Restraint

Ann Brenoff: Restraint Is A Virtue I’m Working On It

 
Hand in colorize

Ann Brenoff: Restraint Is A Virtue I’m Working On It.

I was thinking how we are often told we don’t work hard enough,we procrastinate and should have worked ourselves into the ground.

On the other hand how often are we told to be more restrained?If anything we’ve been told letting out our anger,rage,irritation is good for us  or makes us feel better[what about the other?]

But now we learn expressing anger makes us more angry.Counting to ten or fifty is better.

Also,it’s bad for us to exaggerate our feelings..maybe to make a good story for our friend

Restraint is also known as temperance [nothing to do with  alcohol].

I suppose like the weather moderate is safer.We can’t control the weather but we can bite our lips

Sometimes I feel there are no grown ups anymore!

                  Misreading between the lines

                  ??????????There is  no doubt we  all do this reading between the lines…sometimes consciously,sometimes unwittingly.We attempt to fill in gaps in our knowledge.There are a few problems.One is in cultural differences which may affect us here on the web.We come from very different societies and the meanings of certain words and attitudes does vary considerably;

                  And another factor is our own desires which we are  not always aware of.We may then interpret someone’s words in a way which fits with our desire or interpret someone using bad language to signify that they do not respect us.If the Soaps are an indication it seems in much of Britain every other word has just four letters. which to me shows poverty of feelings and language… but it means many people are not offended by them…But many still are.

                  So wishful thinking,ignorance,wanting to believe something,,,,,..cultural ignorance.. all these may make communication difficult.Perhaps we should not read too much between the lines at the beginning of a friendship…and be wary of imputing desires to another when they seem to offer what we are hoping for.

                  It’s a bit like the way here nearly everyone puts “love” or “xxxxx” at the end of a letter or email… so that in reality it means  almost nothing at all;Words become meaningless through overuse and we  will have to judge in other ways what a person feels for us..

                  Some people are more prone to seeing patterns or meanings in things which can be creative but it can also lead to paranoia in the insecure or lonely individual who has become the center of a huge important plot.When I was ill as a child I remember seeing faces leering at me from the wallpaper and the oil heater hissed menacingly,,, it was the fever but I was afraid…We need friends to tell us if our interpretations seem sensible and to comfort us when we are low.. and we need to be wary of assuming too much especially when we come from different cultures

                  My sins of humor

                  I shall stray for you daily.
                  Never finish before you sleep; do it on the job.
                  I shall mate patiently in this dull room.
                  Please write your answers down with the winks provided.no pens allowed in the exam hall.Use your head
                  In case you sigh in the theatre, please give the nurse your menu choices prior to the exasperation.
                  We pray and mail every witch away.

                  Our Father’s witch in eleven,colored be the rhyme

                  Why do we say Embrace before meals: it was an error of Cockney slang,,

                  Why We Should Write

                  Really fine

                  dreamgirl2's avatarParadise on Paper

                  By: Rebecca Taylor

                   

                  The writing world is often scary. Like the globe, it stretches far and wide and there are many paths and avenues we can follow. For example, should we make writing our careers or should we choose a career that is a bit more certain. I opted for the latter option, based on sound advice years ago. This doesn’t mean, I don’t still write as you can see because you’re reading this. Despite the fact that it is scary and exhilarating, often all at the same time, why should we write?

                   

                  1. I think it’s in our blood. If we’re meant to do something we will, for me, writing is one of those things, it is therapeutic, it is good entertainment – I can spend lots of time doing it without spending much money.

                   

                  2. We have something to say, and we need to say it…

                  View original post 266 more words

                  Little Gidding by T.S.Elliot [ from Columbia University ]

                  T. S. Eliot’s Little Gidding

                  Little Gidding

                  I

                  T. S. Eliot PortraitMidwinter spring is its own season
                  Sempiternal though sodden towards sundown,
                  Suspended in time, between pole and tropic.
                  When the short day is brightest, with frost and fire,
                  The brief sun flames the ice, on pond and ditches,
                  In windless cold that is the heart’s heat,
                  Reflecting in a watery mirror
                  A glare that is blindness in the early afternoon.
                  And glow more intense than blaze of branch, or brazier,
                  Stirs the dumb spirit: no wind, but pentecostal fire
                  In the dark time of the year. Between melting and freezing
                  The soul’s sap quivers. There is no earth smell
                  Or smell of living thing. This is the spring time
                  But not in time’s covenant. Now the hedgerow
                  Is blanched for an hour with transitory blossom
                  Of snow, a bloom more sudden
                  Than that of summer, neither budding nor fading,
                  Not in the scheme of generation.
                  Where is the summer, the unimaginable Zero summer?

