A book has just come out_ called Stand Firm;resisting the self improvement craze by Svend Brinkmann
As someone said way back,if these books work why do people keep buying more of them?
My view is that you need to get to know yourself before you try to change.I suppose one way is psychotherapy but there are others… just self observation like:
Why do I not like receiving compliments?
Why do I leave things till the last minute?
I have a suspicion that knowing yourself will change you without any other actions.
The only valuable thing I have read is that we all suffer in life and it becomes worse if you criticise yourself for not feeling better.We have sad or fearful emotions for good reasons.Even depression has a value in slowing us down and letting us review our lives.
How my heart sings 