If you write about yourself about what others might like to know…. will it be like seeing yourself as a character in a novel?
So do you come nearer to yourself or more distanced
I think others know us better than we do but may be too polite to tell us unless we ask
If you have time,try this link.It is full of sentences that give different aspects but seems to include both thought, feeling and judgment not to mention…I almost forgot,memory.
Mind ,Oxford Etymology
THINKING ABOUT WHAT THE MIND IS
I have not put this here because I know what the mind is.More that after my post yesterday and the ensuing exchange I had realised I was not sure what the mind is.It’s certainly not all those silly thoughts we have as we run around the supermarket or brood on when feeling down in the dumps [always a bad idea]
To me it’s what makes us an agent in our own life as we can think and study our actions and our ideas [and is related to what was called Logos by the Greeks]. …but I have a lot of studying and thinking to do,I feel it’s not me thinking but some faculty within me.I suppose that brings up the question of what is me or what am I.For example I have dreams but it’s not the conscious me that created them..they are nore clever and complex than I could think of I got a paragraph from Wikipedia
“Whatever its relation to the physical body it is generally agreed that mind is that which enables a being to have subjective awareness and intentionality towards their environment, to perceive and respond to stimuli with some kind of agency, and to have consciousness, including thinking and feeling.
Now I am going for a walk so I shall listen to what emerges
I have not carried out a survey so I shall write about what I would like to know.I’d like to know what makes you happy.I hope you are happy often.And if not what do you do.So,for me. I feel happy when I have completed some task and have a sense of achievement because then I can relax and sit staring into space because staring into space makes me feel happy.And if there is a tree there,even better.I like to sit with maybe music but no talk.I like not to talk.If I am not happy,I do whatever I need to do as slowly and carefully as I can.And think what I’d say to another person who felt like that:It’s alright to be sad.Be sad but don’t wallow in it.Then I’d make some tea and listen to Die Winterreisse which is very sad but it makes me feel happy…perhaps it expresses what I can’t express.
I like tea more than coffee and I like home made bread made in someone else’s home.
I am no good at sewing but I like turning up hems because using my hands makes me happy too.I would like to do more with my hands.I believe that is good for the brain.
I like going out at dusk when people put on the lights and I stare into their windows to see how they have decorated their rooms.So don’t pull the curtains,please.Is it legal?I am surprised how bare some rooms are..
I like helping blind people across the road as long as that is what they want.
I don’t like it when men push me or let doors close when I am going through.At Christmas people get very aggressive shopping;
I used to like hearing people quote adages like
There’s many a true word spoken in jest
but I don’t think people say such things now…. more like
What the hell are you doing playing ball in the street?
And who says now:
I am in the doldrums [from the Ancient Mariner]
To be or not to be., That is bad for my digestion
Is this a dagger I see before me?
No,it’s the potato peeler.
Do you listen to your heart or your mind?How do you tell the difference?
I am a great admirer of Hilary Mantel’s novels and have been for years so I know she has had appalling health problems.The drugs she’s on make her much fatter than before… but why should that matter?
Giles Coren, call her an “inflatable Ken Dodd ” and suggests she writes because she can;t get a man.Well if Giles Coren was the last man on earth I would not date him.
HM made a very intellectual and nuanced speech last week in which she mentioned the role of Kate Middleton in the Royal family.I am unsurprised by the tabloids reaction but very much by the PM.Ed Milliband and the Times.None have read her words.
Such cruelty is common now but not all fat people eat much and I’d rather go to bed with an obese yet charming man than any of these cruel nasties…attraction has many aspects only one of which is conventional beauty.
There is so much rubbish about what to wear;how to look thinner,sexier,hide your hips etc.If clothes are a major issue for you there are some good choice.Imitate the late Jean Muir and dress in only one color.And if you find some super shoes buy 2 pairs.And why not begin to wear petticoats again…I know they are not in fashion but they keep your clothes cleaner and also keep you warmer.Anf they are pretty.I like to look pretty myself so I try.And don’t try to look thinner..drop the burden and be seen how you areIf you don’t need to dress up.women spent most of the 70’s in jeans and sweaters and no make up…that’s the hippy bohemian style.And get a good coat for winter.I see people out semi naked in the snow and ice!And they are not poor.It’s just a craze amaong the young.
Now I am going out to buy a new dress for a party
Kittens are not shy as long as Mummy is near by
I think the best way to cope with social situations is to realise other people are so caught up in their own world that they hardly notice you or your clothes.And people are not as critical as we may fear.And that listening is a good technique.. let them talk.They will love.And try to be proactive… well,we can try…it may take time
And from my lamentable own failures,don’t tell jokes if you are not very good at it.Just laugh at others’ jokes and they will be happy.
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This is from the website Introvert jokes.I love it
W Somerset Maugham quotes
Life goes on like a river flowing.So we need to flow too even if we have to navigate rocks and boulders.Sometimes it’s easy flowing downhill but landslips may block the way.But the water keeps pushing and finds a way round all obstacles.
Sometimes we may suffer and even despair.In ancient books we read that God can touch us at that moment
.It’s hard to describe but wait on God .Simone Weil wrote a book called “Waiting on God”
I find it interesting to use the words wait on in different ways.
What a disgraceful woman does not wear
Pray Father,give me a Dressing.It is five Tweets since my last Depression
So what have you done now?
Well,as I’ve done nothing wrong today I am suffering from Pride.
You seem to think about yourself too much…maybe
How much is too much,Uncle?
Well,when we are happy and doing something we enjoy,we forget ourselves entirely.
and that is the best way to be.
But first we need some security.How can I get that.
You need a spam guard for your mind!At the moment you are on automatic which is the default setting of your brain to act like a reptile…
Thanks very much,Father,I never knew I was a reptile.Did they have scruples..
It was kill or be killed.Don’t you see the scruples are an attack on yourself?The reptile is attacking you… as you have frightening thoughts it’s annoyed.
So how do I rebutt these? thoughts
Say,Alright if I’m the most wicked man in the city,smite me and do your worst.I am not afraid any more..I have done my best and if it’s not good enough strike me dead now or forever give me peace,
And what will happen after that?
Well,we shall see.But you have to face this thing head on.Bring it to a head.Lance the boil.
So if God does smite me dead?
Well, do you really think you are so wicked because you stole a half penny from the charity box fifty years ago>
I see it’s a sort of pride… a theatrical display of guilt.
Yes, quite right.Anyway, if you survive your ordeal let me know and I’ll give it a try.
Why,don’t say you have scruples too?
Yes,I have scruples about giving advice to people.If they follow it and it’s no good… it worries me….
Why don’t we do or die together,Father?
I’ll give you a buzz.
Meanwhile am I absolved?
Yes, dear boy.Sometimes I wish I could be dissolved..
Why is that?
I’d like to lose myself.
Why not try reading a good book…I recommend Nicholas Freeling.
But I feel guilty reading.
Now look here,Father,God helps those who help themselves….give yourself a break…
A good novel, a cup of tea and a pussy on your knee,you’ll be transformed.
Thank you,my child.
Don’t mention it,Father.
Don’t mention what?
They never say.
It’s just a phrase or is it a phase?
It’s all Greek to me.
I know some very sweet Greeks or are they geeks?
Just one letter can make such a difference..