Deal with it. After you’ve done your best to simply brush the hate aside, the painful truth is that you’ll probably still find yourself bothered by the comments. When you find yourself at this “Level 4” pain, don’t be surprised that it still hurts. If you aren’t surprised, then you won’t be shocked. And if you’re not shocked, there’s a good chance you won’t be stopped from doing your really important work. It’s not going to make the hate less painful, but it will help you move forward.
finish!” “That’s not what I said!” After “I love you,” these are among the most common refrains in close relationships. During my two years researching a book on listening, I learned something incredibly ironic about interpersonal communication: The closer we feel toward someone, the less likely we are to listen carefully to them. It’s called the closeness-communication bias and, over time, it can strain, and even end, relationships.
Once you know people well enough to feel close, there’s an unconscious tendency to tune them out because you think you already know what they are going to say. It’s kind of like when you’ve traveled a certain route several times and no longer notice signposts and scenery.
But people are always changing. The sum of daily interactions and activities continually shapes us, so none of us are the same as we were last month, last week or even yesterday.
The closeness-communication bias is at work when romantic partners feel they don’t know each other anymore or when parents discover their children are up to things they never imagined.
It can occur even when two people spend all their time together and have many of the same experiences.
I’mKaleena Goldsworthy, 33, told me it was a shock when her identical twin, Kayleigh, decided to move to Ne
During a conflict, people just want to be heard, said Robinson-Brown. “And being heard means that the other person values your feelings and thoughts, even if there is disagreement,” she said. “So simply listening to someone and then blowing past their statement, or not even acknowledging what they’ve said, can create feelings of invalidation, anger and sadness.”
Good listening means much more than keeping your mouth zipped. It’s a skill that is especially valuable during quarantine, which has strained even the hardiest of relationships. Data collected by Legal Templates, a company that provides legal documents, found that sales of their divorce agreement were 34 percent higher from March to June, compared to the same period in 2019.
To get to the hospital about 4 miles away in hospital transport and to return home again go in there transport I was driven about 19 miles or more in order to pick up another person who had ordered transport.
And then we how to proceed to the hospital. In total I spent 1-hour and 47 minutes in an ambulance car.
Perhaps I should mention that in the middle of the journey towards the hospital which/ about 50 minutes my phone rang and a woman said that my appointment at the hospital has been cancelled.
The driver could not turn back because he had to pick up a man so I had a company then to the hospital so I think it was about 1 hour and 20 minutes from when I was picked out when I arrived at the hospital which was about 4 miles away if going by a direct route.
What I asked the driver have you had any water he said no but he offered me an almost empty can of something that was labelled red bull beer although I do not think this is beer but I don’t know so I drank some of it fortunately it was nearly empty.
My friend had arrange
Edto meet me at the hospital but when I didn’t arrive for my appointment she asked the receptionist what has happened to me because she had heard me getting into the ambulance because she was on the phone to me when it’s arrived
They told her that my appointment has been cancelled they asked her where I was and she said well she must be in the ambulance unless they’ve crashed and she’s in a hospital in A and E oh she has been kidnapped etc
That was when they phoned me. It was a hot day and it was very uncomfortable.
I won’t tell you anymore in case it distresses you. I will just say that the man who brought me back could not be praised more highly. I was sharing the others with 2 elderly women each with an ill or disabled son and it was very moving to see such people people.
1 I was very tired when I got back. The government trying to turn us against the NHS? Have you had appointments cancelled the same day or the day before an appointment for which you’ve been waiting? Can you afford private medicine now that you’re old and no longer working. I suppose there are some jobs might be able to do but at the moment I can’t think of any that will bring enough money to pay for private medicine. I’m already paying for the dentist but because of lockdown I’ve only just been able to go to the dentist since the pandemic started and I’ve got a feeling that some of my teeth might need removing.
Still it will be a morning out and the dentist is very good.
Our capacity to see one another as fellow humans, to connect across differences, is the foundation of a liberal pluralist society. Yet skeptics say that what seems like empathy often may be another form of presumption, condescension or domination. In his 2016 book “Against Empathy,” the psychologist Paul Bloom argued that empathy can cloud rational judgment and skews toward people “who are close to us, those who are similar to us and those we see as more attractive or vulnerable and less scary.” The scholar and activist bell hooks
When you’re too old to sin God will still have his eye on you.
And you probably do have a guardian angel but it’s a human being.
The Mass is just a bigger and more interesting way I’m having a neighbours around for a meal. It’s a form of play,
Lonely People can always go to confession on Saturday night. The priest won’t ask you for a certificate of baptism. Norbwill they ask if you believe in God. What’s more important is that God believes in you
There are worse ways of passing the time than singing around the piano.
There is no devil ;5who needs Satan when they have relatives
Heaven is not a reward it’s an achievement.
You might as well trust in godcqbecause you can’t trust in man anymore.
