will probably not need to wash your clothes every single day. Because of that you will need more than one set of clothing.

You may need more than one set of better than

Ast one time washing and drying clothes in the in the UK was quite a lengthy procedure. Even now tumble dryers are are expensive to run.

But if you think about it differently you could getaways owning fewer clothes..

A single father with two children who lived near us had almost empty wardrobes because he washed their clothes every night in the washing machine and must have dried them in the tumble dryer although I sometimes did see bed sheets hanging on the line in the garden

After the children went to bed he washed and dried their .clothes

I think many people must be as partly becausw theyvdon’t have enough money to buy a lot of clothes. And hus5.

You may think the clothes will wear out more quickly is there are being washed so much.

But for children it may be ok because they are growing so you don’t want to buy them too many clothes in one size because soon they will be by wearing the next size up.

The advantage of this method is that you don’t have to store many clothes. For adult women it might make life much easier.

Although nowvI have friends in different jobs and they say that the other women have a different outfit on every single day.

If that were me I would buy all my clothes in one colour like blue so they would not know where they were different from the day before l.

Washing machines can be expensive but relatively speaking they are cheaper than they were 10 years ago. And you don’t necessarily have to have the more expensive ones

If you have some spare time and you know the price of clothing and washing machines you could weigh up whether you would actually save any money.

The only very clear way of saving money on clothes it is not to wash them as much

I know if there’s a tiny mark on their clothes some people 0change into a new outfit.

In the past most people could not afford to buy many clothes so sometimes we wore out underwear for several girls because the big problem in Lancashire and Yorkshire is drying the washing. Lancashire is extremely wet and Yorkshire is generally very cold.

So so have a washing machine and a few clothes and the tumble dryer and you will manage ok

If you have a lot of clothes and a washing machine etc who you wouldn’t spend a long time dealing with them but you will spend more of your money and will need more cupboards in wardrobes to sort out your clothes.

If you can’t afford a washing machine then you must be very poor if you live in the United Kingdom

In that case you not own many clothes and you may feel I feel great disadvantage but it’s possible to learn to sew and to make yourself clothes or do many people do and a visit charity shops or second-handshops.

, Or buy and sell on eBay.

Let’s not spend too much time thinking about clothes because they are a means to an end. And that is life is for living and not for washing. You do not need a shower twice a day. And do not wash clothes if they are not dirty,