                  If you came this way,
                  Taking the route you would be likely to take
                  From the place you would be likely to come from,
                  If you came this way in may time, you would find the hedges
                  White again, in May, with voluptuary sweetness.
                  It would be the same at the end of the journey,
                  If you came at night like a broken king,
                  If you came by day not knowing what you came for,
                  It would be the same, when you leave the rough road
                  And turn behind the pig-sty to the dull facade
                  And the tombstone. And what you thought you came for
                  Is only a shell, a husk of meaning
                  From which the purpose breaks only when it is fulfilled
                  If at all. Either you had no purpose
                  Or the purpose is beyond the end you figured
                  And is altered in fulfilment. There are other places
                  Which also are the world’s end, some at the sea jaws,
                  Or over a dark lake, in a desert or a city–
                  But this is the nearest, in place and time,
                  Now and in England.

                  If you came this way,
                  Taking any route, starting from anywhere,
                  At any time or at any season,
                  It would always be the same: you would have to put off
                  Sense and notion. You are not here to verify,
                  Instruct yourself, or inform curiosity
                  Or carry report. You are here to kneel
                  Where prayer has been valid. And prayer is more
                  Than an order of words, the conscious occupation
                  Of the praying mind, or the sound of the voice praying.
                  And what the dead had no speech for, when living,
                  They can tell you, being dead: the communication
                  Of the dead is tongued with fire beyond the language of the living.
                  Here, the intersection of the timeless moment
                  Is England and nowhere. Never and always.

                  II

                  T. S. Eliot at his typewriterAsh on an old man’s sleeve
                  Is all the ash the burnt roses leave.
                  Dust in the air suspended
                  Marks the place where a story ended.
                  Dust inbreathed was a house-
                  The walls, the wainscot and the mouse,
                  The death of hope and despair,
                  This is the death of air.

                  There are flood and drouth
                  Over the eyes and in the mouth,
                  Dead water and dead sand
                  Contending for the upper hand.
                  The parched eviscerate soil
                  Gapes at the vanity of toil,
                  Laughs without mirth.
                  This is the death of earth.

                  Water and fire succeed
                  The town, the pasture and the weed.
                  Water and fire deride
                  The sacrifice that we denied.
                  Water and fire shall rot
                  The marred foundations we forgot,
                  Of sanctuary and choir.
                  This is the death of water and fire.

                  In the uncertain hour before the morning
                  Near the ending of interminable night
                  At the recurrent end of the unending
                  After the dark dove with the flickering tongue
                  Had passed below the horizon of his homing
                  While the dead leaves still rattled on like tin
                  Over the asphalt where no other sound was
                  Between three districts whence the smoke arose
                  I met one walking, loitering and hurried
                  As if blown towards me like the metal leaves
                  Before the urban dawn wind unresisting.
                  And as I fixed upon the down-turned face
                  That pointed scrutiny with which we challenge
                  The first-met stranger in the waning dusk
                  I caught the sudden look of some dead master
                  Whom I had known, forgotten, half recalled
                  Both one and many; in the brown baked features
                  The eyes of a familiar compound ghost
                  Both intimate and unidentifiable.
                  So I assumed a double part, and cried
                  And heard another’s voice cry: “What! are you here?”
                  Although we were not. I was still the same,
                  Knowing myself yet being someone other–
                  And he a face still forming; yet the words sufficed
                  To compel the recognition they preceded.
                  And so, compliant to the common wind,
                  Too strange to each other for misunderstanding,
                  In concord at this intersection time
                  Of meeting nowhere, no before and after,
                  We trod the pavement in a dead patrol.
                  I said: “The wonder that I feel is easy,
                  Yet ease is cause of wonder. Therefore speak:
                  I may not comprehend, may not remember.”
                  And he: “I am not eager to rehearse
                  My thoughts and theory which you have forgotten.
                  These things have served their purpose: let them be.
                  So with your own, and pray they be forgiven
                  By others, as I pray you to forgive
                  Both bad and good. Last season’s fruit is eaten
                  And the fullfed beast shall kick the empty pail.
                  For last year’s words belong to last year’s language
                  And next year’s words await another voice.
                  But, as the passage now presents no hindrance
                  To the spirit unappeased and peregrine
                  Between two worlds become much like each other,
                  So I find words I never thought to speak
                  In streets I never thought I should revisit
                  When I left my body on a distant shore.
                  Since our concern was speech, and speech impelled us
                  To purify the dialect of the tribe
                  And urge the mind to aftersight and foresight,
                  Let me disclose the gifts reserved for age
                  To set a crown upon your lifetime’s effort.
                  First, the cold fricton of expiring sense
                  Without enchantment, offering no promise
                  But bitter tastelessness of shadow fruit
                  As body and sould begin to fall asunder.
                  Second, the conscious impotence of rage
                  At human folly, and the laceration
                  Of laughter at what ceases to amuse.
                  And last, the rending pain of re-enactment
                  Of all that you have done, and been; the shame
                  Of things ill done and done to others’ harm
                  Which once you took for exercise of virtue.
                  Then fools’ approval stings, and honour stains.
                  From wrong to wrong the exasperated spirit
                  Proceeds, unless restored by that refining fire
                  Where you must move in measure, like a dancer.”
                  The day was breaking. In the disfigured street
                  He left me, with a kind of valediction,
                  And faded on the blowing of the horn.

