I pretend

He was with me then
As I searched for a new place
In which I could live

But he does not speak
He is my companion
He wants to help me

I don’t believe yet
That he won’t come home ever.
But I just pretend

When I am with folk
They tell me I am stronger.
Oh,comparisons!

Yeah,I need no-one
No words of comfort or love
I must be a stone.

My stoicism
A wonder to the  heavens
My dead face fakes   peace.

Subtle is a word I love

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subtle
ˈsʌt(ə)l/
adjective
adjective: subtle; comparative adjective: subtler; superlative adjective: subtlest
  1. 1.
    (especially of a change or distinction) so delicate or precise as to be difficult to analyse or describe.
    “his language expresses rich and subtle meanings”
    antonyms: crude
  2. 2.
    making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something.
    “he tried a more subtle approach”
  3. 3.
    archaic
    crafty; cunning.
    “the subtle fiend dissembled”
    synonyms: ingenious, clever, skilful, adroit, cunning, crafty, wily, artful, devious

    “the plan was simple yet subtle”
    antonyms: crude, artless
Origin
Middle English (also in the sense ‘not easily understood’): from Old French sotil, from Latin subtilis .

Look before you weep

Brittle wings tease subtle angels

Give in turn

Look before you weep

Love of honey is the  fruit of swarms

Love is undefined

Love makes my  life swirl  around

Love thy neighbour as herself

Love will find a play

Fake love  makes war

Man does not live by bread and bones

Many a true word is spoken  by pests

Many are called but few are rising

Many hands make lights work

Marriages are made in Devon [ or  maybe Cornwall]

Marry  chaste, repent with pleasure

Might is trite

Misery loves to dump on you

Moderation in all  flings

Money doesn’t flow  with ease

Money isn’t ever bling

Money makes the world unsound

Money balks

More beer, less cocaine

Music has charms to soothe the ravaged beast

Nature adores a vacuum

Necessity is the mother of intention

Needs must when the devil arrives

Ne’er cast a clout till May is about

Never go to bed on an argument unless it has springs

Never judge a book by its lover

Never book a gift horse  with the truth

Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today

Never speak   if unwell or  dead

Never sell whales out of school

Nine tailors take a scan

No man can serve two mistresses,a wife and a concubine

No woman is an island

The  news is wood mews

No one can make you other

No pain, no explain

No pests in the knickers

Nothing flew under the sun

Nothing is certain but death and waxes

Nothing succeeds like access

Oil and water don’t  make pics

Once a  brief, always a brief

Once bitten, twice awry

One good burn deserves  some butter

One half of the world is unbalanced

Other people actually exist

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“There is nothing we could know about ourselves or another that can solve the problem that other people actually exist, and we are utterly dependent on them. . . . There is nothing to know apart from this, and everything else we know, or claim to know, or are supposed to know, or not know, follows on from this.”

Adam Phillips

In the Peak District

11960246_10206244970216606_3348782738523410254_n.jpgLand of   cruel rock and harsh descents
Into river valleys with stone houses.
On  the West side struck by chilly rain
Blown by the West wind.
Land of wildness  and birds,eagles even;
How it calls to me.
The vast space and  the peaceful green
The heather and the sheep.
The lark in the morning
And the joy of vision
Up high and higher into the void of the sky
We climbed with  strange lack of fear

My grandparents

10635818_10203509693636401_5369091882744322497_nGrandad looks  mixed European possibly a  little Jewish with that nose, while poor granny who died after her son was born was 100 %  Irish [ with a bit of Spanish perhaps from the Armada.
Grandad worked for 50 years in a  coal mine and raised 6 children alone.He took part in the Miner’s Strike and they had to go to soup kitchens for food.I suspect we were all very thin because my mother probably was not given very much to eat and she thought that was normal.When I was 22,I weighed 7.5 stone and I am quite tall.When I lay down my hip bones  were sticking out.]
I can see my sister and one of her sons in granny’s face but noone looks like grandad…

War in my genes [ not jeans]

 

510qPr41VwL._AC_UL390_SR300,390_FMwebp_QL65_My therapist says I’m neurotic because the Viking genes in me are warring with the Celts.But what about the Anglo-Saxons,Ancient Britons,Romans,Jews,Huguenots?
When you recall I was created from  just an ovum and a sperm it is pretty amazing that all these genes have replicated themselves and enjoying more struggle and strife.
I have Celtic feet which is very bad because they are very bony and the toes are too  long so they get bent.Meanwhile my skull is Scandinavian. Now that’s two different races in my skeleton already.I am   pretty sure  if I should vote Remain as I am already European. like most “English” people here.
What is odd is 2 people  I know, who are from countries outside  of Europe,are against “foreigners” but their husbands were British and now they have British passports.But  strictly speaking,to Nigel Farage  and his supporters they are not British.So their position  is odd.I must tell the therapist unless she’s been  sent  to Yarl’s Wood.

