Simple presence is not a demand

It seems that without bodily presence which can be felt without necessarily making a demand 

Without bodily presence when the only presence is in writing 

There seems to be no way that that can be shared without being a demand of some sort

And so what is most important cannot be experienced 

So everything in our modern culture our modern media where we can phone or email or message someone we are always making a demand on them 

We could be in  the same house 

Absorbed in something else 

And simply be a presence 

This problem is insoluble and therefore eternal or everlasting. 

A problem cannot be solved on the same level on which it exists 

The answer must be that there is no answer 

 Alice in Wonderland was a book not a letter. 

Did Sylvia create a new false self to respond to her mother’s letters? 

That self has survived where she did not. 

Could you be cruel enough to let your real self survive ?