                  III

                  There are three conditions which often look alike
                  Yet differ completely, flourish in the same hedgerow:
                  Attachment to self and to things and to persons, detachment
                  From self and from things and from persons; and, growing between them, indifference
                  Which resembles the others as death resembles life,
                  Being between two lives – unflowering, between
                  The live and the dead nettle. This is the use of memory:
                  For liberation – not less of love but expanding
                  Of love beyond desire, and so liberation
                  From the future as well as the past. Thus, love of a country
                  Begins as an attachment to our own field of action
                  And comes to find that action of little importance
                  Though never indifferent. History may be servitude,
                  History may be freedom. See, now they vanish,
                  The faces and places, with the self which, as it could, loved them,
                  To become renewed, transfigured, in another pattern.
                  Sin is Behovely, but
                  All shall be well, and
                  All manner of thing shall be well.
                  If I think, again, of this place,
                  And of people, not wholly commendable,
                  Of not immediate kin or kindness,
                  But of some peculiar genius,
                  All touched by a common genius,
                  United in the strife which divided them;
                  If I think of a king at nightfall,
                  Of three men, and more, on the scaffold
                  And a few who died forgotten
                  In other places, here and abroad,
                  And of one who died blind and quiet,
                  Why should we celebrate
                  These dead men more than the dying?
                  It is not to ring the bell backward
                  Nor is it an incantation
                  To summon the spectre of a Rose.
                  We cannot revive old factions
                  We cannot restore old policies
                  Or follow an antique drum.
                  These men, and those who opposed them
                  And those whom they opposed
                  Accept the constitution of silence
                  And are folded in a single party.
                  Whatever we inherit from the fortunate
                  We have taken from the defeated
                  What they had to leave us – a symbol:
                  A symbol perfected in death.
                  And all shall be well and
                  All manner of thing shall be well
                  By the purification of the motive
                  In the ground of our beseeching.

                  IV

                  The dove descending breaks the air
                  With flame of incandescent terror
                  Of which the tongues declare
                  The one dischage from sin and error.
                  The only hope, or else despair
                  Lies in the choice of pyre of pyre-
                  To be redeemed from fire by fire.

                  Who then devised the torment? Love.
                  Love is the unfamiliar Name
                  Behind the hands that wove
                  The intolerable shirt of flame
                  Which human power cannot remove.
                  We only live, only suspire
                  Consumed by either fire or fire.

                  V

                  What we call the beginning is often the end
                  And to make and end is to make a beginning.
                  The end is where we start from. And every phrase
                  And sentence that is right (where every word is at home,
                  Taking its place to support the others,
                  The word neither diffident nor ostentatious,
                  An easy commerce of the old and the new,
                  The common word exact without vulgarity,
                  The formal word precise but not pedantic,
                  The complete consort dancing together)
                  Every phrase and every sentence is an end and a beginning,
                  Every poem an epitaph. And any action
                  Is a step to the block, to the fire, down the sea’s throat
                  Or to an illegible stone: and that is where we start.
                  We die with the dying:
                  See, they depart, and we go with them.
                  We are born with the dead:
                  See, they return, and bring us with them.
                  The moment of the rose and the moment of the yew-tree
                  Are of equal duration. A people without history
                  Is not redeemed from time, for history is a pattern
                  Of timeless moments. So, while the light fails
                  On a winter’s afternoon, in a secluded chapel
                  History is now and England.

                  With the drawing of this Love and the voice of this Calling

                  We shall not cease from exploration
                  And the end of all our exploring
                  Will be to arrive where we started
                  And know the place for the first time.
                  T. S. Eliot- 1955Through the unknown, unremembered gate
                  When the last of earth left to discover
                  Is that which was the beginning;
                  At the source of the longest river
                  The voice of the hidden waterfall
                  And the children in the apple-tree

                  Not known, because not looked for
                  But heard, half-heard, in the stillness
                  Between two waves of the sea.
                  Quick now, here, now, always–
                  A condition of complete simplicity
                  (Costing not less than everything)
                  And all shall be well and
                  All manner of thing shall be well
                  When the tongues of flames are in-folded
                  Into the crowned knot of fire
                  And the fire and the rose are one.

                  The Little Gidding is the last of T. S. Eliot’s Four Quartets. For a good biographical site on Eliot and some analysis of his poetry, go to the Academy of American Poet’s website.

                  Yiddish phrases and words

                  I asked him to explain how light waves..
                  And why Plato lived in a cave
                  Fertummelt,he cried
                  I’m perplexed,besides.
                  You’ll soon have me digging your grave

                  My husband is feeling ferdrayt.
                  He has been angered by his overlong wait.
                  The doctor’s fercockt
                  The lavatory got blocked
                  No wonder we’re both in this state.

