They say that some marriages are between similar people and others are of complementary types.I believe mine was the latter.So when a partner leaves or dies or evaporates the remaining one may take on some of the characteristics od the lost partner.
So I was looking forward to getting
1.Good judgement of people
2.An ability to read faces with uncanny accuracy and predict action
3.A warm and compelling personality
4.A possibly irrational hatred of Lord Soper and Dr Ian Paisley
5.A keen interest in politics and discussing them all the time
6. An ability to eat fish without vomiting
7.Knowledge of poetry,art and writing and ability to pass a doctoral oral exam conducted in Latin
8.Losing the ability to spot the criminal in the first 3 minutes of a thriller
9. Forgetting I ever taught anyone anything hence not causing trouble in public by explaining things in minute and exact detail in the belief people will be grateful
10 A liking for whiskey so I can drink the bottle in the sideboard
What did I get?
1. An unsurpassed and previously non-existent skill in burning pans [6 top quality ones so far] by failing to put water in after emptying and not turning off the gas.
2..A knack of leaving the hot tap running before going out for a few hours.
3.A deep rage whenever I see an expressionless face like our leader
4.An inability to waken up in the morning
Let’s see what the next year brings..bankruptcy if the pans burn on and on and the electricity bill goes up.
How my heart sings 
I believe mine the latter too. However when you are with anyone so much of the time when you loose them a chasm is difficult to come to terms with and time heals… slowly. The sense of loss is profound. >
Welcome to blog land,Trefoil.I loved your photos.Yes, I agree.We are no longer the self we were when we were with them.We don’t know who we are really.But maybe it will get better.I feel a bit like a leper sometimes.