Category: Thinkings and poems

Acceptance may be the answer

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This is an interesting article about how acceptance is so important for us in order to live the best way we can. when we have problems,neuroses,illnesses etc.This website,The Negative Psychologist is one I came upon when reading a blog on WordPress.

http://www.thenegativepsychologist.com/2013/02/acceptance/

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Hold me

Aa I want someone to hold me me hold me tight

I want someone to hold me in the long hours of the night

The shelter of your presence the shelter of your arms

Hold me hold me darling give me peace and calm

I feel like I’m a baby thrown cruely from my nest

Or I’m a little suckling torn cruelly from the breast

Don’t leave me here without you for I don’t want to stay.

My legs have turned to jelly my heart beats in dismay.

The first loss is the mother and her sheltering gaze

We must turn and walk alone though our hearts are flayed

Emptying the Nest. Again.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/14/well/family/empty-nest-pandemic.html

by Katherine copyright

All joking aside, Ms. Woodard said that working-class parents may feel a child’s absence even more acutely. “Their house or apartment is smaller, so the kid’s presence is missed more,” she said. “Also, working-class parents probably raised that kid on their own.”

Regardless of the factors when a household is decanted of its young people, it’s clear that kids who leave their home need a lot of room to grow in, and that parents need to hone their listening skills.

Once, when Ms. Coburn asked a Washington

Memories of childhood

My sister oh my sister do not die

I feel that I still need you in my world

And Rivington we saw the larks upfly

Anglezarke the reservoir still swirled

Fresh water for old Liverpool’s

supply

I cannot go to Rivington alone

Nor Scotchmans Stump to see birds little bones

Once we lit a fire by a stream.

I’d like to go there now my love my queen.

Sturdy and determined she would climb.

Take the bus to Horwich it’s nearby

We saw ripe elderberries full and fine

In the distance Winter Hill stood high

The highest hill about so high austere

I won’t take you there sweet Eileen dear

On Pendle Hill

I see the shape of Pendle Hill ahead.

To this eerie hillside I’ve been

led

Hear they burned the witches in their rage

How far is hell from this this forsaken place?

Yet its shape still stirs me, it’s my home.

I might be a witch on here to roam

The River Ribble is a mighty flood

Flowing down the Pennines as one would

But if there were no gravity we’d see

Rivers running up into the trees.

The oceans would dry up or flood the land

Science is so hard to understand

So let’s just play some music on this Hill

Let’s dance and sing for if you won’t hat I will

Who should tell us?

No-one ever told me grief was fear
Or did they speak but I refused to hear?
Like cancer, blindness,  suicide and hate
The words  describe the folk of foreign states.

Vigilant and wary as we weep
We feel the loss of God and then our sleep
The world  no longer has a solid  floor
The foot is hesitant, the head is more.

The rudeness of  old friends can hurt like knives
They rush to tell you, you are no-one’s wife.
Though we know we  must meet God alone
The status of our soul is overthrown.

And yet we  see new visions and new ways
Lying with the worms,as beetles gaze
By Katherine

The soul may live

I cannot live without your love so dear.

I stretch my arm but you are nowhere near

My hand finds only emptiness at night.

I am afraid till I switch on the light

Once I saw you lying by my side

I forgot just then that you’d already died.

The knives are sharpened they will cut my heart

I can live without it and my charts

I am going nowhere I am stuck

Is this fate or is it just bad luck?

What is a United Kingdom?

United Kingdom means that England fought wars against Scotland and Ireland and Wales

Instead of making these countries independent they were linked together into one country. The United Kingdom that is why King Charles has visited the three other countries since he became king.

Given the history in food in the 20th century it’s not surprising that there is a lot of animosity towards. the English

The isles

The British isles consist of Tesco’s, Sainsbury’s and Morrisons. Westminster Cathedral and York Minster even though Yorkshire was once ruled by the Danes

Your social class consists of all the people that you call your friends and acquaintances.

And your social class needs work to keep it alive we call that working class. Upper class is a way of referring to to your friends that have died who are now in heaven waiting for you.

You don’t have to do anything you will become upper class when you die.

It is a sin to be born out of Wedlock. I think it’s in Shropshire because there is some music called

On Wenlock Edge.

Dear teacher Jonah was swallowed by a whale. during the night So he can’t come to school today the RSPCA are looking for the whale.

I live in the. United Kingdom if you can call this a life.

The Queen dies and nobody expresses surprise that we have a woman prime minister.

Noone labelled rishi sunak l as a Pakistani (that is a derogatory term used by racists who attack people from Asia not necessarily from Pakistan m)

So maybe we are all used to the idea it’s not only white people who can become members of parliament or prime minister.

And the general public have not talked about it so I think we are no getting used to the fact that we are are a multicultural society

And a multi-coloured society.

And a multi gendered society

We’ve always been a multi aged society but now it’s broader that it used to be as we live longer

And we are a multi sized society

From my art class

I will let you look at my art even though it’s not very good

Because it might encourage you you to go to an art class

You appreciate much more what you see when you have tried to do it yourself.

A few lines

A family doctor used to be a friend.

Now no doctor has an ear to bend

They don’t know how my artery contracts

Now their heads are empty of all facts

Soon we will have robots there instead

I wonder can I buy one for my bed?

I think that metal would not be so kind

A metal husband makes a woman blind

What about vibrators are they good?

I will only love one made of wood.

A plastic world would last for far too long

Worlds are so much better when we sing

At night we dream of of men whom we might kiss

Eyes are bad when old don’t let them miss.

In the end we must all this confess.

Only God can laugh at all this mess

Should your spouse be your best friend?

The problem as you grow older is, how do you let somebody close who’s basically a total stranger?” he said. “Nature came up with a trick: It’s called attraction. Sexual attraction brings down all the barriers, lets you get close to a new person in a physical way that you don’t get close to your family.”Over time, of course, this physical connection wanes. While many bemoan this loss of titillation, Dr. Levine celebrates it. “It’s smart,” he said.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/12/style/should-your-spouse-be-your-best-friend.html

What to Say (and What Not to Say) to Someone Who’s Grieving

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/14/smarter-living/what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-to-someone-whos-grieving.html

I tried to draw this from an old photograph when I went to the art class I realise it’s not very good but my sister likes it

Losing an estranged relative

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/05/well/family/grief-family-estrangement.html

Now working on a new study of how estrangement affects grief, Dr. Pillemer sees among those studied “unfinished business” and “bereavement-related regrets.” “They have more complicated grief,” he said in an interview. His advice, when possible, is to consider reconciliation, especially if death is expected or imminent, asking the question: “Will I feel better if I do this?” He said “anticipated regret” is very common. “People talked about it a lot. Will I miss the chance to reconnect?”

For Harriet Brown, 

Reasons You Don’t Listen I Psych Central

https://psychcentral.com/lib/reasons-you-dont-listen

According to the Oxford English dictionary, the word “hear” is defined as “perceive with the ear the sound made by (someone or something),” whereas the word “listen” is defined as “make an effort to hear something; be alert and ready to hear somethin

The deep drowned pearls

How can we accept the pain of loss

The love that filled the heart now emptiness.

The future is destroyed before it’s here

I did not know how grief brought with it fear.

Indifferent to our suffering life goes on

The Heart will split it is no longer one.

Half will go with you you and half will stay.

How can I find God, how can I pray?

I can’t see you in this little world

Only coral and the deep drowned pearls

A moment that changed me: ‘As I recovered from spinal surgery, the death of Princess Diana made me value life’

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/sep/14/a-moment-that-changed-me-as-i-recovered-from-spinal-surgery-the-death-of-princess-diana-made-me-value-life?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other