                  My friend said,why was I farpitzs,
                  As if I took tea at the Ritz.
                  I cried,What’s it to you
                  If I do what I do…
                  You are driving me out of my wits

                  FERCOCKT: All fucked up.

                  FERDRAYT: Dizzy, confused.

                  FARPITZS: All dressed up.

                  FERMISHT: All shook up, as in an acute disturbance.

                  FERSHLUGINA: Beaten up, messed up, no good.

                  FERSHTAY?: Do you understand.

                  FERSHTINKINER: A stinker, a louse.

                  FERTUMMELT: Befuddled, confused.

                  Snakes and poetry

                   

                   
                  Friedrich Nietzsche

                  “The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind.”

                   

                  11257109-old-mosaic

                  Snake              by D.H. Lawrence

                  Knitting my day together

                   

                  I knit the rhythmic pattern of my day,
                  the complex stitches make me sure to err
                  and yet I have no fear for on this way
                  I knit or unknit with my calm and care.

                  With warp and weft both in their rightful place
                  with right and wrong accepted and allowed
                  I knit quite slowly,saying no to haste.
                  I worship with my truth and am not cowed.

                  As I go back to fix a stitch which is not right
                  No longer do I castigate myself..
                  For in a flash I saw as if in light
                  That to and fro are both a part of health.

                  For now I know we all at times must fail
                  Such is the truth of our life’s measured tale

                  Become a better leaver

                   
                   

                  since i lost you i have lost

                  the keys to my heart
                  the front door key
                  my mobile
                  and my money;now all i have is a large tube of ibuprofen gel max strength
                  and some feathers from the tail of a baby wood pigeon
                  that flew into our house when i left the back door open

                  maybe i need better boundaries
                  closed doors
                  and windows

                  the wood pigeon was so strong its agitation rocked the front door like a thundergod
                  like you,it did not realise
                  there are easier ways to leave
                  than smashing through glass
                  leaving shards to pierce my heart
                  not to mention my feet

                  become a better leaver
                  have mercy on those other lovers
                  for charm wears thin but courtesy is everlasting
                  like love itself

                  copyright

                  Teachers who touch our hearts

                   

                   P1000074
                   
                  Leaves are the placet  along with roots where communication happens.When we grow beans the plants at first have just two leaves and need warmth and light to develop…. and so do human beings,We need food as well.
                   6537257_5e744bdc01_m Door in the wall

                   

                   
                  photo02251

                   

                   

                   

                   

                   

                   

                   

                   

                   

                  Thank you

                  Thank you for your words and letters
                  Thank you for the joy you gave.
                  Thank you for your fun and humor.
                  Thank you the gift of love.

                  Thank you for imagination.
                  Thank you for your unique view.
                  Thank you for your craft and labour
                  Thank you for just being you.

                  Thank you,thank  you,thank you,thank
                  These are words that we all say.
                  Thank you,thank you,thank you thank.
                  May love and joy be yours this day

                   

                  Pray for us now and at the hour of our death.Amen

                  .?????????????Photo by Katherine

                  .I have never studied photography and got into by accident.This was a photo taken in sunshine which gave  deep shadows..I use software to manipulate the  colors. To  me,there is something holy about the human body which is manifested in this image.That is why I chose the title I did… there;s a great poignancy and feeling of th holiness of being and of life itself…The original photo was not as interesting but in these colors  it becomes quite different and mysterious.

                   

                  God’s Frozen Peope

                  I am descended from the Vikings who  conquered Northern Britain… before you attack me,remember we are God’s frozen people.We have no manuscripts as we were all  thick as planks and had no pens or ink… but we did see a lot of burning bushes… we had set fire to them ! And we did hear a voice,calling.

                  Let my people hoe..

                  He meant us.So we invented  growing vegetables and hoes for  hours but we never heard his voice again… but we live in  hoe-p!

                  Of course we are no longer frozen with our heating  etc.. maybe that’s the problem

                   

                   

                  Topics for small talk at the bus stop or in the Coffee Shop

                  • ballet-to-the-people-checks-her-playlist-10001
                  • -1.What newspaper do you read,i?