Ben Tallon, the artist who learned to use mistakes

I wrote a post last week about how when he spilled a bottle of ink he used the result to make an image.

https://wordscat.wordpress.com/2016/06/16/made-by-accident/

 

Here is a fuller account of his art.

http://www.itsnicethat.com/articles/ben-tallon-freelancing-champagne-wax-crayons

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Diving into the Wreck by Adrienne Rich

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems-and-poets/poets/detail/adrienne-rich

First having read the book of myths,
and loaded the camera,
and checked the edge of the knife-blade,
I put on
the body-armor of black rubber
the absurd flippers
the grave and awkward mask.
I am having to do this
not like Cousteau with his
assiduous team
aboard the sun-flooded schooner
but here alone.

There is a ladder.
The ladder is always there
hanging innocently
close to the side of the schooner.
We know what it is for,
we who have used it.
Otherwise
it is a piece of maritime floss
some sundry equipment.

I go down.
Rung after rung and still
the oxygen immerses me
the blue light
the clear atoms
of our human air.
I go down.
My flippers cripple me,
I crawl like an insect down the ladder
and there is no one
to tell me when the ocean
will begin.

First the air is blue and then
it is bluer and then green and then
black I am blacking out and yet
my mask is powerful
it pumps my blood with power
the sea is another story
the sea is not a question of power
I have to learn alone
to turn my body without force
in the deep element.

And now: it is easy to forget
what I came for
among so many who have always
lived here
swaying their crenellated fans
between the reefs
and besides
you breathe differently down here.

I came to explore the wreck.
The words are purposes.
The words are maps.
I came to see the damage that was done
and the treasures that prevail.
I stroke the beam of my lamp
slowly along the flank
of something more permanent
than fish or weed

the thing I came for:
the wreck and not the story of the wreck
the thing itself and not the myth
the drowned face always staring
toward the sun
the evidence of damage
worn by salt and away into this threadbare beauty
the ribs of the disaster
curving their assertion
among the tentative haunters.

This is the place.
And I am here, the mermaid whose dark hair
streams black, the merman in his armored body.
We circle silently
about the wreck
we dive into the hold.
I am she: I am he

whose drowned face sleeps with open eyes
whose breasts still bear the stress
whose silver, copper, vermeil cargo lies
obscurely inside barrels
half-wedged and left to rot
we are the half-destroyed instruments
that once held to a course
the water-eaten log
the fouled compass

We are, I am, you are
by cowardice or courage
the one who find our way
back to this scene
carrying a knife, a camera
a book of myths
in which
our names do not appear.

  A tale of married life

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By Katherine
Stan and Mary went in town
To buy Stan a new dressing gown.
But he wanted a woollen one
In our March that is not on.
The shops are full of summer clothes
But Stan’s not warm enough for those.
Mary likes to look around
But see how old Stan frowns

.So Mary says,I’ll go online
I’m sure I’ll find some fully lined
Made of wool and acrylic…
Them you can make your pick.

Thank you,Mary,you are kind
despite that brilliant,wandering mind.
I am the best dressed man intown
And soon I’ll have my gown.

Would you like cafe au lait?
I have my pension,I shall pay.
Very nice,dear Mary said…
I’d like a piece of bread.

Won’t you have a slice of cake?
I know it’s not quite what I make.
No,just plain bread,sweet Mary said
She then turned very red.

Mary,you look very hot
Is it healthy in this spot.
The central heating is too high…
She gave a weary sigh.

They drank their coffee and made jokes
About old folk who never spoke…
They bought some fresh fish for Emile..
They alway shop with zeal.
..
When they got home.Stan dialled Dave
Who told him he was very brave
and not to stand near a bus door…
Or he’d fall on the floor.
.
Oh,how i’d like to lie down there
With my mistress Annie fair.
but Mary is at home today
So i’ll just have to pray.

If you’re in pain and can’t have sex,
They say that prayer is second best
Morphine is so hard to get…
and it makes me feel sick.

So tomorrow Mary works
Stan and Annie have their perks
Dave calls round to bath the cat…
How obscene is that?

If you would like your cat washed
Or if your shopping has got squashed
Just dial 99999
The service is divine!

The unfamiliar

 

We’ve already seen that life is about living the questions, that the unknown is what drives science, and that the most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. John Keats wrote of this art of remaining in doubt “without any irritable reaching after fact & reason” and famously termed it “negative capability.” But count on Anaïs Nin to articulate familiar truths in the most exquisitely poetic way possible, peeling away at the most profound and aspirational aspects of what it means to be human.

 

Anaïs Nin on Embracing the Unfamiliar