Get a toy boy

Dear Aggie

My husband said he never wanted to see me again  in May and  a week later he died.I did nurse him at home for ages single handed and got a bit irritable now and then.

Is there a God and does he  give people what they want like that?

Fearfully

Anxious Alice

Dear Alice

Do you really think a journalist can answer your question? If prayer worked  in that simple way we’d be in a different world.You need a theologian or a rabbi or somesuch

Don’t you see that a husband who said that must have been ill already and his death would have come soon anyway.It was merely a symptom of his suffering.We all get a bit irritable when tired so your best course is to be a loving mother to yourself.

Lie in bed reading, Hello.Eat nice food and go out with toy boys.Or stay in with one.You’ll feel quite different after a few weeks like that.Get a cat and  play games.Anything light is good.A light toy boy is always handy.Otherwise , try a stuffed animal to hug.My friend has a big rubber frog! Go for a manicure and have your hair done.Waste money on trivia and  lie on the beach in summer.

Hope you feel better soon

Aggie