Competitive grief
Is that a game we play in public?
I’ve lost six friends this year
You lost only a cat,
She lost her husband.
Somethings we’d never share anyway
I lost my pride,my job and my eyesight
You’d never know but for the white stick
And my coat is five years old.. or maybe ten
And got married just a year after her husband
fell off the roof onto the concrete yard
So what’s her claim to mourning?
It was just another topic to write about.
She made money.
Think of that.
Surely, in the USA , nobody would object to it
We know how important numbers and measurements are
In this society
We ourselves are numbers to the government
So much easier to deal with.
But how can grief be measured?
Good actors can play the part
Others are more circumspect or shy.
In this society we forget
Not everything can be measured except metaphorically…….
Like,I’ve got your measure.
Competitive mourning,,,
Why not have a Game?
Why not have it in the Olympics?
Why not have it on TV nightly.
Why not get the Queen to give us medals?
Just passing a remark,as it were.
No offence intended.
But it was taken like a dagger to the throat,
Then they blame you for having such thin, thin skin


Katherine this is brilliant writing. I am so sorry for the place of pain behind it but you have turned something so painful into something we can all relate to so well and feel so powerfully. A masterful piece of writing.
Thank you very much,dear friend.I think I wrote it soon after a loss.If I can get the emotion into the words it seems good.Sometimes I can’t manage it