Day: May 18, 2025

NYTimes: Why Talking About Our Problems Helps So Much (and How to Do It)

Why Talking About Our Problems Helps So Much (and How to Do It) https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/03/smarter-living/talking-out-problems.html?smid=nytcore-android-share

Love will need no trick

In my despair I felt that I was stuck
Paralysed by  grief and guilt I failed
By the end I had tried every trick

From prayer unthought to deeps of logic black
My  life, my engine ,juddered off the  rails
I hated God and of “his” Church was  sick

Starving  and alone I was in shock
The death of one I loved   had made me frail
By the end I had tried every trick


I felt  Love’s arms around me, death was blocked
I knew   this goodness,  why else would I wail?
I   thought I hated God  but Love had struck

Warm and golden light  that  did me hold
Where are you now when Evil has grown bold?
Kind despair  that  made me long time sit
By the end I learned Love needs no trick

You have not failed you have learned something  important but different from what you expected

I was trying to connect a Chromebook to the internet via my Wi-Fi

It did not respond when I tapped my Wi-Fi provider. After a lot of effort I discovered I could just about see the settings when the screen was in a high intensity mode

It appeared to be connected to EE and then wanted to charge me for using it but I don’t know who’s EE broadband it was connected to.

I’ve never spent a lot of time losing it the settings but I’m glad that I did spend this time because I understand a lot more about the settings now than I did before.

Eventually I managed to get rid of EE and put my BT one in its place

Now all that took a long time.

And what I do is the following

I spend a maximum of 25 minutes with a problem and then I leave it until the next day

I repeat this for as many days as it takes.

In between my brain has been working on what’s happened and so I find it easier to go back into the problem

Of course it’s very hard sometimes to leave a problem

I’ve still not connected it because it comes up with the phrase

Network not available.

If you have good eyesight you will probably do this problem solving more quickly than I can

The tiny print is very hard to read even with a magnifying glass and several pairs of spectacles

No I feel confident that I know how to do that but not just that but I’ve learned how to do several other things.

I first learned this technique of doing only 20 or 25 minutes at a time when I bought a new phone and by some horrible chance I touched Norwegian as the language by mistake and it took me four days of 25 minutes a day to change it back to English again

No one I knew at the time knew what to do so I just had to keep trying different possibilities.

So the most important thing is: it’s better not to use a lot of energy pressurising yourself to solve the problem quickly

If it is urgent then you’re better off calling in an expert to help you.

Sometimes my memory works in the same way.