Questions about visiting relatives with Alzheimer’s disease from the New York Times

Reader:Iabsolutely understand the impulse to avoid watching a loved one suffer, but it’s one of the problems of our society that we look away from people who are struggling. Too often we deny the realities of aging. We deny the humanity of our elders and people with disabilities, and we’re materially diminished by that choice. The service you give your grandmother by not looking away in the midst of her suffering serves as an example to your children, and it shapes you as a person. Dial back visit frequency if you must, but don’t stop them altogether. — Mary