                    0.Do you have a blog?What about? Why?
                    1.The weather [in UK]
                    2.Health problems…. or possible ones.
                    3.The government and their folly
                    4,Your clothes
                    5 Recipes.
                    6.Light novels you have read.
                    7 Stuff from the newspaper
                    8.TV if you can get to yourself to watch it.
                    9.Your car or bicycle or your  feet.
                    10 Your new camera/computer/i pad/u pad/her pad/ur pad/z pad.
                    11,interior decor.
                    12.Money..the recession and price of food.
                    13 Religion
                    14.Atheism
                    15 Indifference
                    16 Is depression an epidemic? Do you worry too much.Or talk too much.
                    17 Are your boundaries strong enough? Armed or irrritable?
                    18 your sex life or somebody else’s or the lack of
                    19,Is pornography responsible for crime?
                    20 Crime.
                    21 The police
                    22 The riots.
                    23 The strike planned by teachers
                    24 14/12/14
                    25 Xmas
                    26 Baking.
                    27 Xmas presents
                    28.Family problems.Madness,joy,humor
                    29 People who don’t speak to you or vice versa
                    30 Pets

                    s_n03_00830740
                    31 Breadmakers.
                    32.Pop stars
                    33 Schools.
                    34 Newspaper.
                    35 Disabled people’s benefits being cut back.
                    36.Should you buy an Amazon Fire?
                    37 Are women too like men now?How?
                    38.Do you think life was better in the past?Which era?
                    39.Do you use a table cloth.
                    40.Do you wear a nightie or pyjamas or a night shirt or your underwear in bed and if so why have you picked that one?
                    41 Should people wear old clothes at home and only dress nicely if going out?
                    42 Why do so many people wear jeans?
                    43.Is tencel better than denim for jeans.
                    44.Should fat people dress to look thinner or dress how they please?Sent to Siberia
                    45.Why David Cameron has no expression on his face… even now!
                    46 A and E closures.
                    47 Chemotherapy.. when fo you begin?.
                    48 Best hairdresser…..
                    49 Makeup…?should men wear it
                    50.Doctors

                    raymond carver_cathedral_cover

                  •  

                     

                  Don’t wear leggings in Iran unless you wear a tunic as well

                   

                  Not having been in places where I might see these clothes I have understood Iran’s problems… where would it end if their women dressed like we do.I am afraid I am very practical and dress for warmth,comfort and colour… besides with my figure I might frighten a donkey especially in the dress.They do say a little black dress is always useful… but this one barely qualifies… might make a good duster!
                  2c6b923bf7eb95fe75abca5f294096a1Sexy-Panther-Print-Women-Tight-Leggings-Lady-Graffiti-Panty-Girdle-Leopard-Grain-Pattern-Pants-DL775http://www.al-monitor.com/pulse/originals/2014/06/iran-parliament-debates-womens-leggings.html#
                  Ethnic-Route-Kurti-with-Leggings-2013-14-Suits-For-Women-6
                  I like this outfit.. very chic and colourful.Yes,nice

                  It’s obvious which look alright.. indeed very attractive.

                  When could one wear the others

                  1. Going to buy fruit in the market.
                  2.Going to school.
                  3.To a party.
                  4.Going to a wedding.
                  Muslim ladies wear trousers for coverage but the parliament in Iran has just realised trousers/leggings can be more revealing then dresses and skirt unless we wear a tunic dress on top.
                  5.working in a house of ill repute or brothel.
                  6.Auditioning for King Lear or Macbeth.
                  7 House cleaning.
                  8 Giving a lecture on topology.
                  9.Going ice skating.
                  10 Entertaining at home.
                  11 Frightening men off.
                  12 Visiting a match makers bureau.

                  815661135_137
                  A stunning design a la Nigella with extra spice.This is power dressing if you have the right figure… not that his Lordship would mind even if I did wear it at my current large size… it might serve as a vest or camisole under my other clothes…
                  Even Mary and Annie would not go out in this.. and Emile will wonder why the lady in it has not enough cash to buy a proper dress…
                  Not to be worn at a Wedding or Baptism but ok for shopping in Lidl’s.I myself would not be seen dead in it in case it frightened the Vicar.
                  Don’t wear this if you work in an office… nor in the street trimming the hedge.
                  There are some very odd clothes being advertised….Make your own by sewing a few dusters together.

                  Love thy neighbours then choose one

                   

                  6429586_72f5d1321d_m

                  My mother was a lady of skilful wealth
                  She used to shop in Harrod’s,right from the shelf
                  She stole China tea as it’s good for the health
                  Mother had a most peculiar sense of self.

                  She liked to study the far stars and moon,
                  So many dark nights were spent in gloom
                  Yet for her husband it was a sort of boon,
                  As her presence spread a feeling of deepest doom.

                  She ran away one day with cunning stealth
                  Society blamed her diminished sense of self
                  She’d met a young man whom she called Ralph.
                  Who gave her many children of whom I’m the twelfth.

                  So,remember, the moral of my tale is none.
                  Love thy neighbours,then choose one.
                  He’ll give you some daughters and some sons
                  Hence providing happiness for everyone.

                  Completely finished…

                  If you feel glum read this now.:)

                  huttriverofnz's avatarPeters Place

                  Humour for the weekend:

                  ;)No dictionary has ever been able to define the difference between “complete” and “finished.” However, in a linguistic conference, held in London England, and attended by some of the best linguistics in the world, Samsundar Balgobin, a Guyanese was the clever winner.