Why can’t the Catholic church give people interest-free loans to buy food? Awafer bewon’t get you very far. Could there goes qq you toast and marmalade?@
I was a born Catholic but can I why the reborn?
Death is not so frightening when the worst thing that could happen is extinction
Yes there is a meaning to life. You have to find the path yourself but you need your friends to help.
No one can be totally independent.
Why not starts to have evening prayers with your cat? there may not believe in God but they understand your state of mind when you are meditating
34How many close friends and relatives do you have with whom you feel at ease and can discuss private matters? How many of them do you see at least once a month? Do you participate in any groups? These are among the questions on a survey called the Berkman-Syme Social Network Index, which physicians use to determine whether someone is “socially isolated.” People are considered isolated if they have fewer than six confidants, no spouse and no group affiliations. Those conditions make them less likely to report that they have someone they can count on to listen if they need to talk, give advice about a problem or show them love and affection.
How many close friends and relatives do you have with whom you feel at ease and can discuss private matters? How many of them do you see at least once a month? Do you participate in any groups? These are among the questions on a survey called the Berkman-Syme Social Network Index, which physicians use to determine whether someone is “socially isolated.” People are considered isolated if they have fewer than six confidants, no spouse and no group affiliations. Those conditions make them less likely to report that they have someone they can count on to listen if they need to talk, give advice about a problem or show them love and affection.
In my dreams I travel deep and low
Into the loving world of long ago
The jacket on the chair ,it smelled of smoke……
The funny tales, he sang, he laughed, he spoke
So faint the memory, strong are its remains
Security and love in our domain
The brushes and the stipplers all stood by
For no-one told his tools that he would die.
On his shoulders, like a queen I rode
So safe and happy on the path he trod.
His voice was clear and he could whistle too
In those days men were used to do
And love shone from him on my mother dear
She smiled and made us cakes for Sunday tea
What tragedy to leave his children five
But in that distant space ,he is alive
The fire as red as any glowing rose
We were dressed so well in home made clothes
Too happy, needing no words to relate
Our sense of being in this generous space
I can’t get back to them, I cannot swim
The passages too wet , the light so dim
Yet I feel it in my body faint and clear
Death is not the end of those so dear.
Deep inside our minds, ancestors live
And to out hearts a depth and breadth they give
Yet missing him,I hover near the place
Where I might dive into his dear embrace
The table where we banged our little heads
The chairs so close together like a bed
The teapot always full, the sugar bowl
The fire, the kettle , pussy cat and coal
The fireplace had its oven nice and warm
Looking at hot coals made me feel calm
The children seem to play in that far space
And all around is love and on and on I gaze
By Blythburgh church, the cottage was unique At night the floodlight made me catch my breath So beautiful the sight,I could not speak I felt my soul awaken from its sleep The Cathedral of the marshes is unique The soaring space,the stone, the river deep The images that fade, the angels’ laugh By Blythburgh church, the cottage was unique In the dark , the floodlight caught my breath
in myopinion, is the Mappiness project, founded by the British economists Susana Mourato and George MacKerron. The researchers pinged tens of thousands of people on their smartphones and asked them simple questions: Who are they with? What are they doing? How happy are they?
From this, they built a sample of more than three million data points, orders of magnitude more than previous studies on happiness. So what do three million happiness data points tell us?
The activities that make people happiest include sex, exercise and gardening. People get a big happiness boost from being with a romantic partner or friends but not from other people, like colleagues, children or acquaintances. Weather plays
People often think feelings come from the heart but sometimes i feels as if they come from my bones especially the bones in my arms
I miss the full shared silence with you here I miss you as I watch a film alone Now I am just me ,God must me steer I miss the full, calm silence with you here The peace of love, the loneliness of fear The anguish that arises from my bones I miss the full, deep silence with you here I miss you as I lie in bed alone
I miss the car rides into Essex towns I miss the burning stubble in the fields Yet I must rise again,I will not drown I miss the coloured houses in the towns I miss your glances as Love settled down Where the harvest, where the ripened yield? I miss the car. the journeys, hamlets, towns I miss the burning stubble in the fields
I miss the joy of learning who you were I miss the warmth of being loved and held I cannot now complain you are not here I miss the joy of finding what you were Of learning what you knew of Art and fear Now the golden ring has been unwound I miss the joy of feeling who you were I miss the peace of being loved and held
A woman of 61 who lived in a flat in South London and have a jov as a doctor’s receptionist
Died in her flat and it was two and a half years before anybody did anything. That was because during a gale the glass door onto her balcony opened someone called the police who broke in. This is very disturbing to know that that could happen to you you when he’s in your next door neighbour will not realise that you were dead. Modern Life
“An example of a solemn rondeau is the Canadian army physician John McCrae’s 1915 wartime poem, “In Flanders Fields“:
In Flanders fields the poppies grow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place, and in the sky,
The larks, still bravely singing, fly,
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
We are the dead; short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.
