Contractions

We lose our health we lose our lovers friends

Death comes slow but faster at the end

Now we can’t afford to use the lights

We feebly rage against the coming night.

Once our life expanded as we grew

Every year was filled with actions new.

Marriage job promotion travel fun

We never thought that one day we’d be done.

Who can fight against the dying light?

Once so strong and fierce your heart gave up

Oh my love I miss you in the night..

Filled with sorrow, we must drain the cup.

Aging is like dying everyday

Slowly slowly each life ebbs away

Pain CS Lewis

Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say “My tooth is aching” than to say “My heart is broken.

C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain

Suffering and pain

David’s secret chord

We used to think we were doing God a favour by going to church on Sunday.

As if God were an elderly relative that we felt we had to see but we didn’t enjoy it much

Do you think God gets depressed because we don’t go to church?

That is so funny

Do you think God wants us to build all those cathedrals but never stop having wars?

Did God not mind when the poor were hurt more and more?

99% of the time we are thinking about it ourselves or our family and we don’t really think about other people. Even therapists after spending years trying to break out of complete egocentricity found it was all a mistake.

But in the the right circumstances and in the right attitudes of the heart a crack might openb the shell that protects us from others and their demands and the light might shine In give us a glimpse of eternity which is always here: it is outside time.

The rituals on Sunday morning might give someone a chance to find his crack. But is that was so it will be that person who benefited not God

Even if there is no god, that little crack sharing the way eternity is still there.

Because the real god is far away hiding from the monstrous wars and cruelty of the modern world

Denial in Psychology- Are You Using This Defence Mechanism? – Harley Therapy™ Blog

https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/denial-in-psychology.htm

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Denial in Psychology- Are You Using This Defence Mechanism?Last reviewed by Sheri JacobsonJuly 12, 2018Anxiety & stress, Counselling By: Alastair Gilfillan Denial in psychology originates from  psychoanalytic theory and its ideas about ‘defence mechanisms‘. What are defence mechanisms? Defence mechanisms are unconscious forms of self-deception we use to avoid anxiety and emotional pain, or to ensure we are ‘acceptable’ to others. Denial is a very popular defence mechanism. It is when we act as if an event, a thought, or an emotion never happened. We do this even if there is obvious evidence that it did, and often protest the opposite. An example is when we cry all the time but then tell everyone we aren’t sad. Or when we are sick every morning from drinking the night before but say we are not an alcoholic. Denial is connected to other defence mechanisms. These include repression (banning stressful things from our memories) and projection (refusing responsibility for thoughts, feelings and actions by attributing then to someone else). [Is your habit of denial making your life a mess? Really wish someone could help? Visit our sister site harleytherapy.com to book phone and Skype counselling easily and quickly, worldwide.] So if someone I know won’t see the truth, they are in denial? It would be easy here to say denial is about denying ‘the truth’. But ‘truth’ is actually a perspective. If two people, for example, at the same meal, one might say it was amazing, the other that it was terrible. So denial is more about avoiding facts and outcomes. It would be denying that the meal was caloric and might lead to weight gain, or claiming, even against strict doctors orders against its ingredients, that ‘it can’t hurt’.  But aren’t we all in denial? By: Duncan Hull 🐝 As a Western society we practise mass denial. We live our lives as if all is fine when we are taking actions that damage the environment and when other countries are at war. This article, however, focuses on personal denial over societal denial. The different forms of denial in psychology In its purest form of ‘simple denial’ , the process of denial is unconscious. The person using denial really has convinced themselves of the opposite to what the facts say and what everyone else tells them. They have ‘turned a blind eye’, as the saying goes. An example of simple denial would be the partner of an alcoholic who truly

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The death of the Queen

Oh God Have mercy on this island now.

We don’t know when to curtsey when to bow.

Eternal all the stars will shine at night

I’d rather have my husband and some light.

The requiem mass is beautiful I feel

Apart from these old symbols

What is real?

I don’t like the cemetery or church.

If I drink this whisky I will lurch.

What’s the point of flowers for the dead.

Send us letters they will all be read.

We must look strong are we will offence

It may be true but it don’t make no sense.

If we cry we get no comfort now

We will get no milk from any cow.

Acceptance may be the answer

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This is an interesting article about how acceptance is so important for us in order to live the best way we can. when we have problems,neuroses,illnesses etc.This website,The Negative Psychologist is one I came upon when reading a blog on WordPress.

http://www.thenegativepsychologist.com/2013/02/acceptance/

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Hold me

Aa I want someone to hold me me hold me tight

I want someone to hold me in the long hours of the night

The shelter of your presence the shelter of your arms

Hold me hold me darling give me peace and calm

I feel like I’m a baby thrown cruely from my nest

Or I’m a little suckling torn cruelly from the breast

Don’t leave me here without you for I don’t want to stay.

