How modern technology may affect friendship

I believe many of us agree that when we have friends whoBlue flower in a dream 2 live some distance away email is a very good way of keeping in touch.Of course we had the phone for that purpose but the advantage of email is that it can be read when most convenient to the recipient.And we can send photos or other attachments.Texting is similar.Next time you meet your friend you will feel closer because they are up to date with your life.

A different problem occurs with friends made online whom you have never met.The same feelings can develop here as in real life.Valuable friendships can be developed with people  in any part of  the world.

A big problem can come when one party decides without discussion to end the friendship  after what seemed a mutual dependency and caring

So it makes sense to see if your friend is willing to give you their phone number and address.If not then I would be wary of getting any deeper in the relationship.Remember you don’t really know who that person is.And there are many people out there seeking for vulnerable people to fulfill their needs.People who cannot make friends in the flesh

Do they seem to want you more as a listener to their woes and not be willing to hear yours?Whether in real life or online, narcissism is  a big problem.And such people may have great charisma.Beware!Charisma is a tool for manipulation.

I do know of successful friendship .even marriage, between people who met online.On the other hand I know some people devastated by cruel pretend friendships.Men who move from woman to woman on a whim.

Different cultures too may have different rules.In some places a woman who  just talks to a man online is thought of as a whore.Not to mention the problems of language and translation.I know one woman who is not recovered after two years after being thrown off like an old glove!I know it happens in real life too but there you can generally discuss problems

Obviously it’s always going to be chancy and though I am usually quite brave,I would be wary of a man or woman seeking closer friendship online  who is unwilling to give me his/her phone number.An email address is not the same

The problem  with modern communication is that it’s like the nuclear bomb….. we want to try  it  out even if we have nothing much to say.Better to make more real life friends or join a forum with shared interests or even shared health problems.You can help or be helped there.Just having a tablet or i phone tempts us to use them.

Worry

I was talking to a friend last week who was full of worries

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I can’t say I am blameless myself.I suppose it’s natural but can become excessive.On reflection I think it’s linked to either feeling inadequate to cope with life or feeling unable to ask for help..The latter one is true for me,I feel I am imposing on people if I ask for help.and am I inadequate or is it a leftover from  childhood when I was given hard tasks to do too early?If people are more confident they worry less.We have survived this far so we should get more confident

And some of the worries I or my friends have are about health or sleep.The thing is we cannot sleep by willing it..we seem to be in a state where we are always thinking about what we need for health which I think makes us suspicious of our bodies… we don’t trust them..Nor do we trust God like people used to do… as for the Government…

Insecurity,lack of trust,fear of asking for help.

No wonder we worry