https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/feeling-bad-about-being-sad/
“When we feel bad about feeling sad, we often have internalized these social expectations to feel sad only briefly and to value and therefore be happy. A recent study in Emotion suggests that this social pressure not to feel bad can actually intensify sad feelings, increase levels of depression and reduce life satisfaction (February, 2012).
Studies on our judgments of social situations highlight that when we think about events in our lives, we rely heavily on the reactions of the people around us. How we believe others might respond to us has an impact on our emotions and how we feel about and express our emotions.
Believing that others expect us not to feel sad in any given situation sets us up for negative thinking and unhealthy responses that can intensify that bad feeling. For example, when we fail to meet others expectations, even in the way that we feel, we may tell ourselves that we are failures. These thoughts only intensify negative feelings.
So what can you do if you’re stuck in a cycle of feeling sad and feeling bad about feeling sad? There are a number of interventions that can be helpful, but you may want to start simply by recognizing your emotions. Understanding, naming and describing emotional experiences can reduce their intensity.
Untangling feelings of sadness that originate in negative life events from feeling bad about feeling sad can, in itself, begin to make you feel better. Beyond that, changing the messages that you tell yourself from “I shouldn’t feel this way” to “It hurts to feel this way, but sadness has a purpose” can help.”
How my heart sings 
Reblogged this on Beckie's Mental Mess and commented:
REBLOG: Katherine “Of How My Heart Speaks” – An interesting perspective on feeling sad.
Hello, Katherine… I found this entry interesting. I have to wonder what my therapist or psychiatrist thinks when I explain my depression to them, and what causes it. I know in the past, there have been a couple of times I’ve walked out of their offices feeling like nothing was accomplished, and then I feel worse. (I don’t know if that makes sense) but, it’s like a ball being deflated.
I am so sorrt.I know it is hard not to get someone who will listen properly.I think that is a very good simile.You hopes were dashed and you sank like the balloon.I think if one feels sad or depressed people think it is wrong.And it makes you more sensitive as well and I’ve had a so called friend use that against me when I asked him not to put 4 letter words in his emails like ” what you sent me is shit” He said I was wrong and moreover too sensitive.That is me.If other people don’t mind ok.He had not read it as he replied too quickly.It is horrible being labelled and getting depressed about being depressed.So glaf i it helpd.Becky
I think as individuals we all need to express ourselves in any means possible. If that means four letter words, so be it.
He was absolutely in the wrong for telling you are too sensitive. When I hear somebody tell me that-like my sister… My response is, “Try walking in my shoes for a week. You won’t even make it to Tuesday!”
I find that writing is cathartic and helps in so many way I never imagined. I fact, both my therapist & psychiatrist feel that this outlet of blogging has helped me more so than just my therapy alone.