Changed perceptions

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When I was growing up as a Christian I was taught about sin,punishment,hell and heaven.
The implication seemed to be that if you found you were inclined to envy or anger or other sins,you could change by will power.Now,may be you can,but often you can’t so you have an extra sin and anxiety that you are a grave sinner.
Now I have been thinking that it may be Perception which matters.If you can change your perception your actions and thoughts will be changed,It’s like changing your perspective or changing your focus,
And about imaginatively exploring what that person who  tempts you to anger,lust,greed,envy, is truly feeling.So you get out of the two person

ME and YOU
It’s like a three person relationship.I can see my views and your views and somehow
then see both differently.I am finding it hard to put into words,If we can change our perception we will change our thoughts and actions