Something I have noticed in myself is that when others do something hurtful I assume [unconsciously] that it is deliberate.Whereas I know in myself that I am usually like that when I am ill or tired.So I find it good to remind myself that I don’t know why they did it bit maybe it was an accident.If it was very frequent then I’d stop seeing them if possible.Or only see them in a group.
Often what we do is an uncontrolled reaction to what another has done to me.Or even that it’s a reaction to standing on a needle or a sharp stone.Ever told off an inanimate object for daring to hurt you.Things seem to impinge on us when we are weak.
Some have thicker skins.
How my heart sings 
Who can ever forget that scene from ‘Fawlty Towers’ where Basil beats his car with a branch!
A good example!
Thank you,Janet.I like that the cat’s ear is just touching the other cat.I like to draw 2 or 3 things just touching or being near,
A good point Katherine, and lovely image. xxx