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Formal poetry

Hass aims to help readers deeply fathom poetry through considering how a poem’s formal structure, and its interaction with poetic history, enable the poem to embody “the energy of the gesture of its making.” This is the subjective pursuit of a practitioner rather than that of a scholar. It’s also, at more than 400 pages, not a little book. Hass gives innumerable answers to the questions that obsess poets and readers of poetry: What is poetry, and why does it do what it does?
Hass aims to help readers deeply fathom poetry through considering how a poem’s formal structure, and its interaction with poetic history, enable the poem to embody “the energy of the gesture of its making.” This is the subjective pursuit of a practitioner rather than that of a scholar. It’s also, at more than 400 pages, not a little book. Hass gives innumerable answers to the questions that obsess poets and readers of poetry: What is poetry, and why does it do what it does?

In Kent
Cycling down the promenade at Deal
Going to walmer castle for the flowers
I wonder why the bicycles have wheels.
And why we never see the Eiffel Tower
The shingle beach at Kingsdown has a pub
There is a meadow with small folded flowers
There in sunshine you should meet your love
And lose yourself in kisses for an hour.
At Walmer Castle there was a great cat.
She climbed up on my husband to his joy.
Riding back to Deal my tyre went flat
So we went back slowly spirits buoyed.
He said hed5 never leave me but he died.
I fell down on the pavement and I cried
Ill love you till I die
‘Twas but a reptile passing by.
It flew across the deep blue sky
Why do reptiles fly so high?
I’ll love you till I die.
“Twas but a cat under the moon.
Did you have a silver spoon?
Why can’t cats all waul in tune?
I’ll love you very soon
‘Twas but a wooden legged man,
Carrying a large brass saucepan.
Why can’t men do what women can?
I’ll love you better than.
Why are adverbs?
What are nouns?
why do circuses have clowns?
I’ll love you lying down.
Where do dreams go in the day?
What game can we adults play?
Can you or can you not say?
I’ll love you,in my way.
‘Twas but a verse that seemed so free.
It floated over my oak tree.
I have eyes but cannot see.
I’ll love you when I be
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Sibling rivalry
Conversations in the family are crucially important, and it doesn’t matter what they are about. There is nothing more important a parent can do than talk to their children.”

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Jealous of other people’s accomplishments
Obstinate child
Daddy used to beat me with his belt
I did not give in despite the welts.
I closed my eyes I screwed up my small face
Why did you beat me daddy not embrace?
Then you died and we’ve seen you no more
I didn’t like you Daddy did you know?
Old lady
Little lady sitting in your chair
Screaming because you cannot curl your hair
Screaming for you want to go to bed
Screaming for a pillow for your head
You tell me no one listens when you shout
Your voice unpleasant makes us shut it out.
Your motive is the power to dominate.
That is not love it seems to me like hate.
Some things we can’t get by force of will
We only have the power to make men ill.
I now believe in witches you are one.
When you die the witches will be gone.
I thought that I could love the human race
Until I saw the contours of your face
What we’re getting wrong in the conversation about mental health

This means resisting the temptation to label all negative feelings with psychiatric terminology. When I was a psychology lecturer, I spoke to an undergraduate student about how she and her peers discussed their mental health, and she said that everyone in her year group – around 150 students – described themselves as having either depression or an anxiety disorder or both. From what we know from population-based studies, it’s nigh-on impossible that they all met criteria for
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National decline
Could we get worse MPs and ministers than the ones we have already got?
We have people who have no concern for people. Is there intelligent they managed to disguise it very well.
It’s mainly immigrants bringing more intelligence into this country
I heard somebody say about the well-known fact that Jewish people are more intelligent on average than other people in Europe, well you see it’s the survival of the fittest. is persecution and the Holocaust have been such a good thing that really improved the intelligence of the Jews why don’t we kill 6 million British people in order to make the rest of us more intelligent?
Why stop there? Why not kill all of us and wait to see if the intelligence of British people living in other parts or the world will become higher as a consequence
Survival of the fittest does not have that kind of meaning. If you have a very gradual process and does not include murder or in a case of trying to improve your crops it does not involve killing lots of wheat and barley in order to make the next generation better quality
If you kill as much wheat and barley as possible then you won’t have any crops next year or the one after unless you can buy some going to be better than the ones you just destroyed. Natural selection happens naturally and absolutely not by planned killing.
If you killed all the horses that were alive now you would not have better horses born by a miracle.
In my opinion most of the people in Europe and particularly in the United Kingdom are more stupid than their grandparents.
It’s called national decline
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Depression not dementia
We don’t discuss religion at work
I have studied and I’ve got my last degree
I have studied and I’ve got my last degree
My heart has learned its lessons one by one.
I’m a graduate of the grief academy
I didn’t know how painful it would be
When the man you love is here and then is gone
I’ve been studied and I got the third degree
The tears I wept could wash out the Dead Sea
Remove the salt and scour the shore till done
I’m a graduate of the grief academy
I know now I must die,we cannot flee
We turn to dust and that is not much fun
I have studied and I’ve got my last degree
Ii is not News, not for the BBC.
Unless you’re Stephen Hawkings, that great man
We’re graduates of the grief academy
We can’t control life with a self made plan
God is gone though prayer might well begin
I have suffered till I got a new degree
I’m a graduate of the grief academy
Better writing

