Friends who are enemies?

Before adding to my previous thoughts about a friend saying a rather unpleasant thing about my blog,I feel I should tell people to trust their instincts.After the event I described I realised I had always felt uncomfortable when alone with her but I had ignored this feeling.So maybe we should listen to our hearts when considering becoming a friend to a new person.See whether they respect  us;see if they ask intrusive questions or listen to how they discuss other people.If they always describe other friends in a perjorative way that might be a warning

After I wrote about whether I could continue to be a friend to someone who had said disgusting ,hurtful  things  to me and also despised my poetry ,I realised  that the decision would be different if  it were a member of my own family or a close friend I saw regularly.
In that case I would probably know the person more thoroughly and perhaps be able to guess why  they wanted to   warn me or hurt me.I might just dismiss it.
Someone might say,You need to know what men are  really like.However authors who write books often have their photo on the dust jacket somewhere.And is it true anyway that men  would visit my blog just to be thrilled by my face? It seems unlikely.
And if it were someone I saw every week I might guess they had a problem on their mind.I might know what it was and hence be able to understand.I used to lived near this lady ; for many years we have lived at a distance and only spoken  on the phone.I thought I knew her problems in life which are quite serious.But if   she were overwhelmed all of a sudden and came out with this it would seem more obvious to me.She had advised me 5 years ago to stop writing which I ignored.It is very sad but I feel I am more threatened by her tham anyone else.