                  His final challenge was this. Some say there is no difference between “complete” and “finished.” Please explain the difference in a way that is easy to understand.

                  His response was:
                  When you marry the right woman, you are “complete.” If you marry the wrong woman, you are “finished.” And, when the right one catches you with the wrong one, you are “completely finished.”

                  His answer received a five minute standing ovation.

                  View original post

                  Every garden has its song

                  P1000080

                  Every garden has a song,

                  a song beyond all words.

                  sit in silence there to hear

                  cheeps from distant birds.

                  Every garden has its silence,

                  special to that place

                  stand beneath the maple tree,

                  gaze up the crown’s wide space.

                  Every garden’s  part of all,

                  linked through heart of earth

                  stand in one, you ‘re inside all,

                  your spirit takes new birth,

                  Every garden can’t  but sing,

                  green  has such great charm,

                   finds lost  Eden,long ago

                  And Eve fills Adam’s arms.

                  No fact or reason here.. just disorder

                  I can’t get married because I have an irritable boundary.
                  I also have newly mowed arthritis.
                  My eyes are cross mostly.
                  I have severe chronic metal fatigue.
                  I can’t spell eether.
                  Don’t propose rudeness as I have an irritable reaching after tact.
                  If I am engaged please go next door and make free with any one you fancy.
                  I have had panic ,manic and antibiotic attacks.
                  The doctor said I had new mown hay here ahaaaaa last week.Men!
                  My boundary is a of a new type… it’s armed  and has a elastic aerodrome on a string.

                  If I go

                  If I go I won’t tell you.
                  I’ll just disappear one day.
                  Like when a cigarette ,which seemed so long,
                  suddenly has become smaller
                  and you never noticed it
                  because you were talking
                  about the meaning of life
                  while life was somewhere else
                  blown away with your smoke
                  into the sky
                  and then dispersed
                  never quite visible again
                  but still floating on the breeze
                  hoping to be caught
                  in a butterfly net
                  but unable to communicate
                  except by flying.
                  If I go it will not be today
                  but it will be an ordinary day
                  no one will realise
                  that it’s that day
                  that the bird flies
                  from her nest
                  to go to a new place
                  only seeing the deserted nest
                  he realises,
                  my bird has flown

                  Emile has a latte and Stan admires the ladies

                  1623649_462342500565550_503050456_n

                  What shall we do for  him ? Mary asked Stan.
                  Well,we can’t ring 999 from here,surely? he replied plaintively.
                  Mary took off her silk scarf and wrapped Emile  up in it.
                  There you are,that will calm you,she told the nervous cat in her soft voice
                  Next time we’ll get decaf for you.
                  Thank you,Emile mioawed.I liked it but it’s very strong.
                  Stan went inside to pay and found it was £3 per mug…making £9 in total.
                  Gosh,it’s expensive now,he grumbled.The waiter looked puzzled as he did not recall a time when a cup of tea was 6d and coffee 1 shilling..
                  Why,I am getting old and tetchy,Stan murmured to himself.
                  We don’t do it often.Mary said in a warm, kind  and tender voice,something she had more or less permanently.
                  We enjoy a treat now and then…. and I’ve enjoyed watching people go by.Such a variety now from all over the world.
                  So did I ,thought Stan,especially the girl with leggings of about 20 denier and a very short top.He’d not seen so much of a woman’s private parts for ages.The fact that the leggings were light grey had made it even more of a thrill;even a sin,maybe,to a Catholic or Jansenist…
                  But can a man help it if he is excited by the sight and site of what was once reserved for marriage  bed or the brothel.
                  No,a man cannot help it because we are all animals,we are all flesh and as such we have certain automatic reactions….And in any case even with long dresses on women still look alluring,perhaps more alluring.
                  Stan fell into a day dream were young ladies were walking about wearing short satin nightgowns and lace peignoirs of silk with gold embroidery….
                  Very nice! he shouted loudly.
                  What is very nice? Mary asked
                  Stan opened his eyes and found he was still outside the Cafe de la Fromage… where are we,he said.

                  IMG_0251
                  Why we are here in Knittingham to  get your shoes in Hotters.
                  What a funny name for a shoe shop,said Emile.
                  Is it because shoes make you hotter? I’d like some red shoes,myself.
                  I fear we can’t afford shoes for you Emile and you’d not be able to climb a tree then either.
                  I could have slippers for in the house,Emile whispered..
                  They set off and arrived in Hotters.
                  Yes,madam.What do you want,asked an elegant  lady assistant.
                  Some slippers for the cat!
                  For the cat? Are you barking?
                  No,that’s a dog.
                  Emile had found some baby shoes and was trying them on.
                  Look ,he howled,and all the customers stared at him as he ran up and down the shop floor in them.
                  OK,said Mary,Two pairs please.
                  That will be £50,dearie.
                  Oh,I’ll pay with my debit card.
                  They left the shop and headed for the bus stop before Mary realised
                  They had forgotten to buy Stan’s shoes.