My legs have turned to jelly my heart beats in dismay.

The first loss is the mother and her sheltering gaze

We must turn and walk alone though our hearts are flayed

Emptying the Nest. Again.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/14/well/family/empty-nest-pandemic.html

by Katherine copyright

All joking aside, Ms. Woodard said that working-class parents may feel a child’s absence even more acutely. “Their house or apartment is smaller, so the kid’s presence is missed more,” she said. “Also, working-class parents probably raised that kid on their own.”

Regardless of the factors when a household is decanted of its young people, it’s clear that kids who leave their home need a lot of room to grow in, and that parents need to hone their listening skills.

Once, when Ms. Coburn asked a Washington

Memories of childhood

My sister oh my sister do not die

I feel that I still need you in my world

And Rivington we saw the larks upfly

Anglezarke the reservoir still swirled

Fresh water for old Liverpool’s

supply

I cannot go to Rivington alone

Nor Scotchmans Stump to see birds little bones

Once we lit a fire by a stream.

I’d like to go there now my love my queen.

Sturdy and determined she would climb.

Take the bus to Horwich it’s nearby

We saw ripe elderberries full and fine

In the distance Winter Hill stood high

The highest hill about so high austere

I won’t take you there sweet Eileen dear

On Pendle Hill

I see the shape of Pendle Hill ahead.

To this eerie hillside I’ve been

led

Hear they burned the witches in their rage

How far is hell from this this forsaken place?

Yet its shape still stirs me, it’s my home.

I might be a witch on here to roam

The River Ribble is a mighty flood

Flowing down the Pennines as one would

But if there were no gravity we’d see

Rivers running up into the trees.

The oceans would dry up or flood the land

Science is so hard to understand

So let’s just play some music on this Hill

Let’s dance and sing for if you won’t hat I will

Who should tell us?

No-one ever told me grief was fear
Or did they speak but I refused to hear?
Like cancer, blindness,  suicide and hate
The words  describe the folk of foreign states.

Vigilant and wary as we weep
We feel the loss of God and then our sleep
The world  no longer has a solid  floor
The foot is hesitant, the head is more.

The rudeness of  old friends can hurt like knives
They rush to tell you, you are no-one’s wife.
Though we know we  must meet God alone
The status of our soul is overthrown.

And yet we  see new visions and new ways
Lying with the worms,as beetles gaze
By Katherine

The soul may live

I cannot live without your love so dear.

I stretch my arm but you are nowhere near

My hand finds only emptiness at night.

I am afraid till I switch on the light

Once I saw you lying by my side

I forgot just then that you’d already died.

The knives are sharpened they will cut my heart

I can live without it and my charts

I am going nowhere I am stuck

Is this fate or is it just bad luck?

What is a United Kingdom?

United Kingdom means that England fought wars against Scotland and Ireland and Wales

Instead of making these countries independent they were linked together into one country. The United Kingdom that is why King Charles has visited the three other countries since he became king.

Given the history in food in the 20th century it’s not surprising that there is a lot of animosity towards. the English

The isles

The British isles consist of Tesco’s, Sainsbury’s and Morrisons. Westminster Cathedral and York Minster even though Yorkshire was once ruled by the Danes

Your social class consists of all the people that you call your friends and acquaintances.

And your social class needs work to keep it alive we call that working class. Upper class is a way of referring to to your friends that have died who are now in heaven waiting for you.

You don’t have to do anything you will become upper class when you die.

It is a sin to be born out of Wedlock. I think it’s in Shropshire because there is some music called

On Wenlock Edge.

Dear teacher Jonah was swallowed by a whale. during the night So he can’t come to school today the RSPCA are looking for the whale.

I live in the. United Kingdom if you can call this a life.

The Queen dies and nobody expresses surprise that we have a woman prime minister.

Noone labelled rishi sunak l as a Pakistani (that is a derogatory term used by racists who attack people from Asia not necessarily from Pakistan m)

So maybe we are all used to the idea it’s not only white people who can become members of parliament or prime minister.

And the general public have not talked about it so I think we are no getting used to the fact that we are are a multicultural society

And a multi-coloured society.

And a multi gendered society

We’ve always been a multi aged society but now it’s broader that it used to be as we live longer

And we are a multi sized society

From my art class

I will let you look at my art even though it’s not very good

Because it might encourage you you to go to an art class

You appreciate much more what you see when you have tried to do it yourself.