Take up our quarrel with the foe!
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high!
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.
The challenge of writing a rondeau is finding an opening line worth repeating and choosing two rhyme sounds that offer enough word choices. Modern rondeaus are often playful; for example, “Rondel” by Frank O’Hara begins with this mysterious directive: “Door of America, mention my fear to the cigars,” which becomes the poem’s refrain.”
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Aer est adhuc acutiores
Lumina caelum, et frigidus aer
Cattus niger curre avibus exponere tota die
Et sede hic: et tandem cum “totty”
Eiecistis O stultas cogitationes meae rapuisti.
Nos singulis iratus est bureaucratic molas
O zona frigida, quia numquam intelligitur, ut:
Caeli a’spark aer calidus et argutae
Saturnia degradauit knelled eorum
IMPETUS hac penna, pinna Sample meum,
Ego reprehendo in civitate illa, et date May frondosum.
O par felis tigris lectuli erraverunt.
Et habitavit in meretricia vita voluntatis,
Caeli in turpis, etiamnum acrior aer.
And Joseph dwelt in the life of a harlot of the will,
Of Heaven in Arizona, even severer still in the air .
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Die Luft ist noch akut
Geschrieben am 1. August 2016 um Katherine
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Augen in den Himmel, und die Luft ist kühl
Die Katze ist schwarz Vögel den ganzen Tag laufen
Und sitzen hier unten , und schließlich mit dem " Totty "
O meine törichten Gedanken aus Teufel entrissen .
Wir sind wütend auf jeden bürokratischen Mühlen
O der kalten Zone , denn ich habe nie verstanden , wie zum Beispiel:
Die Luft ist heiß und schrill Luft a'spark
Saturn degradiert ihr kniete
DASH diese Feder , Feder Sample My
Ich überprüfe in dieser Stadt , und das Datum Mai-Baum .
Oh, ein Paar von Tigerkatze Irre Bett.
Also wohnte Joseph in das Leben einer Dirne des Willens ,
Vom Himmel in Arizona, sogar noch strenger in der Luft.
A robin came in after you had died The little bird is missing you like me After hopping round, away birds fly
You sat there in the kitchen looking kind The birds were eating crumbs left from our tea The robin looked in after you had died
Should I see it as a subtle sign? Once a bird tapped on the window here I knew the meaning as I sadly sighed
After hopping round, away birds fly. Their delicacy, their size haunts me like fear The robin looked in after you had died
I wish the bird had stayed a little while
I wish I were up North near Windermere On a boat that sails till my heart smiles
Oh, for another one to share , to steer I miss your hands so warm and once so near A robin called by after you had died
With your soaring soul the small birds fly
I did not know theyve been do doing online events and webinars you do not need to be old to take part in these from your own home or whatever you are living so do have a look at it. Another way of taking control of our futures as we move into the next academic year; this is particularly good for disabled people and those with chronic illnesses lll
The article below is from NHS website. Is this sentence but there is a solution to any problem may not always be true but if we assume that there is solution it makes us more likely to find something that will help us or it might help us to talk to other people about it. What a solution is is an interesting question. If you are feeling very anxious about the winter the solution might be to just start to plan what you can do in advance to develop new interests or hobbies I Make sure you can go out and meet people no before the covid-19 or the flu starts to circulate when children go back to school. If you can’t think of an answer relaxing about the problem may help. slStop thinking and go for a walk I’ll go to a coffee shop with a friend or feed the ducks
Our unconscious mind is working all the time and even when you’re not thinking about a problem your unconscious is looking for answers or hints about what will be the best thing to do because it’s not all up to us there are other sources of help whether they are external in the form of therapists or good friends or internal
Some of them are i internal like the part of your mind that sends you you dreams which may contain an answer that we channel into creativity.
We are not told about that in school but if you start to do some research you will find that we are never alone because they are parts of ourself or or if you are religious you believe that the this guidance comes from God.
Our dreams our daydreams ideas if attention is free floating will contain hints about the next step on our path.We need quietness slowness and acceptance to make contact with the different parts of the mind
If we don’t take the first step we won’t get to the destination
Article by Cary Cooper
There is a solution to any problem. “If you remain passive, thinking, ‘I can’t do anything about my problem’, your stress will get worse,” says Professor Cooper.
“That feeling of loss of control is one of the main causes of stress and lack of wellbeing.”
The act of taking control is in itself empowering, and it’s a crucial part of finding a solution that satisfies you and not someone else.
We are approaching the autumn and winter a time when colds and flu begin again circulate. But the numbers of people getting covid-19 is increasing I’m familiar it’s going to bring back the anxiety and stress we have already felt
During the last two winters.
There are some very useful ideas in this NHS article
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How my heart speaks 