                  Arm 4
                  Stan didn’t really mind and it meant he could see more female bottoms again the net day.
                  Suppose men wore leggings,he mused.Would women like to see our private parts while shopping in Tesco’s or Lidl’s?
                  Time will tell… but ,it seems unlikely to happen here in the UK as men are more conservative ,though we do see men in bathing trunks walking down the road in summertime and alas,they are usually not the ones with the right shaped bodies not to mention that few of us want bare chests  and other body parts pressing closely behind us in the queue to pay for our food and drink and other goods in the supermarket… and they are not very super nowadays.

                  Thinking of you gaily

                  Photo0205

                   

                  Thinking of you gaily,Annette.
                  Missing you like the cat’s claws.Peter.
                  Do not prebake me,oh,my darling.Joe
                  I shall forsake all mothers for you,John.
                  With all my tart,I shall feed you merrily.Mary.
                  I’ll never regret you,Pip.
                  Please deport me or let me flee.,Joe.
                  Your memory will just be a dessert for me,Lynne.
                  I always wanted a new bed rover,Jane.
                  What a mistress, what a swing.Jude.
                  With my body,i flee worship,Cate.
                  I never desired any lover less than you.It was hard both coming and going,Eve.
                  Never invite me to share your dread again.Anita
                  Please pre-decease me or I shall go,Adam.
                  Nobody we grow will love me quite like you,Eliza.
                  How are flings with you these days?Simon
                  I took you to be my awful,dreaded husband.I beg your jargon.Chris.
                  With all my worldly grubs,I thee endow.also my rods and tackle,Jim
                  Come from the heartache to me,Tom
                  Loosen up and be fickle in the moonlight.Charles.
                  I only wanted bliss from you,Was it too rich to detect/?Eve
                  There’ll be blue words over,the ravines round Dover,Kitty.

                  Letter litter

                  Longing to see you or any man with wits and a good appetite,Maria.
                  Hoping for a response to my email before the end of the world,Phil.
                  With my tested bad wishes,Anne.
                  I guarantee you will enjoy me if not yourself,Wendy.
                  I can’t speak yet but my IQ is 139 in the evening and 189 in the morning.. are you interested in statistics? I think of nothing constantly,Edwina.
                  For my desert island book I choose the Stanford Guide to Poetics as it is heavy enough to kill a bird..what do you think of us as a couple of nitwits? Jane.
                  I regret to inform you we have to split as I have become a lesbian over night… I had a dream,Christie.
                  Will you meet me in the lodge or shall we drown in those ghostly waves?Bill.
                  Please don’t write a poem as rhymes often cause offence.. and free verse causes havoc in the mind.. mine,that is,Tommy.
                  If you want to talk please phone somebody,your dear husband Ronnie.
                  If you are angry,please go out and find another woman.Goodbye,Dorothy.
                  I never trusted a man before i met you.And I should have stayed that way. but I went mad. yours icily,Tonia.
                  Why read a dictionary in bed with me?Are you lacking in word power or man power or just crazy? Your wife.
                  I know you have no feelings but can’t you take degree in acting? Your ex-lover.Jim
                  Why not just tell me the truth:there is no truth? Yours Enid.
                  I hate you now but I’m sure it will fade gradually as time goes by,Mia.
                  Why did you never eat meat on Sundays,bread on Mondays and leather on Tuesdays.. is it a new religion or just madness?love Minette.
                  Isn’t life overorganic? Ron.
                  God is not a thing,so the priest said… so he needs no dusting or polishing.. in fact he is completely invisible nowadays,Guthrie.
                  My analyst is so boring he’s like a dead fish;can I talk to you? Warmly Miriam.
                  I am feeling over mixed as I fell into the Kenwood Family sized cake makr by chance..I was drunk.Angela…do not bake me tonight.Thank you

                  Jingting Shan Hill (after Li Po)

                  Beautiful

                  robert okaji's avatarO at the Edges

                  file9251265082101(1)

                  Jingting Shan Hill (after Li Po)

                  Distant birds flying high
                  the lonely cloud and I drift
                  watching each other without end
                  until only the hill remains.

                  As always, I question my choices. Chinese-Poems.com offered this transliteration of Li Po’s timeless poem:

                  Crowd birds high fly utmost
                  Lonely cloud alone go idle
                  Mutual watch both not tire
                  Only be Jingting Shan

                  How to capture the concept of idleness and the meditative quality of the last line (not to mention the piece as a whole)? Ah, decisions, decisions…

                  Confession: The last line confounded me, so I set the poem aside for a couple of months. Just yesterday I pulled it out and immediately knew what to do. The power of patience…

                  file000897111473

                  View original post

                  Only the stillness

                  .