You don’t have to do it dawn till dusk
Creative work — while not being on a par with, say, mining — can be a hard slog from morning to night. Many of those I spoke to write in short bursts. “It’s like Ribena — it’s always better when it’s stronger and less diluted,” said the novelist and memoirist Elizabeth Day, who works two hours in a sitting. Similarly, the poet Wendy Cope told me that she does two or three sessions of 40 minutes each; that’s as much as she can write in a day.
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unafraid of stating her sometimes fierce views. Her story collection “The Assassination of Margaret Thatcher” — its title story was the result of a painkiller-induced fantasy Mantel once had in the hospital — caused a literary maelstrom. Lord Tebbit, a former cabinet minister, called it “a sick book from a sick mind”; there were calls for a police investigation. (For her part, Mantel said she was “bemused” at the suggestion that “the police should interest themselves in the case of a fictional assassination of a person who was already dead.”)
Deeply intellectual in her thinking, Mantel was also candid about her personal struggles — with poverty, with early professional setbacks, with how people perceived her, with endometriosis and chronic, debilitating pain — and rigorous in her self-appraisal..
Mom.
No sound, no touch, no smell, no sight, no seeing.
In fields of lushest buttercups we ‘d lie
We’d watch the clouds as gently they blew by.
Love was born we thought would never die.
But you are gone, and so I sadly sigh
That love itself remains without your form
Yet tears of loss enfold me like a storm.
I knew you’d never hurt or do me harm.
I felt your smile’s embrace, so wide, so warm.
How is the world,now emptied of your being?
No sound, no touch, no smell, no sight, no seeing.
How is the world when you have gone ahead
Yet I must linger in this empty bed?
Yet those who’ved loved are grateful for that gift
Our sorrow is that life itself’s too swift
Ariel
Ariel the lioness of God
Hold me in your paws, don’t shed my blood
The drowned world
I recall the wet green smell of air
Walking with you sister down the lanes
Singing as we walked with open mouths.
Tasting the soft pureness of the rain.
In the woods we hoped see to see the deer
Children from the farm came out to play.
We soon picked up their accents and their grins,
The cow called sadly for its calf that day.
The dripping trees in sorrow wept to hear
The plaintive cow in grief beside the house
Little rivers ran along the road
I thought I saw a hawk descend and pounce.
Drown me with your tears you awful clouds
For all the world with sorrow’s well endowed
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The gravity of loss brought me to earth
The gravity of loss brought me to earth
Beneath the rotting leaves, I lay with worms. I wondered if I were of any worth No more to be enchanted by love’s mirth, I with unnamed particles was turned. The weight of loss bears down the heart to eart I did not know the way but saw a path While I slept a new design had formed I learned I need not think of what I’m worth My sorrow brought no guilt nor fear of wrath I am the eagle and the twisted worm In my little grave, I loved the earth. Like the adder, shocked into rebirth. I from silent underworld had learned Not to judge my soul nor think of worth. I shall not fear the flames of hell that burn When blackness is accepted, may one learn? The weight of loss breaks down the soul to earth With dusty shredded leaves, we then converse
Don’t lie so still
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Ah,brother I don’t want you to lie still
No blood to circulate,no thoughts,no will
No help,no humour.jokes no
sharp true eye
From our old shared pram,to live, to die.
I used to do your homework
late at night
Abstract thought to you was no delight.
You wondered over X and y and z
Preferred the shapes of Nature in your head.
I shall retain the memories of the good
You who taught me speech and hate and love
Where shore and country meet
I remember Arnside in the rain
I remember singing, country lanes
The joy of woods that run right to the shore
The happiness that makes the hearts deep core
Beyond imagination I was pulled
Staring from the Knott I saw the gulls
Tiny vultures, eagles flying low
Looking for drowned sheep upon the shore
Paradoxes contradictions faith.
Nothing living now will go to waste
Life and death, the host, the requiem mass
The living whole, the patient Death of God.