                  With what ceremonial geometry
                  Could I describe the sympathy of the parts to the whole?
                  What self can contain the feelings engendered by
                  the response of the heart of the tree. and my heart,
                  to the space and light offered
                  and how the clouds float away on the wind
                  as I stand ,hand on my throat, gazing;
                  and the new moon points me out to the sky.

                  What laughter is there in this moment of dancing?
                  We see only the stillness
                  but know while we are turned away
                  a young girl and an old woman murmur together
                  as one passes the movement to the other.
                  Caught in the camera, in a moment of rest,
                  the tree obeys the law of gravity
                  before levity arises at the moment we turn away
                  and the dance goes on and the tree is alive with inner movement

                  E-nailed with flowers

                  photo02251 photo1357

                   

                   

                  From stan.tan@tandem.com To Mary@tandem.com

                  Hi Mary,I recollected you are my wife.I do not require a wife who is interested in philosophy but as you are so perfect in all other ways,I guess I can’t throw you over yet.Besides I am 99 next week and probably senile.So just ignore my rude jokes and stupid answers From your adoring husband Stan .. as to what I adore,let’s keep it a secret.

                  Reply to senderphoto17081 photo1352 photo1346

                  Hi Stan,I can’t remember why the hell I married you as you are the opposite of all i need and desire.Would you mind if my boyfriend moves in.He is doing a D,Phil on Wittgenstein and food so it could be quite stimulating at dinner time.Not that Wittgenstein ate much but Tom had to find a new angle,as it were,on the great man…I also wondered of he could bring in Lacan but as I find him so implacably  hostile to understanding i have refused the thoughts.As you and i no longer share a bed,you won’t even notice Tom is with me.. I hope not as men can be very jealous even if they don’t want their wife,they don’t want another man to enjoy her sumptuous appeal.as it were,in a manner of speaking.you get my drift.Well,to cut a long story short i slept with Tom and he smells good…so he;s coming to stay for the weekend.I hope you have done the baking

                  The Conference is the most boring I’ve ever endured on numbers.Irregular,regular,passive,impassive,neutral,live, it’s not mathematics as I have known it before,more like a tabloid newspaper.Still, it’s probably some post modern slant.. wonder what comes after postmodern… Prefuture? Premature,Pre stupid…

                  i wonder if I can continue.Please pump  up my tyres and clean the computer and I’ll see you Friday as per norm,therm an derm

                  A hug from your devoted wife,Mary

                  Email manners and Stan

                  abstract war on terror

                  From mary.tandem@gmail.con

                  Hi Stan I have told you all about what I’ve been up to at this Conference on Irregular Numbers,I thought you might like this article on Structuralism I attach to the email along with a photo of Wittgenstein in bed eating a meringue with a cake fork
                  Love,Mary [your wife]

                  From stan.tandem@ymail.comb
                  How delightful to know you are thinking of me today and thank you for taking the time to write to me when you are so very busy.I am also busy right now with the baking but I shall put it somewhere safe and take a look later; however,as I have said before,Structuralism is not something that I have found interesting.. it may even be a very bad destructive development of modern thinking.Since I value your judgment I shall at least read the beginning in case it is presented in a better form than I have seen before….
                  I care for you,love you.So despite my prejudice I shall not ignore your offering if only to keep you happy
                  Oh,For God’s sake,let’s top this stupid game and be honest
                  It’s just crap…and I wonder why you bother with it.Still we can’t all be geniuses l so I suppose I ought to be more patient with you as you have such a sweet smile and singularly
                  lovely eyes and will do anything I want more or less except sending me photos of yourself in silk lingerie lying on a bed holding a rose between your teeth I am sick of intellectual discussions and wish only to kiss your hands and feet both at once and lick your lips for you and then fall into bed
                  Who did you say you were?Your tone sounds over familiar

                  Ever yours,Stan the man

                  I’ll put you in my pocket

                  English: The National Champion Black Walnut (J...
                  English: The National Champion Black Walnut (Juglans nigra) on Sauvie Island, Oregon. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

                  I love you like I’d love a black walnut.
                  You’re so rare I can’t eat you.
                  I’ll put you in my pocket
                  and take you with me
                  when I go in town
                  I’ll feel your crinkles and your wrinkles,
                  But nobody will know.

                  I love you like I’d love a comice pear.
                  I’ll put you in a golden bowl.
                  I’ll let the sun shine on you,
                  Till you are ripe.
                  I’ll put you in my bag,
                  Take you to a meadow of buttercups
                  And devour you.
                  And nobody will know.

                  I love you like I’d love a flower.
                  I’ll give you my best vase.
                  I’ll stand it in the window.
                  Then I’ll look at you all day
                  With my peripheral and my central vision,
                  Till your pattern is embedded in my brain.
                  I’ll sleep well and dream of you all night.
                  I’ll wake up and remember it all.

                  And nobody will know.